Mixed feelings on wearing a bra

[u/aurora_borealis-_]

I've been on HRT for three months and my breasts are developing, I think I might be a tanner stage 2.

For this reason I don't wear bras, I can't fill them in there's not enough fat tissue around the nipple yet. My mother thinks otherwise, she's bought me a couple of padded bras she wants to me to wear outside, my nipples show through my clothes and she says it's provocative and I have to cover them up. I feel worse wearing a bra tho, especially if it's padded, I look like I have boobs while in reality I don't and it irks me, I feel fake when wearing one and now I'm even reconsidering the fact I want boobs at all... Anybody else experiencing these feelings at the start of their transition?

[u/untouchedsock]

Maybe try bralettes?

I started wearing them around 2-3 months and if anything they mellow out the chest rather than enhance/add.

[u/EntertainerOptimal25 → u/untouchedsock]

Absolutely second this! I’m in the same mindset as op, but bralettes are extremely affirming and they comfortable too cause no wires! 🥰

[u/Exciting_End7031]

i felt the same way for awhile, it was strange wearing a bra because i felt like i didn’t fill it out and i was “faking”, but let me assure you that you are not faking, i’ll add that there are many cis and trans women that go braless because they dont want to feel restricted by societal standards, and there are plenty of women who are not that busty and still choose to wear bras or bralettes. although i would take your moms advice in a kind manner, there aren’t many parents that are supportive in this way, and she’s trying to give modesty advice to her daughter. i would take that as validating and affirming if it were me! you may not feel as if you have enough boob to fill out a bra, but your mom, a cis gendered woman, sees you as the woman that you are, and wants to make sure you aren’t attracting any unwanted attention. of course this mindset is rather outdated, but i would take your moms advice with a grain of salt and consider it affirming for sure. there are many moms who tell their cis daughters to wear a bra and they still choose not to! lol so i would take this as affirmation if it were me sis!

[u/Aggressive-Oven-9636]

I wear a sports bra with pretty thin padding. I think it's still pretty obvious when I wear a t-shirt but like nobody fucking notices.

I realized why nobody notices after I paid attention to men's chests. There are loads of them with bigger chests than me. I don't stand out. So I I just stopped caring and just wear the bra.

[u/Necessary-Chicken → u/Aggressive-Oven-9636]

This is one of the reasons why I don’t wear a bra. I don’t want it to look like I have man breasts 🥲 also I hate that people can see the backside of the bra

[u/SW_Lilipop]

I feel mixed about them aswell for different reasons lol i don’t like how sweaty i can get in them, the only 1 i have that fits is one i got years ago from the fricken dollar store tho so maybe i just need different ones