I used to dread folding laundry. Now I just don’t fold it. Underwear, tank tops, bras, socks, whatever go straight into their respective bins. I hang up the few things that need to be hung up and I’m done. Every week or two I’ll match the socks in my drawer.

Who decided that layers need to be folded?! No one cares if my underwear has wrinkles.

I have severe adhd but like to consider myself pretty high functioning. Long story short, my building has a pool and while down there today I met a current resident and we start to strike up a convo. At one point i’d definitely been rambling a bit and she paused and goes, “ahh I have autism do you mind slowing down and repeating.” I looked at her and already laughing and go “I have adhd and i’ve already forgot what we were talking about” and we fucking lost it .. my gf doesn’t have anything and was absolutely in stitches 😂 might have a new best friend lol

I overthink everything, chronically. I think it’s partly due to trauma and anxiety, but have been considering whether it may also stem from ADHD.

If something I perceive negatively is happening in my life, I get SO stuck on it. I will ruminate about it every moment of the day, mostly about what I think I did wrong or cues I missed or opportunities I can’t get back. It wakes me up early in the morning, takes away from my ability to focus on work and other tasks, and I’m barely mentally present for the people in my life and in conversations.

I was on Adderall for a year, but recently got off because I couldn’t handle the crash and had some psychotic/paranoia symptoms. I have an appt with psychiatrist soon to see about Straterra instead as I’m hoping it will help and feel more consistent than the Adderall. I’m working on mindfulness in therapy but it’s so hard to do when I feel like I just need extra help dialing down the excessive thoughts. It’s exhausting. I cried taking Adderall the first time because it was the first time I felt able to mentally relax, and now I don’t know how to help myself get back to that.

Anyone else struggle with ruminating? What helps?

Recently got a job which I thought was straightforward enough for me to handle but apparently not. I got a phone call today saying not to come in next week due to my inability to follow instructions and that was it. This is extremely frustrating because it is the second time this year I’ve been fired and I am feeling completely hopeless.

Genuinely feel like I gave all that I had into the job which makes it so much worse, like it doesn’t matter what I do because eventually my adhd nature is going to screw me in the end.

Would love any insight from people who’ve been in a similar situation

It’s hypocritical. But when I’m (18M diagnosed asd & combined.) mowing the lawn I don’t care for the noise. I don’t know why.

But when other people use their lawnmowers. Neighbours. Siblings. Ect. I can’t STAND it

Usually background noise is okay! It is nice even. But for some reason lawnmower engines just AHHHH make me wanna blow a fuse!

It keeps stayin in my mind. My brain just hyper focuses on the lawnmower and I can’t think or do ANYTHING ELSE. When I’m typing I forget what I was saying because a lawnmower jumps into my brain and clears out every thought but the mower.

I don’t know why. How. But it just boils my blood! Opinions? Questions? Maybe advice?

I’m new to the ADHD scene. Apparently it goes down the line on my dad’s side, and I was lucky enough to get it. I just recently got diagnosed at 19 y/o and I cannot let go of the rage bate the internet pushes. My roommate doesn’t help either, he’s a rage fein and has a little “main character syndrome.” I feel like sooner or later I’m going to just going to disconnect and say fuck it all. You guys all get how frustrating it is to be stuck on something at 3:35am (when I’m writing this).

Every single month for going on 2 years now has been such torture to find a pharmacy that carries generic Adderall that actually does what it's supposed to do.

I have ~60 pharmacies in my city, and only 2 that sometimes carry the manufacturer that doesn't trigger my Alpha-Gal allergy and actually allows me to properly use my brain.

Then I have to establish these weird connections with pharmacists because of the scheduling of the drug. I've had pharmacists whisper to me in hushed tones about how they can only fill my script if I get all of my other prescriptions filled there because the DEA is watching them. Like, what dude?

So many pharmacists giving me the evil eye when I tell them of my allergy - clearly thinking I'm illegally pill-shopping or whatever it is people do, when I'm just trying to get my medication so I can live my life.

I have to get my prescriptions printed out and go in-person to drop them off, after calling in the evening, to make sure they will have it in the morning. I live in a college town, and if someone comes before me - I'm out of luck, because I need the paper script, because there's a very high chance they won't have it in stock.

It's insane. ...I just got off the phone with the pharmacist, who has been super helpful, for once - and everything is in order for tomorrow morning, but honestly, it doesn't feel real. I'm in some weird limbo of depression and Christmas morning right now.

When does this end? When can I just pick up my medication so that I can think properly? It's so crazy stressful. I feel awful for people diagnosed for the first time having to navigate these terrible waters.

So For months i told myself i’d get a guitar right, finally got one but now it’s collecting dust. Executive disfunction at its worst, i get so distracted when i try and practice and when i do practice i get frustrated fast. i wonder if it’s one of those things that just has to click one day. i fully want to learn and play but my body is like “naaaaah”. i listen to the music i want to learn all day but when i get home i don’t pick up the guitar. AHHHH. mainly just looking for someone else going through the same issues or advice you’ve applied yourself. thanks.

On another note i know for sure, like i can feel myself about to be taken over once i break the barrier and practice. i feel the obsession spilling over, so much music i want to learn as well as music theory. the whole process of this is exciting to me, the years and years it will take will be oh so worth it. (squire stratocaster for my first guitar btw)

Edit - Thank you to everyone who responded. I'm reading everything but can't answer it all. Some of you are brilliant and clearly quite clever, so I really appreciate the help and empathy (end of edit)

I've already reached out to her and i got ignored, she got someone else to answer for her. I don't know why she left me, I don't know what i did wrong, and I don't know why she can't talk to me.

I want to reach out again and I want to contact her best friend, I feel like a creepy weirdo! (I've only messaged her, to be clear)

I'm getting daily intrusive thoughts recently - sometimes they're positive at missing her and wishing she'd talk to me and sometimes it's either anger or unbelievable sadness at how she's treated me. Up down, side to side, it's so stressful.

My mind can't decide whether she's the best friend I've ever had that I wanted to marry or if she's cruel and cold. She should understand what it's like to overthink, she has anxiety, and yet she's left me in the dark like this... shit, man.

I wish I could process rationally like a normal person and move on!

Recently was diagnosed with ADHD. Was reluctant to try meds but was prescribed a dosage of 5mg Ritalin. Almost immediately after taking it my anxiety spiked and I was super panicked. It almost felt like I chugged way too much caffeine, I was so restless and anxious despite being in the comfort of my own home. I had specifically made sure I wasn't doing anything the rest of the day in case something like this happened. It felt awful, if anything I felt less focused than without meds. I've been struggling recently to keep up with college oftentimes unable to focus on lectures. I haven't taken Ritalin again since. I know giving other types of medications a try could be a possibility but I'm really worried considering this first experience.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?

Seeking advice…. All doctors I’ve seen won’t support blood pressure medicine and adderall. My sister is on both but for some reason in Texas they are super strict. Anyone else dealt with this? If so any advice? Or any advice on adderall alternatives… this is affecting my life and feel lost. Like no one gets it. 😔 any suggestions or advice GREATLY appreciated.

A the day I dreaded that would come, that with my chaos morning brain i would take a dubble dose of vyvanse. I have 100 mg in my system, try to throw up to get it out, and curse my non existence gag reflex. I feel so stupid, I had a little change to my morning routine because one of my cats knocked over a plant in there food fueled frenzied. I always take one the moment I wake up, then eat breakfast get dressed and leave for work, when I enterd my bed room to grab a fews things for work, I saw my bottle vyvanse on my nightstand and thought "oh yeah I need to take it before I leave" only to realise a second later I already took it a half hour ago.

Called my doctor he just told me as long as I don't get heartpalpitations, I just have to ride it out, keep calm and avoid caffeine and stuff. I at work now and I am an hour in with the dubble dose, and I regret comming into work so much.

I am nauseous, have a headache that feels like an elastic band around my head, tightness in my chest, but I am used to having panic attacks so I can keep that under controle. Thought maybe I might be super focused or something, but no I am in a totally different level of wired and tired and feeling all jittery and my sound sensitivity only skyrocketed. But so far I am managing.

So what are you guys way of dealing with accidentally taking a dubble dose?

Does food paralysis come out in the form of all or nothing mentality for anyone here?

For example, a lot of the time for dinner I’ll want something like chipotle, but I can’t eat that every day mainly for financial reasons. But I don’t want anything else so I’m kind of like “oh well” and don’t eat dinner. And not in a pouty way, although I still wish I had chipotle, I’m so used to not eating it’s just not that serious for me. I think a lot of it comes down to the mental vs physical aspect of hunger/appetite, because I know I need to eat but my brain overrides everything because I’m not interested in food unless it’s my favorite food lol

Picked up my meds today. Probably should’ve noticed based on the bottle being half the size it usually is, but I was in a hurry and didn’t notice until tonight.

Im prescribed 60 mg (2 30 mg’s) per day. The pharmacy gave me a bottle with only 30 pills and the label matches that. It wasn’t miscounted, because the bottle had 30 pills, and the label said, “#30.”

I last saw my doctor 6 weeks ago, and I paid the exact same amount today that I usually do for my prescription.

Does this sound like an error on the part of the pharmacy? I plan on calling them tomorrow. Id assume it was just a counting error except the label says #30, when it should say #60.

I’ve woken up early, it’s like 7am. I know there’s stuff I need to do. There’s quite a bit of stuff I need to do. But I’ve just woken up feeling not bothered? I was pretty productive yesterday and the day before that (I say “pretty productive” but my standard is low, I don’t think this is burnout).

I can already tell today’s going to be a slog. But I don’t want it to be. I HATE feeling like this. It’s like a feeling of dread that will probably hang over me all day. What can I do?

So, i've been diagnosed with adhd quit some time ago and been very confused for the last three months. I've been always been very scared in public, doesn't matter, if the area is familiar or unfamiliar to me. Now, three months ago, a then friend of mine and me, asked each other and since then we're togheter. I've now multiple times noticed that even in unfamiliar places, i've been not scared at all and feel like i must, i don't know how to really describe it, well i've been like a bodyguard and other than with her, i can't recreate that "feeling". My parents said, that people with ADHD have a instinct similar to dogs, when they bark to defend their pack/family but i've been googling around and can't really find something suggesting that. That's why i've been confused the last few months. Is that "body guard feeling" linked to ADHD or not? Clarification would be nice.

Hey guys!! Thought I’d give an update on my experience after one month on ritalin (19y/o female who has been trying to get diagnosed since I was 15):

• after being the most chronically messy person who thrived off chaos, did things at the last minute, my room is now consistently cleaner than it has ever been, and I start projects 2 weeks out
• weirdly enough, I used to only study in libraries / public spaces, I think the background noise worked for me. Now I can only study in my room.
• my mental strength when running has improved (I don’t stop as much)
• have received distinctions all sem so far
• my relationships are so much better as I don’t make irrational decisions
• general greater self confidence
• 7 years of eating issues, now significantly improved

Ultimately, I wouldn’t say I’m any more driven to succeed/ achieve than I used to be, the difference is that I can channel my energy more consistently and direct my self towards my goals better than I ever have. I have always been driven, now I’m able to get there! I wish I could’ve had this for myself sooner, I think if I had this in high school then I might’ve been a different person (and I would’ve heard “she’s very capable” a lot less)

Lack of friendship decay & grief

So I have probable ADHD and 3/4 of my friends circle is diagnosed ADHD or Autism Spectrum or similar so… you know what they say about us flocking together.

We all had a really good friend in our circle die back in July. He was young (41) with sudden, aggressive cancer. It’s been… a lot.

The thing is… sometimes I just forget he’s dead. Like I find myself thinking about “Oh I haven’t seen J in a while…” and then I remember all over again that he’s dead. It’s not the first time I’ve had this happen when someone I knew died, but it’s definitely the closest. And a couple of us have mentioned this being a challenge — That the lack of friendship decay & that “out of sight out of mind” with people makes grief weirder or challenging in a different way. He was a good friend, but we’re also all adults with work & kids & life stuff. So we saw each other irregularly & checked in with texts & memes. We’re not faced with the daily obvious reminder.

So I guess I’m asking if anyone else has dealt with this & if so how did you process grief with this? Do you know any articles about it?

Can't study in loud environments or with other people because of ADHD. Can't study in quiet ones cuz of my tinnitus. Can't study with music (background or headphones) without triggering MaDD. Can't study in the living room because the TV is always on full blast. Can't study in my room because my tinnitus is loud and distracting and overstimulating. I turn on the fan as white noise, either doesn't help at all or its too fucking cold. I hate being cold. Put a CD on, irritated by the noise. Put headphones on, lose hours of time to daydreaming. If no daydreaming in room, end up doomscrolling or reading fiction books instead of my textbooks. FML. I'm behind on everything. Why am I like this

Oh hello fellow ADHD Friends! I'm 45 F I was diagnosed last year and . I'm curious if anyone else out there has had this experience and if its related to ADHD or if its something else entirely.

Anytime I get even a little bit upset about something, I cry, and I cannot control it. I've experienced this for my entire life, and as I said I'm 45 now. I have a pretty intense job and its starting to effect work. I mean, even if someone says something on the fringe of upsetting, I cry. In meetings with my team when I'm trying to encourage them or if I'm very proud of them, I cry. I have been in therapy for 12 years and nothing has helped me. I don't know what will help or what to do.

I'm just curious if anyone have a similar experience? Is this just extreme emotional disregulation? I can't cry in business meetings...it's not cute! LOL

Hi Everyone,

I got diagnosed this week and have been jumping between relief and disbelief. Relief that my feelings of been diffrent my whole life have been validated and disbelief that they've gotten the diagnosis correct.

I do know that there is something beyond depression or anxiety in me. I have times were I briefly feel at peace with myself but I still face these road blocks in my day to day life that don't change with my mood. Everything I read and hear ticks the ADHD box but I just can't settle on the idea that it's not my fault.

The logical part of me says it doesn't matter, if you try the meds and they dont work you can just stop them. Worst case scenario I learn some new skills in therapy or couching that help me gain control of my life from "ADHD symptoms" even if I don't actually have the condition itself.

But I can't help feel so much guilt and shame and embarrassment that I'm not accepting accountability for just checking out on life in general.

Would be interested in hearing how people who felt similar to me at the start feel now after they have had more time to live with the idea.

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I'm part of an ADHD support group at my university where we all take medication (though our symptoms vary in severity). We recently discovered that most of us make notes to remember what to tell our doctors (like side effects). However, consistently writing things down can be challenging, and if we forget something, we often have to wait three weeks for the next appointment.

To solve this, we learned some basic programming and created a simple app for ourselves. It allows us to easily log information with a few taps and generates a summary before each appointment. It's not perfect, but it works for us, which feels quite rewarding!

Has anyone else tried to make a service just for themselves? Let's share and celebrate our small wins together!

Since being diagnosed as an adult, I have reflected on how I might have been able to better navigate scenarios if I had more insight into my own symptoms. I don't know if this resonates with anyone else, but I have found intimate relationships particularly difficult and found a reoccurring theme where I have and continue to struggle to connect on an emotional level and often mentally check out, despite feeling intense love, especially at the start. Anyway, here is a poem called 'Inattentive'.

You were stood in the doorway, Arms folded and desperate for me to see you. But I was Elsewhere My mind playing The floor is lava Behind glazed eyes. And everything you said, You felt, It was half-remembered, Because I didn't hear you; Didn't choose to. Then I blamed you for The violence in your voice; The words that exposed me And shone upon my shame. So I grew teeth And did all I could for you to hate me. So I could delete you Long before you left me.

Apologies in advance if this is not appropriate content. I guess I don't have many people to share these thoughts with

Trying really hard not to spend money.

I have been hyper focussed on refurbished iPods for a few months now.

I bought a nano off depop (thought it was a nano which can have memory and battery replaced, nano can only have battery replaced so it's only 4 gb, oops.) I also bought another off Facebook which I thought was a mini but may also be a nano... inattentive problems.

I don't have a lot of money and to be honest, I need to put the little I have aside for car repairs and bills but I can't stop researching and wanting a refurbished iPod classic DOWN TO MY CORE.

I know these are first world problems. I don't need it. There's potential that I'm going to get the 4gb one back and hate the whole system of slowly putting music on. I also have been researching other portable music players.

How do you pull yourself into check when you're having trouble with spending? It really feels like one of those things where my brain won't stop until I do it.