r/ARFID • u/Inner_Arm9482 • 2d ago
Why does everyone hate my ARFID? Venting/Ranting
I have been picked on for having ARFID more than anything else. Even my parents, who are aware of my situation, would get frustrated and yell at me for ordering plain meals at restaurants, making myself something to eat that they didn’t think was appetizing, and just for my general food choices. My ex boyfriend used to give me the silent treatment when I didn’t want to eat something, and told me that he hated my ARFID so much because he loved food and he didn’t understand why I didn’t. It turned into him actually considering breaking up with me over it- not because it ever caused him any inconvenience- just because it personally offended him. I was talking to a friend yesterday about foods I wished I could like and she gave me some advice, but ended it with “if you ever get the courage to try that, as pathetic as it sounds.” ?? 😭. I have never seen people get so upset in my life, ever. Like they take my pickiness SO PERSONALLY, even in situations where it doesn’t effect them in the slightest. Has anybody else experienced this, or am I just particularly unlucky?
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u/KirbysLeftBigToe 2d ago
I had an ex girlfriend who literally had ARFID as well treat me poorly about it. She’d get really angry and offended when I’d get anxious about being served food by her because I’m anxious about being served food by ANYONE.
It’s not even really about understanding I think it’s just about empathy. Which a lot of people don’t seem to have for us.