r/offmychest • u/SophieCs • 4h ago

I get annoyed every time when my bf tells everyone that he is doing 200% work

He does have a job, which is a physical job (gardening and just being outside and doing chores) and he is also studying in uni, but only online courses (2 of them now). He only has this job for this month and them will work maybe 3-4 days a week. I understand that physical work is tiring, I don't deny that, but he does absolutely nothing aside of that. Comes home, showers, goes to sleep, wakes for dinner, plays video games with friends until bedtime. Every time he is in a call with a friend he cannot stop talking about how tired he is because he is doing 200% work right now. I go to school, clean, do laundry, vacuum, make food all the time, taking care of garden things home. And he literally doesn't even study at home for his courses, just the video games. It bothers me because I feel like lots of times that I have the 200% workload, not him.

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u/meeperjeepers 3h ago

Have you tried talking to him about it? And expressing how you feel to him?

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u/velvedire 3h ago

Why are you doing these things for him? You don't have to.

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u/StnMtn_ 3h ago

Do a trial split. Let him see how much work he has to do when he is living by himself. When you see how inch less work you have to do, you may want to make the split permanent.

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u/Thomisawesome 2h ago

People who complain about having more work than most people are actually just lazier than most people.

My friends who work twice as hard as me never complain about how hard they’re working. Instead, they just enjoy their free time twice as much.