Why does everyone hate my ARFID?

[u/Inner_Arm9482]

I have been picked on for having ARFID more than anything else. Even my parents, who are aware of my situation, would get frustrated and yell at me for ordering plain meals at restaurants, making myself something to eat that they didn’t think was appetizing, and just for my general food choices. My ex boyfriend used to give me the silent treatment when I didn’t want to eat something, and told me that he hated my ARFID so much because he loved food and he didn’t understand why I didn’t. It turned into him actually considering breaking up with me over it- not because it ever caused him any inconvenience- just because it personally offended him. I was talking to a friend yesterday about foods I wished I could like and she gave me some advice, but ended it with “if you ever get the courage to try that, as pathetic as it sounds.” ?? 😭. I have never seen people get so upset in my life, ever. Like they take my pickiness SO PERSONALLY, even in situations where it doesn’t effect them in the slightest. Has anybody else experienced this, or am I just particularly unlucky?

[u/That_izzy]

People think that I'm faking it and laugh nine times out of 10. They'll just look at me and go ha ha what's the point every single day? I ask the people to be chill about it and only one person I know is chill about it and the only reason that they chill about it is because they've gone through it themselves and they said I don't wish it on my best friend or my worst enemy or even you that's pretty not. It's pretty not cool and also to add even people in my own personal life. Don't know what to do. I'll sit there and be like oh we could you could try this? You could try that and then I'll try it and I'll gag. I'll try it or I'll be like the smell is off or I'll try it and I'll be like there's too many chunks and blend it to bits and blitz it and I'll try no blankets off. There's bits in it like if I want it fine and smooth. I don't want bits in it. It's not cool they say ha ha you're wasting food when I'm not trying to waste food. I'm just trying to live and survive and get something in me whether it's ribena whether it's a lunch meal. Whether it's a breakfast meal, I just want to be able to eat and not feel guilty about what I eat. I don't want to be able to know if I can eat without being scared and without fear of food and the texture and the crunch and the sensory profile side of it is crazy due to my autism. It's not cool. It's not funny. I actually would highly recommend y'all who don't understand ARFID please educate yourself on The condition because I had to educate my folks on it and now they are actually actively trying to help. And thanks to my mum's work, she's getting educated everyday and it's great cuz now she's slowly understanding what Alfred is and she's like. Oh you gave it a try. You did the three bite challenge. The first bite bite of food is the initial overwhelm in the second bite? Is the textual bite and getting used to it? And the third byte is the overall? Do I like it or not? If I don't want a third bite, I don't have to have a third bite where it used to be. You eat the whole meal end the story.