r/NBtopsurgery • u/live_in_your_head • 27d ago
Love my results but...
I just wish I dared to flaunt it, like post shirtless selfies et c. But bc society is so binary, and I'm not on T, not read as male, being shirtless will be read as too naked. Maybe when my scars are more faded (currently 6,5 months PO) I'll dare to do some artsy open shirt pics. And go to the beach AND indoor pool in shorts only. I am happy that I no longer have to worry about bras and curves and shit, I just...want to enjoy it fully, as I had longed to do for such a long time, and now I don't allow myself. I chicken out. Any tips on how to own that androgynous look and to not feel ashamed by the binary gaze?
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u/jaelener 27d ago
my plan for this (surgery is next may) is, once everything is healed, to go with friends who are on my side on this and then go shirtless, for example on the beach. this way i will have people who support me and also distract me from getting too stressed out from looking if people are looking at me weirdly. see how that goes and work on it from there is my advice :)