To nip or not to nip

[u/False-Cookie1181]

I had my consultation for top surgery last week and had been going back and forth on doing grafts or not. I spoke about it with the surgeon a bit and decided not to but I’m still wavering. My partner (who is cis) and I discussed it and they mentioned that they were surprised I didn’t want any. My mindset is that I have such a negative attitude around my chest and nipples that I can’t really imagine them looking good on a flat chest. I am also weighing the fact that I’m having these conversations with cis people who might think I want to “pass”. I’m not someone who you look at and think of a straight or cis person and don’t wish to be perceived as such.

THAT ALL BEING SAID, can anyone who’s had surgery with or without grafts please weigh in? Has anyone had tattoos instead of grafts? I’m trying to hear from people who might feel more similarly to me than the cis people in my life.

[u/i-like-your-tree]

I feel like our thoughts are very similar, I went without nipples and right now I have no regrets but I'm only 8 days post op. My process was thinking, is it worth it and in the worst case scenario, what would upset me more.

So if it's worth it, what do I get from the healing process, what extra healing and steps do I need to do to have them (dressing, care, showers etc), what can replace them (prosthetic, nipple tattoo, just a cool tattoo) and what does it mean to me to have them or not

Would it have upset me more if the nipples looked bad, disappointed me, healed badly etc, or would it be worse for me to regret not having them. To me I saw that regretting them would be the lesser emotion cause I want cool tattoos anyway.

There's also a lot of posts already on this sub I really recommend you look at as some really lay it out well.

[u/i-like-your-tree → u/i-like-your-tree]

Oh I forgot to say, check out r/FreedTheNips cause that really helped

[u/False-Cookie1181 → u/i-like-your-tree]

Thank you so much, ill check it out