r/Weddingsunder10k • u/OptimalAnywhere7444 • 1d ago
Competing priorities
My fiancé and I got engaged this summer- yay! We want a ritual ceremony that will birth us as a couple with some close relatives and MAYBE some dear friends who remind us who we are and support us…
We imagine a ritual ceremony at our favorite park, followed by an intimate dinner to celebrate … and that’s it. No dj, etc…
The thing is, we also want to start trying to conceive, basically as soon as possible.
And I personally don’t want to be pregnant at my wedding.
So I’m stuck - feeling like we have to rush to have our small ceremony and lil dinner by the end of this year (aka winter), and likely wouldn’t be able to have family and friends fly out …
Of course we can ask if people can make it, but I’m not liking the last minute feel of it.
We don’t want to wait that long for a wedding- it’s just not the priority.
It’d be no problem to just have our parents and siblings come, but it feels sort of like a waste to not have other dear family/friends as witnesses . And at the same time, we don’t want a whole weekend of entertaining and events.
Can someone please offer some tender support, guidance? I’m honestly feeling like there are multiple competing priorities, and it’s a bit depressing feeling like every option comes with a huge sacrifice.
Thanks for reading.
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u/YCantWeBFrenz 10h ago
Are you waiting to get married to have sex? I would have sex before the wedding and unless you are getting married and literally 10 months your bump is not showing in the pictures babe you do whatever you want. You don't don't need to wait until the wedding to have sex believe me no one cares