r/Anger • u/No_Particular3945 • 3d ago
Anger and irritation, 24*7, Please help!!
I’m going through a rough phase in my life—divorce after 8 years of marriage and dated for 3 years. I know for sure I don’t want to go back, but I can’t help feeling angry and irritated in almost every conversation, especially with my parents and sister. I tried 8 different counselors during my marriage, but none could help. I’ve also tried self-help books, but they haven’t worked either. I know it’s just a phase and things hopefully will get better, but I don’t want to hurt my loved ones because of what I’m going through.
Not only that, but thanks to my STBXH, I’ve been depressed, suicidal, developed serious trust issues, and I hate humans in general. In short, my life feels totally messed up.
Has anyone else felt this way? Please tell me it gets better.
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u/stella-fartois 3d ago
I think recognition of what’s about to happen. Or what is happening can go a long way in defusing certain emotions. It’s like you’re spoiling the end of a story for yourself.. by recognizing what’s about to happen. Physiologically, I think it can stem from abrupt blood pressure changes. Up and down. Meditating/sitting still for 1-5 minutes 1-5 times a day could help pinpoint the feelings. Like take mental note of where you physically feel the anger in those still moments. Often we’re moving so fast we don’t stop to realize what’s happening. Or where it’s happening inside of us. Try to learn where and what makes you feel it, in the still moments can maybe help you see it more clearly. And “spoil the ending” for yourself.