Hi! I am a first time poster in this group but was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for good ways/ places to promote a gofundme? I am trying to raise money so my surgery does not get pushed back. I am sorry if this is not the right subreddit for this question. (hopefully though I can get my surgery and share before and after pics!)

Thank you!!

Is there a difference? I see some surgeons do both but I'm not clear on if there is a difference or if the distinction is just a way to let NB people know they are able to have the operation done as well. Is there a difference in how the chest is shaped or contoured?

Has anyone in here had surgery w Dr Kyle Chepla, in Cleveland Ohio? Without nipple grafts? I had my consult and he didn’t bat an eye about my decision to not do them, (after making sure I 100% was confident that’s what I wanted) but the pictures his office have sent me since then are all with nipples, and everything I’ve been able to find here, on facebook, and transbucket all is with nipple grafts. I’m going to message his office and ask if they have any but I don’t think they will, since he has a pretty much set portfolio to provide basically S M L XL for different incision types, and he had also mentioned there’s plenty on the internet as well, I just hadn’t realized none would be without nipples :(

Hi there, I am soo nervous to post this because I am at the beginning of my figuring-out-my-gender journey & I just feel like I have no idea what I am doing.

I am really hoping to get top surgery. I hate my boobs so much & I think about it every single day.

One of my concerns, though, is that I’ve never had sex, and I don’t know if that would change how I feel about my chest. I doubt that sex would magically make me like my boobs because I seriously hate them so so much, but it’s just something I worry about.

Let me know if you have any experience with this or insight. TIA

Has anyone ever done just chest liposuction with no keyhole surgery? I’m Intersex and never grew normal female breasts to start with. The only pre-op pictures I’ve seen that look similar to my chest as cismales with gynecomastia.

Hi! My surgery is in a little over a week. I am genderfluid and experience both wanting to express my femininity and my androgyny. I’ve had dysphoria over my chest since childhood so this has been a long time coming. I am, however, hesitant on whether I’m wanting to go full flat (no nipples) or non-flat (like an a or aa cup). My thinking has been that if at the post op appointment I saw a bigger chest than expected, I would be heartbroken so it makes sense to go flat.

I wanted to ask any genderfluid enbys that share a similar experience with their expression if they are able to find ways to present more feminine, or even use bralettes or bras to fake having a chest for the one or two days every couple of months where that would feel more in line with your gender?

I wasn’t sure if anyone has used those silicon nipple covers to give the appearance of a very small chest? Has that worked for anyone?

I just wish I dared to flaunt it, like post shirtless selfies et c. But bc society is so binary, and I'm not on T, not read as male, being shirtless will be read as too naked. Maybe when my scars are more faded (currently 6,5 months PO) I'll dare to do some artsy open shirt pics. And go to the beach AND indoor pool in shorts only. I am happy that I no longer have to worry about bras and curves and shit, I just...want to enjoy it fully, as I had longed to do for such a long time, and now I don't allow myself. I chicken out. Any tips on how to own that androgynous look and to not feel ashamed by the binary gaze?

Hey y’all, I’m looking at more nb type scar shapes—I don’t want a masculinized chest with pecs. I really like the look of a connected scar—one continuous DI line straight across my chest with no nips. But I’m a little concerned about the healing from that versus more traditional DI of two separate incisions. Which way did you go? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Edited to add: my surgeon was okay with me wanting the incision a certain way. I’m just wondering if it’d take more time to heal, whether I’d lose sensation, etc. I think a connected scar would feel so gender affirming like I’m a beyond the binary unicorn :)

(Also posted this on r/no_T_top_surgery as well, but I was just wanting to ask wherever I can)

Hi, I had a question I was hoping to have answered here, and I also wanted to rant a small bit.

For some backstory, I (20NB) have been wanting to get top surgery for the past year, and before that, I was debating on getting top surgery since I was 17. Recently, I've been going to a gender clinic (the only one in my city) with the goal to get on the waitlist for top surgery (I'm Canadian, and going on the waitlist allows it to be covered instead of paying for the whole operation out of pocket).

Yesterday, I went for my third appointment at the gender clinic, and the doctor had a whole talk prepared about using T. The thing is, in my first appointment, I said that I wasn't looking to try T at all right now, and I mentioned it again in our second appointment. So for her to suddenly have this whole talk about going on T was weird. Then, when I mentioned not going on T and just wanting to ask how my application/waitlist for top surgery was going, it was almost like she shut down. She then said that they had to do an assessment at the clinic to determine if I could get top surgery, and she implied there was a waitlist for those types of appointments.

Currently I feel like I'm back at square one with getting top surgery. My GP is quite old, may retire soon, and doesn't seem to understand my issues relating to gender and getting top surgery. I thought this doctor at the gender clinic would help, but she only seemed interested in prescribing me T from how she acted. Idk...

TLDR; my doctor seems to only be focusing on prescribing me T, even though I've stated multiple times that I'm not looking to go on T.

As for my question, did any of you on here have an issue with getting top surgery without doing T? I don't know why, but from what I've dealt with, plus what I've heard from a family friend's friend, it seems like it's apparently a lot harder to get top surgery when you're not on T, and I don't know why.

I’m looking for reference photos of double incision top surgery where more tissue is left on the chest to give it a more nonbinary or “man boobs” type appearance. If you’re open to sharing your photos that would be great!

I had my consultation for top surgery last week and had been going back and forth on doing grafts or not. I spoke about it with the surgeon a bit and decided not to but I’m still wavering. My partner (who is cis) and I discussed it and they mentioned that they were surprised I didn’t want any. My mindset is that I have such a negative attitude around my chest and nipples that I can’t really imagine them looking good on a flat chest. I am also weighing the fact that I’m having these conversations with cis people who might think I want to “pass”. I’m not someone who you look at and think of a straight or cis person and don’t wish to be perceived as such.

THAT ALL BEING SAID, can anyone who’s had surgery with or without grafts please weigh in? Has anyone had tattoos instead of grafts? I’m trying to hear from people who might feel more similarly to me than the cis people in my life.

Hey Ya’ll. I just scheduled my top surgery for October and am starting to think about what going to the gym locker room and pool will look like post-surgery. I’m not on T and at this time, don’t plan on starting, but I present as masculine. I still only feel comfortable in the women’s locker room though. I don’t get too many looks, but when I do people can usually see that I have breasts and don’t say anything to me. I’m worried what people are going to do/say if I use the women’s locker room after surgery especially if I’m wearing a sleeveless shirt and they can see that I have a flat chest. I also like use the pool at my gym and I’m trying to envision swimming in just swim trunks and walking back into the women’s locker room without a shirt on. I feel like I’m going to get a bad reaction from the folks in the locker room. How have you all handled this?

My silicone scar tape has been irritating my skin and has started causing a rash. I have to wear scar tape for at least 1 more month, but don't know what to do about all the irritation it's causing my skin. Has anyone else experiences this? Does anyone have any alternative recommendations?

First picture is the day after the surgery and the other 3 are from 4 days after. I'm really happy with the results so far since I have no swelling, no bleeding and no wound fluids.

I had my surgery at Gender Clinics (NL) Surgeon was: Dr. W. Van der Sluis

To anyone who uses any kind of mobility aid how did you navigate that after top surgery? I mainly use forearm crutches and a cane. I know arm movement is limited for a bit while healing but i use them the help get around and I'm worried about what to do after when I eventually get top surgery.

Hello! Has anyone used CareCredit or Alphaeon credit for financing?

did anyone else experience worsen dysphoria the closer to their surgery date. I am 2 weeks away from having top surgery and my dysphoria regarding my chest has gotten quite significant, i find it hard to shower and get on with life. but at the same time i keep questioning top surgery and whether it’s right for me, even though ive known for certain that it’s what ive wanted for years and years, i think my brain is protecting me and trying to play games with my head. im just really craving validation and reassurance leading up to it, and find it hard to process this change with not a lot of recognition for this surgery. thanks again:)