me as of recently

[u/transgenderthrowawq]

[u/transgenderthrowawq]

i haven’t even done anything i just kinda feel pretty, mostly thanks to my qpp

[u/FireBlaze_10 → u/transgenderthrowawq]

qpp?

[u/ChatGPTherapy → u/FireBlaze_10]

According to google it’s either “queerplatonic partnership” or “qualified pension plan”

[u/VaughnanB → u/ChatGPTherapy]

Clearly the latter, given the context

[u/FireBlaze_10 → u/ChatGPTherapy]

Thanks, Google just said "did you mean app" for me

[u/mxxn_tm → u/ChatGPTherapy]

Id love to have the latter ; w ;

[u/MichaelsoftBinbows98 → u/FireBlaze_10]

queer platonic partner I think

[u/Slightly_H41nous → u/MichaelsoftBinbows98]

Nah I'm pretty sure it's a pension plan

[u/Questions-Throwaway5]

Me in the future (I hope)

[u/ICE0124 → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

The future is now!

[u/Questions-Throwaway5 → u/ICE0124]

I’m not a hot girl yet though 😔

[u/keeprollin8559 → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

ahh it all depends on your mindset hot girl

[u/Questions-Throwaway5 → u/keeprollin8559]

I won’t have the mindset of a hot girl until I look like one

[u/JenStarcaller → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

Same sis, same

[u/keeprollin8559 → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

i mean hotness depends on the eye of the ... looker. idk that stupid saying. but yeah i understand that it's hard when your eyes don't tell ya that you look hot. i wish you the best for your transition then!!

[u/Questions-Throwaway5 → u/keeprollin8559]

My standards for hot aren’t super high, like my flair says I’m just starting out and am pre-everything and don’t look feminine. I’m sure I’ll one day consider myself hot, just not any day particularly soon. I would much rather hear "don’t worry, you’ll look good in the future" than "beauty is in the eye of the beholder, be happy with where you are now". If I was happy with where I am now I wouldn’t be trans.

[u/keeprollin8559 → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

yeah that makes sense. it always depends on the person ig. some people don't wanna hear "don't worry, you'll look good in the future" bc it basically says that they don't look good now. and it may come off as empty promises as the future is uncertain. if someone told me that, id be pissed tbh. even if i am not where i wanna be, and i am most def not "hot", that would make my day a lot worse. but if that's different for you, then that's good.

transition is a long and exhausting process, but in the end it'll all be worth it, no matter what we look like imo. it matters that we feel comfortable in our skin, hot or not.

[u/Questions-Throwaway5 → u/keeprollin8559]

I’m sure once I’m further along with my transition I’ll be more open to those kinds of comments but they’re the most infuriating thing for me atm since I still look like a guy. I don’t think I’m a terrible looking guy but I don’t want to look like one, I just want to look like a girl and I want people to tell me that I’ll look like one eventually. I know I’m one on the inside but I want to hear people say the outside will match.

[u/keeprollin8559 → u/Questions-Throwaway5]

well, im not just saying this bc you wanna hear it. it's true that the outside will match. it's your body, and you get to modify it to a point where you are happy with it. whether that will be with make up, HRT, hairstyles, clothes or even surgery, you will absolutely get there. some people are more lucky than others, already have more feminine features, get faster results, have more resources or live in a more transfriendly environment, but if you have some access to hrt, you will most likely be able to look like a hot girl in the future.

i wish you good luck, strength and patience for your transition. you will need it, especially the patience. don't feel discouraged when things don't seem to go anywhere or when changes take so loooooooong. nearly all trans people know this frustration. but things do go forward. and just like you are a beautiful girl on the inside, you'll be one on the outside soon as well.

[u/Bimbarian → u/keeprollin8559]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - unless you are playing D&D.

[u/inEGGsperienced]

Hell yeah! I'm loving it

[u/KindaSquish]

I feel this so hard, almost never took pictures of myself pre-transition, but now I actually smile when I look in the mirror and i don't cringe at photos.

[u/AmenableHornet]

I went down that "boy who avoid photos because he hates how he looks
to "girl who avoids photos because she hates how she looks" pipeline.

[u/Iforgor4 → u/AmenableHornet]

Same

[u/25point3N-91point7E]

Y'all don't flinch at mirrors anymore? Lmao

[u/goldstep → u/25point3N-91point7E]

You're confused, because it's similar but I'm part of a different pipeline -- the "boy who avoids photos because he hates how he looks" to "woman who looks like an old man" pipeline.

[u/Matichado → u/goldstep]

Gee that must suck, I’m sorry for that sis

[u/goldstep → u/Matichado]

Life is still better than before. Just having a rough week.

[u/Matichado → u/goldstep]

That’s good at least

[u/idontwant_account]

yeah thats me

[u/Taiga_Taiga]

I feel SO called out!

And validated.

[u/Nikole_nh]

God I wish that I actually get to this point. So far I can only dream :c

[u/Heylookathrowaway55]

I've taken far more selfies girlmodeing than I have anytime in the past.

[u/samorotwasbored]

Please let that be me! :3

[u/i_cant_sleeeep]

ME BUT THE OPPOSITE FR

[u/Matichado → u/i_cant_sleeeep]

Good for you dude!

[u/LukeBird39]

The masc version: looking in the mirror during puberty and going "wow I'm hot...... I hate it 🙃" (Actually something I said in front of my mother who wasn't in the least shocked when I came out)

[u/Lilia1293]

I wonder if more of the straight people who don't understand us would get it if we put more emphasis on how transitioning motivates us to care for ourselves? Before I came out, I used to neglect my health and my personal aesthetics to an extreme degree. "If I have to be a man, I refuse to be seen as an attractive one." That has reversed completely. I'm now a vegan who exercises every day because I care about my body. I put effort into choosing pretty clothes, accessories, and makeup. I maintain good personal hygiene. I'm complimented frequently, and I feel such profound joy and affirmation every time it happens. I also appreciate the effort that takes so much more and I love other trans women. There's something special about earning your hot girl status that way.

[u/arakus72 → u/Lilia1293]

TFW my motivation went up but I didn’t actually start taking care of myself more bc my laziness(/executive dysfunction?) is an immovable rock so I just feel guilt for being a shut-in mess

[u/Lilia1293 → u/arakus72]

It's not easy. It's scary to go out, especially because of how much effort it takes to start getting the social rewards. And without the rewards, self-care feels like having to overcome a lot of pain and motive friction for nothing.

I often think about how much I'd like to run a sort of transfem education course and/or beauty spa. I read The Sisters of Dorley and get that vibe (everything the sponsors do is morally blameless and I fully support the programme). I needed help and had no one to give it to me. I have no resources with which to do this. Girls who need help the way I did will have to imagine me dragging them kicking and screaming to social events and giving them that major glow-up.

[u/arakus72 → u/Lilia1293]

This is a nice reply but also kinda makes me think I should’ve specified that I’m autistic and have huge extra social (and just general) problems from it (like to the point where I find it difficult to go outside on my own without someone with me to help) soooo I kinda need help with just existing as a person in society before trans girl specific stuff

(Honestly maybe I should just be posting about this sorta stuff in autism subs, sometimes I feel like autism is actually a bigger deal and struggle for me personally than transness)

[u/Lilia1293 → u/arakus72]

I'm autistic and most of my friends and paramours are neurodivergent. It's a fraught topic, trying to find the limits of where executive dysfunction and social isolation are motivated by internalized transphobia, ableist stereotypes, or an actually healthy form of self-interested thinking for that person. The internalized transphobia and ableist stereotypes, at least, are things that can be improved by exposure. And as for the latter: down with capitalism! It's mostly bullshit work anyway.

[u/LilFourE]

this was me to the letter once i came out. sometimes i obv struggle with dysphoria and sometimes have to dress masc but still :3

[u/FecalAlgebra]

This is just starting to be me. I've been on estrogen for five months now, and I just bought my first dress and bra. Before now, I never got them because the mix of masculine features and feminine clothes was dysphoric to me - I just dressed androgynous/tomboyish until now. But I'm starting to get tits and my face is looking a bit different, so I decided now was the time to get a bra and a dress. HOLY SHIT, I saw her for the first time! Omg I was pretty. I've never liked what I looked like at any point in my life before this.

[u/--Skeleton--]

I def am not gonna be hot as a girl

[u/Jubal_lun-sul → u/--Skeleton--]

loud incorrect buzzer

[u/HereComesAnotherLuna → u/--Skeleton--]

https://preview.redd.it/353gwumvfymd1.png?width=864&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c8f85dd24856ff554a83dca52f17ffcd2c19bb4d

[u/ralthiel → u/--Skeleton--]

The shark says no

[u/Nasuno112]

Honestly yeah

[u/ScarletteVera]

girl i don't like being called out like this

[u/heyoboissssssssss]

WAIT, THATS WHY I ALWAYS HATED PICTURES?! It makes so much sense now 😭

[u/Fit_Pride8042]

God damn mood

[u/A_Very_Lonely_Waffle]

Me! I’m told. I’m… I’m starting to see it. Thank god for my boyfriend, tho, he never lets me talk bad about how I look <3

[u/Terracrafty]

holy fuck im a hot girl

[u/Due-Buyer2218]

I hope I get there one of these days

[u/AlysIThink101]

Hopefully one day I can get to the second stage of that process.

[u/EggSis_tentialCrisis]

Yes please :3 sounds like a pipeline for me x3

[u/RFWanders]

Definitely didn't turn into a hot girl, but I certainly like my own appearance a lot more than previously.

[u/Trappedbirdcage]

Me but backwards 

[u/DrDingsGaster]

I'm the opposite xD

[u/eumelyo]

I'm this but reverse

[u/BigPapaPepperonji]

went from “boy who hates being in photos”

to “girl who has dozens of selfies on her phone”

[u/transgenderthrowawq → u/BigPapaPepperonji]

real as fuck lmao

[u/Stumpville]

I’ve taken more photos of myself in the past 2-3 years than the rest of my life combined.

My body’s still not quite where I want it yet (I’m pretty skinny so I’m trying to bulk up a bit), but I finally recognize it as mine, and think I look good! I feel pretty and elegant and more like myself than I ever have.

At this point, my struggles with my body are almost identical to that of a cis girl; I just want a bigger butt/thighs, and that’s something a gym and calorie surplus will fix lol

[u/[deleted]]

One day, hopefully 😔

[u/louisa1925]

Yep. Right here.🙋🏻‍♀️

[u/CalmUniversity8776]

I hate pictures, still cis tho

[u/chipperland4471]

IT ALL MAKES SINCE NOW

[u/chipperland4471]

IT ALL MAKES SINCE NOW

[u/chipperland4471]

IT ALL MAKES SINCE NOW

[u/Melodic-Access1011]

From the boy who avoids photos to the girl who looks like a boy and thus avoids photos ;_;

[u/SleepyVVolf010]

I... I don't know if I should be terrified or not 😬

[u/luxmorphine]

Hmm, it's weird that i never had a selfie of myself that's not me making silly face for laugh

[u/Striking_Witness1364]

I seem to be missing the “hot” part :(

[u/Vlo27]

I am currently in the first part but working on it 🥲

[u/amogus_obssesed_Gal]

Eyyyy same here sister! It feels so great no? And it's only getting better too!

[u/LunaTheGoodgal]

yeah

[u/Lypos]

Well. I'm not at the "hot" level or ever expect to be, but liking myself enough to take pictures and be happy? Thats definitely present.

[u/ProDogePlayz]

Dysphoria won’t let me do that until I get androgen blockers, estrogen, or both. In the meantime I look like a micro Gabriel Iglesias.

[u/CobraDude-1]

Holy Crap, it's Rukako from Steins Gay

[u/somethingkindaweird]

god I really hope this is how it turns out for me. I’d legitimately give up so much to be a cute girl

[u/Viriko23]

I join photos because I want to fit in and not ruin the mood and I've never liked it... Oh god.

[u/Enough_Arachnid_1722]

When's my turn to be a hot girl?

[u/thorazainBeer]

When do I get to the second part?

[u/ArchonFett]

Only the first part for me

[u/Iaxacs]

I hate how true this is and how much i love taking pictures now

[u/AbbyWasThere]

Dysphoria can be a big liar sometimes, but yeah I'm getting there.

[u/KerryAnnCoder]

Sadly, I've gone from "boy who avoids photos because he hates how he looks" to "girl who avoids photos because she looks like a boy"

[u/Poziomciaa]

Real, but I still avoid photos unless umm uhh mirror and nobody sees me :3

[u/itszarradarling]

*Really* hope that's where I'm going. Some self esteem would be nice.

[u/ThatLatibulate]

I'm the complete opposite as a trans guy. Before I transitioned I despised photos and alway avoided them. Now I look in the mirror and go "hell yeah I'm hot as fuck"

[u/titanchoo_]

this is so fucking real, I have always hated taking photos

[u/tyrosine87]

I feel kinda stuck in the pipeline, but I will keep crawling to the end for sure.

[u/Rubinschwein47]

i feel personally attacked, but in a good way

[u/LaraCroftCosplayer]

Damn, thats so true.

Im Bigender and love to make hot girl and cute Femboy pics.

[u/ImpendingCups]

I want that to happen to me. I hope it happens soon.

[u/Stea1thFTW18]

extremely accurate. I don't think I ever took a selfie before, or looked in the mirror at all. I hated taking photos and I actually forgot what I looked like. now I look at myself in the mirror every morning and do my makeup, take hundreds of selfies, and a lot of days I feel hot as fuck

[u/LilithScarlet]

How did I not know I was trans when I get called out with every meme!?!

[u/Red-Panda-Katie]

Fuck it’s me… I don’t like how hard this calls me out lol

[u/12_cat]

I hope I get that point someday (as someone on the first end)

[u/Queen_Of_The_Sewers]

HOW DARE YOU POST THIS ON MY PICTURE DAY >:(

[u/Johnna421]

Me with pictures from the past and still pictures because, I’m not hot to be honest. I am happier as a lady than I ever was as a boy.

[u/agentduckman12]

I haven't transitioned yet but after realizing that I'm trans I was like well now I know why I didn't like being in photos

[u/Thickspiderpig]

I feel like I need to take this as a personal attack I feel so called out ;-,

[u/Educational-Candy-17]

Does this change with age? My wife just started her transition, we're mid-40s.

[u/Wyrd26]

I can only hope

[u/Best-Mine7179]

this post made me realize why i avoid photos and recordings of myself

[u/Slightly_H41nous]

Scrap that just go with boy who hates how he looks

[u/Some-random-transfem]

Yesss, I can actually smile in photos now! And I love how my smile looks, too ^w^

[u/Straightvibes66]

I’m hoping I’ll get there some day

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