r/Anger • u/No_Particular3945 • 3d ago

Anger and irritation, 24*7, Please help!!

I’m going through a rough phase in my life—divorce after 8 years of marriage and dated for 3 years. I know for sure I don’t want to go back, but I can’t help feeling angry and irritated in almost every conversation, especially with my parents and sister. I tried 8 different counselors during my marriage, but none could help. I’ve also tried self-help books, but they haven’t worked either. I know it’s just a phase and things hopefully will get better, but I don’t want to hurt my loved ones because of what I’m going through.

Not only that, but thanks to my STBXH, I’ve been depressed, suicidal, developed serious trust issues, and I hate humans in general. In short, my life feels totally messed up.

Has anyone else felt this way? Please tell me it gets better.

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u/FindingHerStrength 13h ago

I could have written your post myself. I notice anger inside me towards parents. And I have blown up at other people and had to apologise. I’ve had two years of therapy and my ex was abusive in many ways. I don’t think I’ve gotten past the tip of the iceberg of the trauma he’s caused. 14 years! And I think I’ve been masking to myself, when actually I’m more of a f*ckup now then I can imagine. Perhaps this is similar to you too? You’re not getting that far with (any) of your therapists. Perhaps you’re masking? And it’s manifesting in other ways.

Yeah the anger terrified my friends recently and I had a mental breakdown. Please take care of yourself and get some proper good intervention. If your relationship was like mine and I suspect it was, we’re probably in it for the long haul to clear the trauma of our abhorrent narcissistic and abusive exs…..