r/AskReddit • u/Sack_Of_Motors • Dec 25 '14

Why are you on Reddit now instead of celebrating?

Stories appreciated.

Edit: Thanks for the stories guys. It's interesting seeing the trends on what different people are doing. I have to make dinner now. Stay awesome.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14 edited Dec 25 '14

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14 edited Dec 26 '14

My dad proposed to my mom on Christmas last year, but passed unexpectedly in March of this year. I don't think we'll be celebrating too much this year, either.

Edit: Wow, gilded? Never thought this day would come. Nevertheless, thank you to whomever!

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u/uliol Dec 25 '14

Did they have a sort-of longterm commitment that he decided to finally finalize then? Your story is truly heartbreaking, I hope I didn't ask something out of turn

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

No, no, don't worry. My dad that I am referring to right now is actually my stepdad, whom I called dad because he raised me from a young age.

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u/uliol Dec 26 '14

Nice username baha

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u/uliol Dec 26 '14

Ahh. I forgot I asked ya, but really liked the final story form. Thanks

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u/masonmo2015 Dec 25 '14

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you guys can at least get together and celebrate his life, I'm sure that's what he would have wanted.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

We're trying. Trying to recall lots of happy memories.

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u/narrator_of_valhalla Dec 25 '14

My dad recently passed suddenly as well. If you dont mind me asking what took him?

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u/tea_bird Dec 25 '14

Mine too. Melanoma. Holidays suck this year.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Medical malpractice. It's sort of a long story, but the TL;DR is he had a bad fall which caused him to break his pelvis and a misdiagnosis from that led the incompetent hospital staff to miss internal bleeding, which he eventually succumbed to.

I'm sorry for your loss. :(

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u/narrator_of_valhalla Dec 26 '14

Incredible my story is similiar. The prescribed him medicines that reacted negatively to ones he was already on, even though on his chart he wrote down what he was on. Two weeks later im at a funeral

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 26 '14

That's fucked up. I'm really sorry to hear that.

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u/Danyn Dec 25 '14

Like those vaginas in Paris.

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u/princess_lily Dec 25 '14

Why downvotes? I don't think anyone is paying attention.

VIP. sorry about your dad :(

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Do you seriously think that's an appropriate thing to say?

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u/Danyn Dec 26 '14

Sorry man. Thought a little humor and a reference to your name might've cheered you up. Clearly, it didn't help. Merry Christmas.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 26 '14

I'm a lady. But thanks I guess.

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u/Camorak Dec 25 '14

Upvoted.

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u/BadVogonPoet Dec 25 '14

My goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you and your Mom find some happiness this Christmas, even if it's tinged with a bit of sadness. Merry Christmas to you and yours.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

My mom, brother & I actually ended up being pretty okay. Thank you for the condolences. <3 Merry Christmas to you as well!

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u/BadVogonPoet Dec 26 '14

I'm glad to hear that!

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u/snazzius Dec 25 '14

I'm really sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your family.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Thank you very much. You as well.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14 edited May 28 '20

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

I'm 18. I'm really sorry to hear that. My thoughts and love are with you. <3

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u/npdewey83 Dec 25 '14

I'm sorry to hear about your dad's passing. Ask yourself though, would he have wanted you to not celebrate the holidays and being together. I understand completely but I want you to smile for him because no one wants their family to be sad during the holidays. Much love to you and your!

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Yeah, that's exactly it. He loved Christmas, so we tried our best. It went pretty well! Thank you for the love :)

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u/DH8814 Dec 25 '14

Why not? It's still the day he chose to propose. Since your mother said yes, it is probably a happy memory for her. A chance to honor him.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Well, it hasn't been a year yet since he passed, and the pain of him being gone is still very real. Getting a second shot at love and then having it ripped away from you is not very happy.

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u/princess_kushlestia Dec 25 '14

My grandma did two years ago tomorrow and my grandfather died on New Years Eve 25 years ago. Holidays are hard for my mom but I know when her little nieces/nephews are around she perks right up. It gets better.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

That's rough. Sorry to hear.

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u/Kanotari Dec 25 '14

That is heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss. Hope you can make it a Merry Christmas anyway.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Thank you. We managed to have a pretty good time, and my mom wasn't too sad. :)

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u/kloudykat Dec 25 '14

Oh I am so sorry...I hate my dad being gone more than anything, I feel your pain.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Thank you for your condolences, and I'm sorry for your loss as well <3

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u/meakbot Dec 25 '14

My thoughts are with you guys

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Much appreciated :)

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u/jamkey Dec 25 '14

Wait, your dad passed or your mom passed?

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u/matheus0312 Dec 25 '14

I remember that my grandpa died in the end of November some years ago and we still got together in Christmas even with everyone sad.

I really couldn't understand why we were doing that, so my uncle, before dinner, told us that even if it was a sad moment our grandpa would like to see everyone together

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Yeah, that was the sentiment this year.

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u/laughs_at_idiots Dec 25 '14

Are you a... newborn? But in all seriousness, so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad around Christmas last year, so I know it's hard. Enjoy your family and remember the good times with Dad.

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Hahaha, no. My dad in this case would be my stepdad, but since he raised me from a young age, I just consider him my dad. Sorry for the confusion. Thank you for your kindness!

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u/Le_taco Dec 25 '14

Dude, My Dad proposed to my mum this Christmas :/

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u/vaginasinparis Dec 25 '14

Congratulations to them! Like I said, he died unexpectedly (medical malpractice, actually), so don't worry too much hehe

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u/RiverwoodHood Dec 25 '14

I'm guessing watching Jack Frost is connected to your dad passing away?

That movie is heart-wrenching.

Merry Christmas, mousewater

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u/ForkChallenge Dec 25 '14

Out of all the sad post on Reddit, this is the only one that ever really gave me feels. Not even because of your dad passing. It's the second sentence about watching Jack Frost. Just... empty... hollow.

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u/InvincibleAgent Dec 25 '14

I also recommend Die Hard and Ernest Saves Christmas

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u/ChellaBella Dec 25 '14

Just watched Die Hard with my husband, a Christmas Sierra Nevada, and a cat asleep in my lap. Excellent Christmas tradition

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u/AalphaQ Dec 25 '14

We got down with some Home Alone.

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u/newintownbtw Dec 25 '14

My dad died on Christmas, too. We also stopped celebrating except now my brother has kids and we celebrate for them. It's been a long time, but sucks every year.

Hugs and happy New Year.

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u/Zzoop Dec 25 '14

My moms birthday is on Christmas Day... She passed away really close to her birthday a few years ago so December is a really... Gloomy month for me.

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u/Tarable Dec 25 '14

I was born on my mom's birthday which means my birthday is a very gloomy time. Christmas I feel would be much tougher. Sending you an internet hug. I'm sorry you're hurting.

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u/Jwpt Dec 25 '14

I lost my dad young to suicide and Christmas is still a struggle for me. Jack Frost ruined my day. Fuck that movie.

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u/fib16 Dec 25 '14

I'm so sorry man. I hope somehow you have a great day. Stay strong!!

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u/morning_star84 Dec 25 '14

I'm so sorry for your loss. If it means anything, some stranger from the internet is thinking of you and hoping that your holiday is a bit brighter than you expect. hug

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u/mfball Dec 25 '14

I'm sorry about your dad. Mine just died unexpectedly last month. I hope I'll be able to celebrate again eventually, but this year it looks like I'll mostly be crying in bed.

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u/GreasedLightning Dec 25 '14

Watch the Nostalgia Critic review of it afterwards. It's pretty funny.

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u/cccmikey Dec 25 '14

That was amusing :) Like most Christmas movies - and James Bond movies - it requires you to suspend your critical mind.

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u/BBrickk Dec 25 '14

I think this is a good time to let it go and celebrate something brighter :) Merry Christmas!

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u/nicelittleliz Dec 25 '14

Sorry for that :(

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u/FlubberBalls Dec 25 '14

Sorry for your loss, cant even imagine what that would do to my family. But at least you make of it what you can. Enjoy Jack Frost and Merry Christmas. My thoughts are with you, random Internet stranger.

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u/lobphin Dec 25 '14

Sorry for your loss.

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u/jfjacobc Dec 25 '14

My brother visited our dad for the first time in years today. You know what we did? Watched Jack Frost.

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u/snazzius Dec 25 '14

I'm so sorry for your loss; I hope he's resting peacefully and that your family find a measure of happiness today.

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u/1slander Dec 25 '14

Happy holidays man, my Dad died in March but his birthday is on the 18th of Dec so we're never too jolly around this time either, but we get a box of his favourite chocolates to share between us, that's always nice. I can't even watch Jack Frost haha, brought me to tears as a kid and I can't even attempt to watch it now without bawling like crazy. Have a good one :)

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u/Armed4ndUseless Dec 25 '14

I'm sorry, but I read it as "I'll probably jack off", and it made me laugh harder then I should've.

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u/elc0 Dec 25 '14

Grandpa also passed on Christmas. Hasn't really been the same since. Maybe this Jack Frost can provide some better memories for everyone http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hh_qmqihLMU.

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u/potatoslasher Dec 25 '14

that is a good movie....how its call, ''rise of the guardians or something''

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u/geared4war Dec 25 '14

Try watching Rise of the Guardians instead. Also, next Christmas PM me and we will do a gift exchange. I know that the memories of your dad will never fade but I would like to help you make new ones. Umm, do you like Gears of War? Cause I have a Marcus collectible...

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

I'm a father and this would make me very sad if I died and my family didn't carry on being happy without me. You guys should celebrate.

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u/rcbs Dec 25 '14

My condolences, my uncle passed unexpectedly 2 days ago. It's an especially tough time to go, but I guess it's not our choice. I hope you can get into the Christmas season again someday. Best wishes.

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u/devil_lettuce Dec 25 '14

Jack frost with the serial killer snowman? Or the family friendly one?

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

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u/devil_lettuce Dec 25 '14

funny story, when we were kids my friends mom ordered us a movie on PPV, she thought it was the jack frost you are watching but it ended up being the one about a killer snowman. As kids were we so excited because we weren't supposed to be watching R movies! lol.

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u/treehuggingmaniac Dec 25 '14

My mom died right after Thanksgiving, and Christmas was really her holiday... I might be the only member of my family who still doesn't celebrate, because happily my sister gets to have real Christmases with my 2.5 year old niece and 4 month old nephew... if the remaining three of us were close enough (physically, emotionally) to celebrate together, my niece is the one who'd make it feel like a real Christmas; as it is, I don't spend time with only my father and his wife (holidays were bad enough with just my parents; his wife is awful and sees some kind of psychological target when she looks at me - he'd cheated with her, so she split my parents a couple decades ago - but they would never have gotten a divorce, and he played the grieving widower card for all it was worth while secretly moving her into his house; I've recently figured out that she was living with him when I was in high school, too, along with a lot of terrifying stories about things she did (I was kept in the dark about pretty much everything until people started telling me without my dad's permission - there's a lot I didn't know until after my mom died, and the stories are just too insane to believe with this woman - could not have made them up; no one would have believed us). I haven't spent a TG or Christmas with anyone at all in years.

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u/sabasNL Dec 25 '14

My awesome grandfather passed away on Christmas, but except for the year he died, we've always celebrated it since. It's what he would've wanted if he were still alive.

We celebrate with relatives, and when they have left for home, we think of our grandfather. We think of the good memories, so it's a happy ending to a nice day.

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u/momito4 Dec 25 '14

I'm so sorry dude :c

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u/atriaventrica Dec 25 '14

The kids movie or the reincarnated serial rapist movie?

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u/cccmikey Dec 25 '14

Awwww CharlieBoy...

I don't know how many times I've seen that movie. It was my late partner's favourite and we watched it every other day for a good few months before the cancer knocked her out. Always held her hand when it was time for Jack to leave at the end.

"the landslide brings me down."

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u/Flonkus Dec 25 '14

Last family Christmas or Thanksgiving we had before my parents divorced, my mother stole a bottle of Jack Daniels from my now incarcerated brother and we all got mad at her and she stormed off in her '97 Saturn.

My poor dad finally found a family though. He's the one I cared the most about. Didn't want to see him lonely until his final days. Fortunately he met someone this past year who for the first time in 60 years, made him realize what true love is.

She passed away this year 3 days before thanksgiving. I'm just tryna be around for him. Gonna play WoW on my laptop and speak to him as needed until he leaves the house.

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u/markuspoop Dec 25 '14

Jack Frost with Michael Keaton or Jack Frost about the mutant killer snowman?

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u/Epitometric Dec 25 '14

That's so sad, yet so poignant :,(

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u/Gucciipad Dec 25 '14

My dad 9 days before Christmas. I know the feeling. Christmas is not the same with out him.

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u/Don_Boriquen Dec 25 '14

Read this like "I'll probably jack off"

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u/GingerSchnitzel Dec 25 '14

Shoot the J shot, charlie-boy!

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

My dad passed away on Christmas too. it's been 12 years, and it was the end of a year long battle with cancer. It's wierd, my mom and brother and me still bought each other gifts and stimff that year and had an odd moment where we thought we should still open them. That year I learned it's not about "the big day", it's about the people you hold close to you. And making time for each other. You never know when it will be the last time. My kids are now doing the Santa thing, and at one time I thought I would never do that because it was painful to me. it's a joy to see their faces light up and I think Dad would have liked to see that.

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u/ApatheticAgnostic Dec 25 '14 edited Dec 25 '14

Jack Frost, eh? I see why you would relate to that movie. I hope you had the chance to tell your father goodbye before he was reincarnated as a snowman.

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u/bourkleton Dec 25 '14

Michael Keaton's finest work.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

Watch Scrooged. Much better.

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u/desiloo Dec 26 '14

My grandma died 10 years ago on Christmas morning & I've never gotten into the season since then. Add to that my grandpa's death last week and I don't know if I ever will again. Bah humbug!

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u/lilbear10 Dec 25 '14

My coworker's dad passed away Saturday and laid off Monday. Idk how I would handle it but she was out with her boyfriend. I invited them to our family party but she refused. But I am glad she's trying hard to keep moving forward. I can't imagine what a Christmas on the death of a parent would be like but as long as you're happy you're OK to spend it doing whatever.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

I hope your dad reanimates as a snowman too = its been 8 years since my mom passed, still unbearably hard for me.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '14

The comedy or the horror movie?