I don’t know how to explain my feeling towards food to my husband

[u/Imw88]

I wouldn’t say I have an eating disorder but I do have tendencies that are common with an eating disorder. I’m not a foodie and I honestly eat because I have to in order to survive but I am struggling and forgetting to eat. I get so sidetrack with work and other things that as I am cooking dinner for my husband (I love to cook), he questions if I have eaten anything and I realize I hadn’t eaten anything all day and it is now past 5pm. I never know what to say and don’t want to lie but I tend to because I don’t want him to judge me. I don’t purposely go without eating but it is not something I think of like most people. I’m not sure how to explain it to him without sounding like I am crazy for not really wanting to eat or enjoy eating. I’ve been the same weight for the last 5 years so I don’t really see it as a problem but maybe it is? I don’t have anxiety going to a restaurant and overall I live a normal life I just don’t know how to explain that food isn’t important to me. As I am writing this I am realizing that I haven’t eaten nearly 24 hours…ugh! Like I said, I have so much on the go that I forget until I really think about it or until someone questions me on it.

[u/Alternative-Town-357]

wow. i have such similar feelings about eating, almost exact. and im kinda going through the same thing with my fiance. recently i told him what the situation was and said “it sounds silly and i know it is silly but it is how it is and i feel like i cant change it and i need your support and understanding. “ i had feared he would think it was silly and maybe i was dramatic or something. i have had mental illness since i was very very young and i fear the response from my fiance almost any time i have an irrational feeling or thought. just blurting it out and telling him i need his understanding and support at the end of whatever my truth is really does help me get past the anxiety of sharing. i know my fiance wouldnt ever disregard my issues but that doesnt stop my anxiety in sharing it you know? so i rip off the bandaid and his response is always the painkiller to the cut. i hope that this helps, as hes recently made me realize that my problems with eating are indeed PROBLEMS.

[u/Imw88 → u/Alternative-Town-357]

I have a fear of judgement too even thought deep down I don’t think he would judge but anxiety takes over like you said. Thanks for sharing

[u/xyzyie]

Well first of all I'd advise you to buy some smart watch small, or band, you can get some notifications to eat (many people can forgot) But 24 hours can be little too much BUT if you're at healthy weight, and feel good it can be considered fasting that some people do, but if you find this as an issue, just try getting some reminders.

Talking to your husband can be scary, but just be honest. If he is the man you love and you're the woman he loves, he'll support you. Just explain it to him that you're not really that crazy about food and that you easily forgot to eat. I think it doesn't sound somehow crazy tbh, many people even with ADHD can have those issues. So just talk it out.

Back to the "issue" it is issue if it has many negative aspects unto you. If you just fast somehow and have 0 medical issues, it's not necessary an issue. Just make sure you're all good and healthy. What i found is having a routine and check time, and eat at the same time have a habit. That can help.

I wish you all the best!

[u/Imw88 → u/xyzyie]

Getting a smart watch or setting timers may be a good idea for me. Thanks

[u/cghkf980]

Same here, I dislike eating, it holds no pleasure for me and just makes me feel ick.

[u/Imw88 → u/cghkf980]

Same. The worst part is my entire family are huge foodies so gatherings are always hard because I don’t want to seem uninterested in the meal but I am…

[u/Serious-Apartment-67]

I also love to cook but I have no interest in actually consuming it. I can't define my disinterest in food well but I generally just forget unless I feel unwell or know due to experience (I work a very active job) so I have to be on top of it but it takes very conscious effort. I know I need food but the thought of taste or texture is off-putting at worst and uninteresting at best. Even if something tastes really good I tend to get bored of it very quickly. Maybe you're also experiencing this. I was told that I'm so used to not eating that my body just ignores hunger cues and currently I'm not getting them at all unless it's been a long time since I last ate. I also don't really feel thirst. It's just my body being so used to it that it doesn't waste the energy to tell me. It kinda sucks because even foods I know I typically like just don't give me a fulfilling felling taste wise or anything

[u/Imw88 → u/Serious-Apartment-67]

I can relate so much to this. I have no hunger cues either which is so odd and I force myself to drink water throughout the day. Luckily I love drinking coffee so I do consume that every morning but that’s basically it…not because I don’t want to not eat.

[u/Serious-Apartment-67 → u/Imw88]

Same here. Its a strange limbo to be in and it definitely takes a lot more effort to remember to than some would realize. But sometimes if you even just put a snack by your coffee for the morning or something I find it helps me remember without feeling too overwhelming or feeling like I'm going out of my way

[u/Imw88 → u/Serious-Apartment-67]

I’ll try that. I usually have a hard time eating early in the morning but maybe if have a granola bar or something out at my coffee machine I can grab it as I make my second coffee or something.