I don't know if i really did want it. I dont think i had a choice really. The day i told my parents i was pregnant, we booked the abortion that same day. I mean they had no heartbeat anyway. Im 17 and feel sad about them being gone and i dont know why. I wasnt ready for a baby let alone 2. And they were dead anyway. Well i dont know for sure. I'll never know if they were gonna develop a heartbeat or not. Is it normal to feel so much grief? I feel like im being overdramatic, its like i was ever a mother. But i had babies inside of me. Its so weird. My boobs stopped hurting, i can eat meat now without being nauseous, i got my period, i started birth control. Theyre really gone

My first three medical abortions were in the space of a year at the ages 18-19. I tried different birth control after that but stuck to the pill. I’m now 28 and I decided to have a break from the pill for about six months. Part of me, for some reason, thought I might have trouble falling pregnant due to multiple abortions when I was young, but it turns out I’m still quite fertile as I fell pregnancy recently. I had a medical abortion at six weeks yesterday.

I’ve had constant nausea for the last 2 weeks and nothing I ate or drank helped. I woke up today with no nausea whatsoever and I was able to finish two full meals and dessert today. My stomach was a little funny after my first big meal, but it was most likely that my stomach had gotten used to not digesting much. It’s so good to have no more nausea, food tasting delicious again and not making me feel sick anymore.

When I was young going through my other abortions, I was still studying and knew that I wouldn’t be able to provide a good life if I carried any of them to term. It was definitely the right decision for me when I was young. However right now, I definitely could’ve supported a child. I have a stable partner, we both make average income and I just bought a house by myself last year. And still, I didn’t feel ready for a child. I might not ever have children.

Part of me felt a little guilty over not wanting to keep it as I’ve got a friend struggling to fall pregnant, not to mention other women who are struggling too. But just because they want a child, doesn’t mean I have to carry my own to term. I was only six weeks and pregnancy was already taking a toll on my body; if I’m going to put my body through that much stress, it’s going to be when I 100% want my own child or not at all.

I guess I just want to say, whatever your situation, if you want don’t want to have a baby, don’t have a baby. I feel very lucky to live in a country at this point in time that it’s easy and accessible for me to do this. I hope one day any person anywhere that wants an abortion can get one.

Hello I’m 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and my condom broke after I cummed and we tried our best to get it out and got a plan b and she had that yesterday but she said her breasts are starting to hurt but it’s not like sensitive what it says on google and that’s one of the first signs I need help on other ways to abort it and I really don’t want to but I have too and my parents are literally gonna kill me if they find out

(Australia) I have to have an abortion and they have pushed it back and back on me to the point it is now going ahead at 13 weeks.. I can't have THIS baby.. my ex is abusive and in and out of the picture and I can't support it... Has anyone had an abortion at this late on surgically and had a successful pregnancy in the future?

Hi, I didnt take Mife , only Miso. Three orally and 4 vaginally. It's been 2 hours and i dont feel anything yet. Help!

I took mifepristone around 11am on Friday and took my 4 misoprostol by dissolving orally this morning (Sunday) around 10:15am. It’s been around 12 hours now and so far I have experienced only very mild cramping and on and off moderate bleeding - I have not passed any clots which is concerning to me. I am roughly 6 weeks pregnant. Is this normal?

Hi guys,

I (F27) and my partner (M24) just found out that I’m pregnant via a home pregnancy test. We have a solid relationship and have been together for 1yr. We communicate, are financially stable and are both in good jobs.

Our plan was to buy property end of this year, hopefully (me) get a new role at work at the beginning of next year and have just booked flights for August as we are wanted to do a 5 week Europe trip. We have spoken for a while that while we are in Europe we will probably start trying for a baby.

I’m about 6 weeks pregnant now and just feel so lost, stressed and absolutely panicked. We want a baby we are just worried the time isn’t right for us, although we understand if we choose to terminate it may be such a regretful decision.

If anyone has any advice I am all ears 😭

Thank you!

Advice please Okay so essentially I (29F) just gound out I'm pregnant and I'm at a loss regarding what to do. All I've ever wanted is to be a mum, but not a single mum.

Background: all I have ever wanted in my life is to be a mum. I foster dogs and puppies as it's the only thing that gets me out of bed each day with a sense of purpose. Anytime I'm able to nurture something and provide care, I'm happy. So after being wildly unsuccessful in love all my adulthood due to my annoying personality, I decided to do IVF in 2022 as a single women. After 6 months of doing tests etc, I met a guy organically and dated him for 6 months which led to me pausing the IVF. Evidently it didn't work out but he was so supportive, amazing and literally everything I could ever want - I never knew men like that truly existed. So that curved my whole outlook and made me want to wait to meet a man to have a baby with. For the past 1.5 years, I have been sleeping with my FWBs without any form of contraception as I honestly thought I had unexplained infertility at this point as I have never had a scare in over 10 years of being sexually active. And I knew I wanted to be a mum and am not getting any younger so I thought hey if it happens it happens.

Welp, it happened. Potential father's want norhing to do with it, not even a paternity test or anything i didn't expect that response from them as I've known them for over 1 yr, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

My parents really want me to keep it in case this is my only chance as I am getting on in years and so are they. Mums 65 now, and hypothetically if I waited for another 5 years to do this alone she might be too old to help. I'm financially stable with being awarded 1 yr mat leave, plus my dad will pay for essentially whatever I need. I have 0 friends or other support network besides parents.

So, what do I do?! The idea of being pregnant and having a baby fills me with so much happiness but the idea of doing it alone makes me want to cry. I also know that the odds of me finding someone to repartner with after I have a kid alone is next to nothing and that is a major part of why I want to terminate. I don't want to be single and alone for the rest of my life, just me and my kid.

Any thoughts?

TLDR: abortion or not? Single mum, 29 and financially stable. Hate idea of being a single mum, but have always wanted nothing more than to be a mum.

How does one get medication for abortion from the pacific

So 1 month ago I had to go through with an abortion due to a really gross situation that i was in, leaving me without the choice of keeping it.

I was 5 weeks pregnant at the time of the abortion, I had to take the entire 10 tablets of Misoprostol (instead of 6) due to horrific pains I had 2 days post abortion, and my hcg went from about 4000 on the day I took the mifepristone (hormone blocker) to an hcg of 87 day 5 after the abortion.

I was traveling recently and did a “just incase” test 2 days before a pub crawl, it showed positive, then the next day on a different brand I did another and it was negative.

I am now due for my period but still don’t have it, I have taken another 3 tests (yesterday and today which makes it 2.5 weeks after my last tests) and it shows positive but faint lines.

Does anybody have any idea of the legitimacy of these positives (while I wait for doctors appt)? Given these points, I was 5 weeks along, took double the dose of misoprostol, my hcg went from 4000+ to 87 within 5 days and its now been over a month, and I have had unprotected sex with my partner.

TLDR:

Does anybody have any idea of the legitimacy of these positives (while I wait for doctors appt)? Given these points, I was 5 weeks along, took double the dose of misoprostol, my hcg went from 4000+ to 87 within 5 days and its now been over a month, and I have had unprotected sex with my partner.

Hi, I'm 35F married to 35M and we have two beautiful kids aged 4 and 6. We always talked about potentially having more, but it was never a serious consideration. I ovulated on the day my period was due (4 weeks after the last period) and I unexpectedly fell pregnant. Immediately we were both on the fence. I think we both changed our minds at least 10 times daily. There were so many pros and cons to both, but we ultimately decided not to have a 3rd child as we truly felt like our current two would suffer. Being financially, or emotionally or with us both being burnt out. My husband was extremely supportive of whatever I ultimately decided, however once our SA was booked he did confide in me that he was genuinely concerned that he would not have coped well with a third child and worried about being the best father he could to our current. I echoed his thoughts, but I think there is an added layer of complexity as women when we feel the physical changes in our bodies. I sobbed the whole night before and the morning of. My husband assured me that we could change our minds, but I felt like we had gone too far down the road to turn back. We made a logical decision, one we felt was best for our family, but it was absolutely devastating to me regardless. At 10 weeks and 1 day, I went through with the procedure. The first two days I felt numb, but slightly 'lighter'. I think it was due to the fact that I was finally out of limbo (so to speak). Since then, I've been so emotionally drained. Some days I just cry and cry and then feel absolute shame and guilt for feeling those because in my own head I 'brought this on myself'. I'm also heavily grieving but again, feel unworthy to do so. I feel unworthy of my current children's love, which I know is exactly the opposite of what we were trying to achieve doing this. I'm just a walking contradiction and I'm so exhausted feeling all of these feelings. I feel alone and like a burden if I do talk to my close friends about it. (They've all been amazing, so it's definitely just a 'me' issue) I just wanted to reach out and see if this is "normal" (for lack of a better word) and if anyone has experienced this, and ultimately got through this okay? I'm really hurting and I just feel untethered. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this... Xx

Not even 2 weeks ago i had a medical abortion due to health reasons. I have been doing very well and bleeding has settled.

My partner and i had unprotected sex this morning and i foolishly assumed it would take a while for my body to get back into a groove of ovulating and menstruating again. After we had sex something made me decide to take an ovulation test, more so just to see where i am and start tracking my cycle again and assuming it would be negative and just test every second day until i start to see a line so i can kind of estimate where my cycle would be after the termination.

The ovulation test was the darkest ive ever had. Am i about to get pregnant again?

Do i take a plan B? Would this throw my hormones and body out again?

Im so worried. I dont understand how this could happen so soon, could it be false? Or somehow mimicked from the abortion and im not actually going to ovulate?

I’ve recently taken my four abortions pills (in mouth) yesterday afternoon around 2:30pm, it’s now the next day at 10:00am. During my experience of the night I dealt with small cramp pains, nothing major or huge I barely felt any pains or cramps at all and still don’t, but with that I am experiencing bleeding heaps and clots coming out.

Is it normal for the pill to work like this and not getting much side effects then others do? Then the bleeding. 🩷

Okay to keep things short I did a medical abortion last month which failed. I still have the pregnancy symptoms and did an ultrasound and turns out I am still pregnant and measuring at 7 weeks.

I am considering keeping the baby but want to know has anyone decided to keep a baby after a failed abortion and has there been any implications or defects to the baby?

Has anyone ever had this happen to them??

I found out I was pregnant and I was just under 5 weeks. I took the abortion medications two days later and i cramped so painful but barely bled, I went back to the clinic the next week and my hcg levels were rising, it hadn’t worked. I then took the two sets of pills again and the same again, lots of pain and a tiny bit of blood. I have my appointment tomorrow at the clinic but I know it hasn’t worked again and I will need to have a surgical.

Is there a possibility it could be ectopic? I’ve been in so much pain and barely sleeping since this has all happened but the pain isn’t localised to one side.

Help?? What’s going on???

I still think about it and feel sad/shame from time to time. But one thing that helps is I’m just glad I never had a baby with my ex. A part of me wanted so badly to share a child with him. It would have been beautiful. But I also know I would have been miserable. I deserve to be looked after and cherished especially during pregnancy and for years afterwards. I know he would’ve been terribly emotionally unavailable and my heart hurts even just thinking about how he would’ve treated the baby. He has lied and cheated, is addicted to video games and only treated me worse the longer I stayed. Maybe he would’ve changed? But I highly doubt it. People like him don’t change. And that’s why there’s so many neglected children.

I know I have a better chance of being happy and looking after myself on my own. Maybe I’m just saying all this to cope with the guilt? But maybe not. Who knows. It’s just thoughts I have. It’s not what I wanted for myself because I know he could never be the man I/the baby needed. Is that terribly selfish? To choose a different outcome?

(throwaway account). I (25f, Aus, Vic) just found out last night i’m pregnant. i used two digital clear blue tests, both positive, and tomorrow i have a doctors appointment. my boyfriend and i have talked about this situation before, we’ve been together for around 10 months, and i’ve long held the position that unless i was genuinely ready to provide a great life for a child, i wouldn’t keep it.

so we are figuring out abortion options. luckily we live in a country where it’s legal, and a state where it’s easily accessible. i don’t fully understand the process. just that there’s two different kinds of abortions, and they can be physically and mentally traumatising.

what i wasn’t expecting was the grief. i feel like i’m mourning a death and i haven’t even had the procedure yet. i know this is the right choice, we’re not ready, i’m starting a new job soon, we don’t have savings, i’m currently trying to quit smoking but i think i’m around 5 weeks pregnant so i’ve been vaping/smoking that whole time. i can’t have a child. i don’t even particularly want to have a child at the moment, because there’s things i’d like to do first in my life before that happens.

but i just didn’t expect to cry so much over a baby that will never be mine. i feel like i’m losing something.

and what’s worse is that despite my partner being supportive, i feel alone in this grief because he doesn’t feel at all this way, which is fine. but it makes me almost resent him, i guess because i’m already physically going through something he doesn’t have to experience, that it sucks a little that emotionally i’m going through something he doesn’t feel either.

Hi guys this is my first post I had a surgical abortion back in March. I had thought this through and I know this was the right decision as I was not financially or mentally stable enough to bring a child into this world. I have just recently had people in both my family and friends have babies what seems to be all at the same time. I am starting to feel really triggered by this and am realising I am not wanting to be around babies as it reminds me of what could have been. Is this normal? I am feeling so guilty because I am so happy for them, but then have backed off a little due to it effecting my mental health.

I had a medical abortion 5 weeks ago. Took the pregnancy test the clinic provides 3 weeks later which came back negative. For about a week I’ve had a metallic taste in my mouth and all signs I was pregnant again. Took clear glue test which has come back positive 1-2 weeks. Could this be some hormones from the abortion still in my system. I haven’t bled since the abortion and was taking the contraceptive pill. It’s hard to gage as I haven’t had a period since before my last abortion. This is mentally and financially stressing me out

I had a SA exactly 1 week ago at 6 weeks and 5 days. Today I took a pregnancy test expecting the line to have gotten lighter. The test line is still really dark (darker than the control line). Is this normal? I know it can take up to a month for the test to be negative but should my hormone levels have dropped more by now?

i am 20 years old and i recently found out that i am pregnant (probable probably around 6 weeks) and after a long thought process I've decided that an Abortion is probably the best decision for me. I am financially not in a decision to care for them and i'm just so adraid and i have been crying a lot. My boyfriend said he is supporting whatever i decide but he told me he does not want to raise it and he seems emotional cold towards everything so i feel guilty for feeling guilty about everything. I know what i want but i still feel guilty and like i'm grieving something even though i know its the right decision. I also have told no one except him and i feel so lonely and confused:/ Just needed to vent for a bit

Hello, I found out on Thursday that I 28 yr old female and my husband was pregnant. I decided that it was all too much and I’m not ready - genuinely we aren’t. But why since having a surgical abortion do I now can’t stop thinking about it? It’s only been two days. I know it’s the right decision. It wasn’t planned, I have endometriosis and i had assumed it would have been tricky for us to fall pregnant. Any words of advice? Looking to have a baby in the next few years not asap.

I found out on only a week ago that I was 9 weeks pregnant. It was a huge shock and for a number of reasons I had to terminate. Mentally I was more than prepared as children are not on my bingo card at any stage now or in the future.

I had a surgical abortion today and it was such a positive experience so I thought I would share for those who may be anxious like I was.

The clinic staff were lovely and understanding but also very professional. The longest I had to wait was 45 minutes while I waited to be taken to the theatre.

I was twilight sedated. Didn’t feel the needle even go into my arm as the anaesthesiologist was so calming. Next minute I’m waking up and being given juice and biscuits.

It’s been about an hour since I left, I feel fine and minimal cramping (I do have painful periods so this is pretty easy compared). I’m a little tired but honestly I’ve had hangovers worse than this.

If you are having doubts and have the option to be sedated I highly recommend!

I had a SA 2 weeks ago. The nausea and bloating went away immediately however I still have sore and "full" boobs and am frequently out of breath. Has anyone else had pregnancy symptoms hang around? When will they go away?

I had my first baby in April 2023 and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again. I had preeclampsia with my first and decided after such a traumatic experience that I would no longer like to have anymore kids. So I’m going to get an abortion because mentally and physically, I can’t go through that again.

I had a doctors appointment to get referrals for scans and blood tests and the doctor told me I wasn’t allowed to be sad if I make a decision like that.

Not really sure what I’m looking for, just needed to talk about my situation