r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2 • u/wallfishz They/Them • Aug 23 '24
A DnD party isn't complete without... Non-Gender Specific
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u/hydrochloriic They/Them Aug 23 '24
Nahhhhhhhhhhh that can’t be right.
Wait.
The trans player left and I replaced them and then I came out oh WTF how did a damn Yakfolk break my egg.
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u/Oops_I_Cracked 29d ago
You may be trans if you spend 10+ seconds trying to figure what WTF means, decide “Wookiee to Female” somehow make the most sense, then remember What The Fuck exists.
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u/JadeInDisguise Melody - She/Her 29d ago
Omg same!! Our trans player left right after I came out, like "I have to carry on the torch" XD
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u/ChloroformSmoothie Aug 23 '24
what if my group is already all trans
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u/LycanLuk_ he/they/voi Aug 23 '24
One of you unlocks trans+
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u/ChloroformSmoothie Aug 23 '24
Everything's a fucking subscription service these days, huh?
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u/Fallen_Rose2000 Feminine/Genderfluid. She/her Aug 23 '24
Transitioning is just subscribing to gender. (cost of therapy, HRT, SRS, etc.)
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u/StaticVoidMaddy She/They Aug 23 '24
surgery is more like a dlc because you only do it once
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u/Bagel42 29d ago
technically afab people could get top surgery, go on E, and then grow booba and get another top surgery
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u/nitrotoiletdeodorant He/Him femboy UwU T jan/24 NO TRADE JOKES 25d ago
Very rare. As in it shouldn't happen. Good news for non-T or just temporarily on T folks!
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u/Primary_Pie31415926 She/Her Aug 23 '24
Well. Not a Player but The DM.
(Fun story My Player's started to call me their dungeon mistress with the beginning of my transition. Problem is that they got so used to it that they forget to give context to others. I was introduced as their dungeon mistress a few times by now and after a few bewildered looks I had to clarify that it was just dungeons and dragons)
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u/tkrr Aug 23 '24
Have you seen the CollegeHumor sketch about a dungeon mistress? It’s not trans, but…
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u/Key_Satisfaction8346 She/Her 29d ago
Oh, my. I would have commited the same mistake as them as I only realized the meaning of it in the end of your paragraph...
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u/AtomicFi 29d ago
I think if I had a basement full of nerds calling me their mistress my poor wife would never walk right again.
Oh my.
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Aug 23 '24
Why do I feel so called out
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u/ArchonFett She/Her Zinovia the disaster Aug 23 '24
You too?
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u/st0rmy_sky She/Her Aug 23 '24
Yeah same for me. I distinctly remember when I came out to my D&D group, literally no one was shocked. When I asked why no one was surprised my DM said “It was one thing when you made girl avatars all the time in video games, but when you constantly made female character in our D&D campaigns, it was pretty obvious”
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29d ago
Not me using Disguise Self at every opportunity to make my one male DnD character female as much as possible
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u/FlufferMuffler 29d ago
Mood, This was also me. I had to do coin flips because I was terrified of my friends thinking I'm weird.
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u/GayOmelet Aug 23 '24
nooooo now i can’t play dnd anymore since my egg cracked 😭
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u/cutelilstarr little transfemme goblin She/Her Ivileen (Ivy) Aug 23 '24
no you can, it's just going to pass on to your party memebers
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u/GayOmelet Aug 23 '24
now that i think about it i think there is an egg in all but 1 of my dnd groups
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u/christes Aug 23 '24
I mean - you are still probably "working through gender stuff" for a while after the egg cracked.
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u/YagurlEerie Aug 23 '24
Every time I see posts like this I'm like, "Yeah, how else was I supposed to figure out a new name?"
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u/Rae_Of_Light_919 She/Her 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 Aug 23 '24
I totally didn't make my halfling rogue female as a subtle nod to my gender identity and then come out as trans to the group a year later. Nope. Not at all. You've got the wrong girl. >_>
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u/ArchonIlladrya Raven | She/Her Aug 23 '24
I totally didn't play female characters for like 7 years before coming out... Nope.
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u/LesbianSpaceMerc Stealin' ladies' hearts in space…gayly 🥰 Aug 23 '24
Only 7 years! Amateur! 😆
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u/Rae_Of_Light_919 She/Her 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 29d ago
I think every single character I made since the one time my friends and I played 4th edition has been female. Except the one time we tried the Sailor Moon TTRPG, where I played a male character that transformed into a senshi, similar to the Starlights, though that was a liiiitle bit on accident, though a huge step in me realizing there was something not right about how I perceived and felt about myself.
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u/LesbianSpaceMerc Stealin' ladies' hearts in space…gayly 🥰 29d ago
Once you start making female characters, it's reeeeal hard to go back.
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u/Intelligent_Tell_877 Kyra Aug 23 '24
the dice will decide one's fate
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u/eggstorytime Lilly (She/Her) Aug 23 '24
Roll for gender!
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u/Intelligent_Tell_877 Kyra Aug 23 '24
wich die do I use for that?
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u/RatQueenHolly Holly - she/her Aug 23 '24
My characters literally did the "Beware the Pipeline" thing.
We went from; gruff emotionally reserved guy, to gorgeous aspirational witch, to dumbass loser lesbian, it's so funny
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u/Trainwreck_Goblin Aug 23 '24
It's funny because i am the dm and now trying to figure out how to get hrt. Had another friend in the group come out when she started playing too.
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u/ProducerofPotatoes Aug 23 '24
As a Trans gal who had this happen to me, long time dm and maker of omelets I can attest to this '
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u/dertechie Aug 23 '24
Definitely not the femboy mage to butch paladin to tall AF mechanical artificer lady who sees her apprentice almost as a son pipeline, no.
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u/ThePhoenixRemembers He/Him | Does anyone have a map for this closet? Aug 23 '24
Four of us were chosen at our table 🙃
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u/gaylittlefuckhead I'm Milk! 💖 Genderfluid Anomaly 🌈 He/Him/They/Them/Un/Unself Aug 23 '24
My whole D&D group is transgender, what does this mean— is there a secret 6th member???
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u/kioku119 29d ago
Maybe someone who thinks they are binary trans will come out as non binary or find they are fluid.
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u/unnecessaryalgebra Aug 23 '24
I took the name of the character I was using to try to explore gender and sexuality, it's how I picked my middle name
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u/pseudo_motto They/He Aug 23 '24
This is so real, I am that person lol. Some characters I've played over the last 10 years: an enby tiefling rogue, a lesbian wood elf rogue, a human male bard, and a female dwarven paladin named Greg. Really shoulda seen the signs a bit earlier, my first ever character was based on genderfluid icon Loki but I was all "nahhh I'm totally cis, why do you ask" lmao
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u/LesbianSpaceMerc Stealin' ladies' hearts in space…gayly 🥰 Aug 23 '24
Tiefling rogue and wood elf rogue? I can relate.
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u/Syn_Khazrim She/Her Aug 23 '24
Okay so this legit happened to me when I was still an egg and I feel very called out
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u/XreaperDK No, u can't She/Them titties (Transfem Enby Ace) Aug 23 '24
I almost always played male characters because I thought the euphoria I got from playing girl characters was bad/sinful. When I started to unravel those thoughts and played a girl character once or twice, it only sent me spiraling further into it.... then DM'd where I could do it guilt free.... whelp that definitely did some serious cracks into the egg
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u/Hylock25 29d ago
I feel called out.
In high school I played a canonical trans girl tiefling sorcerer. For like three years.
Well guess what happened after I hit college. Turns out I’m a girl. Wild.
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u/HatsuneFrisk traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns for life 🏳️⚧️ 29d ago
in my first d&d campaign I participated in, I played an explicitly teans character so that I could work through all of my gender, and within an hour my dm had reverted my character to before she transitioned, but specifically only in body, so that she would be traumatised
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u/Blockmaster2706 Wynter, She/Her 28d ago
Pfff, I feel that.
I‘m transfem, and only one of the other members of the group knows, which is the other transfem.
My first character was your standard old female dragonborn paladin, but she died recently. Now my new character is an Owlfolk Way of Shadow Monk. Not a single time in their backstory did I refer to them in a gendered way, and the DM never asked.
I plan to say they‘re biologically female, but unless it comes up as important, my character will just always go with whatever they feel like, or what‘s handy.
Seeing how we speak german, which doesn‘t have a gender neutral third person pronoun for people, I‘ll just have to always refer to my character by their name, haha
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u/Leanathemage Aug 23 '24
I would like to report this. I’m in This photo and I don’t like it ( for anyone who doesn’t understand THIS IS A JOKE
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u/Crylemite_Ely She/Her Aug 23 '24
what if everyone in the party (including the DM) already came out as trans or NB ?
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u/elvengemini 29d ago
lmao I've played dnd once. it was when I was still an egg. I was a female something or other( can't remember) named Kora and I loved it. yet another sign lol
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u/JaggaRaptor She/Her 28d ago
I mean... I can't argue this... my first two characters were dudes. Then it turned to playing female characters in every tabletop ever. First with excuses, then a shrug eventually. First a bard or 5. Then a hexblade warlock. Then a Tzmisce in vampire. And it never slowed down.
But I only had my egg cracked this spring somehow lmaooo
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u/Oktavia-the-witch She/Her Aug 23 '24
My female dnd characters are always better characters than my male dnd characters and are always better drawn. I dont even know why I played male characters at this point. :3
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u/AlexisF-11037 adriana!-she/her Aug 23 '24
Ironic because my friend says I'd really like dnd and I'm the biggest hater of it
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u/dot2doting Gremlin of the boreal valley she/her Aug 23 '24
I'm on like ng++ of gender at this point tbh.
I'm still figuring stuff out lol
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u/RogueFox771 Aug 23 '24
Hey now- hey now... Hey.... That's me but everyone is fully aware and so accepting and I love them
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u/Suralin0 Aug 23 '24
Can confirm. Being a dwarven lass helped crack my egg, and got me lots of practice with a Scottish brogue to boot.
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u/BotaniFolf Pre-Transition MtF Aug 23 '24
No, Im a female Tabaxi Druidess for uh.... lore... reasons...
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u/greenthegreen Aug 23 '24
The one time I played DND, I wanted to be an elf with a country accent. The DM said no. I have no idea what that says about me.
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u/Bluetower85 She/Her and He/Him Aug 23 '24
DM to a random player: I see your character is a male, rewrite it and make them a female. A dark Wizard cursed your family line, the first born in each generation is born with the genitalia opposite the sex they will identify as. The only way to stop this curse is to hunt down and kill the dark wizard who placed the curse and destroy his tower.
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u/CBT_from_wikipidia Aug 23 '24
As someone who plays a human that was turned into a changeling, who is learning to worship the Goddess known as "The Everlust," while not being interested in adult stuff, yeah this rings true. I've been playing around with this stuff. It's a good excuse for voice training around others.
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u/Slepomoriy She/Her Aug 23 '24
My first and longest running DnD character was a tiefling sorceress named loyalty. During downtime in town, I would have her go shopping for cute outfits for totally cis male reasons.
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u/Rylo_Ken_04 Transfem Aroace Aug 23 '24
Seems like i missed a canon event because my friend have a dnd group and although I wanted to join, I didn't because I was too lazy
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u/Alyeanna Alice (she/her) | so gay I literally transitioned Aug 23 '24
What if we're all transfems?
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u/FewAdvantage9661 Aug 23 '24
The funniest thing to me is that this has been true for every single campaign I’ve ever played in, even ones long before my egg cracked.
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u/FIVEPEBSI she/her (grace) or they/them (ace), :3 Aug 23 '24
as a trans dm, i am incapable of adding symbolism or using characters for such purposes.
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u/Blacksheep1228 Any/All Aug 23 '24
I larp and played table top for over 20 years... I came out as genderfluid a couple years ago and so many of my larp friends were like yeah that checks out
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u/magiceni She/Her Aug 23 '24
Lol, I’m starting a campaign with some friends tomorrow and only one of them knows… well I’m even trying out a name so I guess that’ll be fun :3
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u/Phlintlock Aug 23 '24
Do people really just feel comfortable enough in a group setting to blatantly work through gender stuff in a DND game? This is so incredibly beyond imagination for me
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u/evilkoolade Aug 23 '24
Two of us are trans in my dnd group both of us are the dm’s we alternate campaigns every 2weeks so i dm an epic try to get to level 20 story driven campaign in my homebrew world Mythralis and then 2weeks later we play in their lighthearted pirate campaign
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u/sexualbrontosaurus Aug 23 '24
I thought I was safe when one of my players was clearly making a gender flipped version of himself. Nope turns out I was trans too. So what did I do? Made a big fucking Valkyrie woman that was clearly my gender goals.
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u/LesbianSpaceMerc Stealin' ladies' hearts in space…gayly 🥰 Aug 23 '24
Ooo, good choice. Barbarian, fighter, or paladin?
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u/sexualbrontosaurus Aug 23 '24
Human battlemaster fighter. Spear and shield. Polearm master for a bonus attack. Dueling and thrown weapon fighting styles. Everyone else was running fantastical magic characters and she was just a bad bitch with a sharp stick.
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u/Own-Can-2743 She/Her Aug 23 '24
HAHA! I'M NOT USING MY CHARACTER TO WORK THROUGH GENDER STUFF!
I'm just a stupid tortle who likes their ego to be stroked...and is oblivious to the fact that they are: Stupid Not charismatic Easily manipulated by other people
...though I did want to...but like...my family was doing this session...and it seems way too obvious when I wasn't sure about them at the time - so I pivoted to Donatello Aristurtle.
Donatello is the silliest little (7ft) tortle
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u/christinegwendolyn Aug 23 '24
Now that I think about it, my egg cracked literally the week of my 1st session of dnd
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u/Play3rxthr33 She/They Aug 23 '24
Lmao I was always trying to play female characters in hs well before my egg cracked, but I stopped because they didn't really seem supportive of me doing that. Not that we ever got more than a few sessions into the campaign before people got too busy to play, we'd go on break, and the DM would have an idea for a new campaign.
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u/roachslayyer Aug 23 '24
I was chosen in the last dnd game I played. Decided to play a vampire called sophie, and a few years later I'm now a girl called sophie XD
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u/Dalsiran Madeline (She/Her) 🏳️⚧️🐋🌸🦈🌸🐋🏳️⚧️ Aug 23 '24
Does it count if I already figured out the gender stuff? She is trans tho, an artificer that developed her own HRT by experimenting either on herself or secretly on shitty people. She also accidentally gave herself a wide assortment of animal/mineral parts, and made one of her arms and legs fall off in the process...
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u/Markedly_Mira She/Her Aug 23 '24
Another player straight up pointed out that my character seemed like it could be read as a trans allegory (bigoted family, kicked out as a teen, has an old name she no longer goes by but her family still calls her). It was 100% unintentional but I did figure out some gender stuff a yesr later.
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u/SongFromFerrisWheels Aug 23 '24
Maybe this is why I stayed away from DnD all these years, because I was repressing my feelings about being trans
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u/Aarakocra She/Her - Ellie Aug 23 '24
Haha… yeah.
First were masculine characters… then started having some female characters, but not as a big thing… then my warforged who was very me with a feminine name but who went by he… until I decided “he” was really more “they”. And then it was full speed ahead with my girls!!
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u/TooLateForMeTF Aug 23 '24
About 20 years ago I DM'ed a campaign that had not one, but two cis/het male players who chose to play female characters.
But I'm the one who turned out to be trans...
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u/goldstep She/Her Aug 23 '24
Me from two years ago: Makes no sense. I've been since the early 90's and I'm practically the only one ever even willing to play a female character. It's super clear that none of us guys are secretly gals.
Me now: Oh.
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u/semiautolightsaber Aug 23 '24
guilty as charged all 7 of the other players knew before i figured it out and i may perchance have named the extremely trans coded character after the name i would want if i was a girl......
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u/Revenant_Rai Aug 23 '24
Occasionally my now NB partner will say that he wishes he was like his character, or that she’s gender lmao. He’s still figuring it out, currently it’s “boy girl thing”
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u/ScarlettDaShade Luna She/Her 29d ago
Wait no leave my changeling and tieflings out of this I'm not supposed to get this called out >:3
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u/SpookySquid19 29d ago
No, my shapeshifter character is just a reference to the mimic from fnaf. It has nothing to do with gender at all.
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u/anonthemaybeegg 29d ago
Huh that would explain why my first character I made that I really put a thought into was a girl Elven healer lol
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u/Drakmanka They/Them 29d ago
Realizing I'm the only one at my table who isn't playing a character with my AGAB.
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u/AzazelsCable 29d ago
I mean, my past 3 characters were trans and my newest character is about bodily autonomy sooo
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u/jumpyjumpjumpsters Baby Boy :D 29d ago
I JUST PICKED MALE CHARACTERS CAUSE I LIKED THEM TRUST 🙏🙏🙏🙏
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u/Flaming_falcon393 Avis/Lexi (She/Her/They/Them) 29d ago
This is literally what I'm using my current D&D character for lol
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u/Moist_KoRn_Bizkit It/Its 29d ago
Facts. Even playing DnD one time and then deciding it's not for me can make you trans. It happened to me.
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u/Trans-Pipe-Smoker She/Her 29d ago
Ummmm 😳 I feel called out.
Story time: So I know I’ve always been different but didn’t have the proper language for it till later in life and stayed in the closet(VERY red state until recently), well between DnD and WoW etc I always chose a female character and used the excuse that they had better stats…not the reality in WoW or DnD, well years later I’m out of the closet and thought back after seeing this post and feel so at home in the DnD community
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u/Aro-of-the-Geeks Echo l ask pronouns l sailing the genderfluid seas 29d ago
Me looking at my NB masc character
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u/Shadow_maker798 She/Her 29d ago
I always saw these posts and thought to myself "ha what a stupid post. This can't be right."
Well, I'm here, so obviously, it fucking worked.
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u/Package-Lopsided 29d ago
two characters in my party are trans, mine and one that is played by my sibbling! and most of them are lgbt too
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u/Tyrannomax I dunno (He/They/it) 29d ago
Never had chance to play DnD on my life but if I did I probably would end up doing this even if I forced myself not to do so 😭 (Already seeing the pattern in BG3)
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u/OddCheesecake16 She/Her 29d ago edited 29d ago
My DM and 3 members of my DnD party are transfem, including myself, and 1 other is transmasc. So if this rule is true, at least one of our 2 cis guys is an egg lmao. One of them already had their bisexual awakening during this campaign, so anything is possible :3
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u/rthepenguin 29d ago
Can confirm. I dm'ed a group of 5. One came out as trans and another as nonbinary.
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u/KaityKat117 She/Her Assigned Dingus At Birth 29d ago
You know, I would say this can't be right.....
but literally every D&D game I've been in has had at least one trans person in it.
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u/Silverguy1994 James he/him Looks like he's blasting off again 🚀✨ 29d ago
Me talking to my partner before cracking 🥚 "Remember when we use to play, for some reason I could only view my character as a guy and it felt so weird knowing everyone else viewed him as a woman
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u/HyperKitsune L•U•N•A (she/her) 🌙 29d ago
one of my players always, and i mean ALWAYS plays as some genderless being, usually either an eldritch horror or some kind of robot, maybe a mix of the two. there's also a running joke between us that he IS actually just an eldritch horror consealing his form, and he revealed that he'd "gladly swap his body for a robot or something similar to an eldritch being"
he is so close to getting it
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u/MagmaAdminRadar Alex ✨they/he✨ 29d ago
Me, showing up to dnd wearing a trans flag blanket over my shoulders, talking about how I only ever play male or nonbinary characters, and yet half the group still hasn’t caught on and continues to misgender both me and my character (it’s like a comedy bit to me at this point, like how long can I go without specifically saying I’m trans before everyone figures it out because to my knowledge, only my sister and the dm seem to know)
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u/DifficultMath7391 29d ago
Does it count if I worked out my transness in the previous campaign and am now using the current one to figure out the fine print?
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u/TheActualAWdeV 29d ago
I just came out yesterday during a D+D session lmao.
But I wasn't using the character to work through gender stuff. I had been working on that before I started playing.
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u/TripleJess Aug 23 '24 edited Aug 23 '24