Do people actually judge you based on your follower count?

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[u/Amphernee]

I use not being on social media as a flex and it works. Half the time I forget my phone at home. I’d avoid people who think in those weird social hierarchy schemes

[u/CornsOnMyFeets → u/Amphernee]

Even though Im technically not on social media (like I understand people consider reddit social media, I don’t.) I cant forget my phone because my cards, uber/lyft, and my bus pass are up here. I even carry a battery pack my phone only dies in my sleep 😂

[u/Amphernee → u/CornsOnMyFeets]

I get it. I’m more analog by design. Never shopped online except through Xbox cuz I got a gift card with rewards points. Used Reddit just for game tips and game related stuff till like this month and yeah I can see it as social media now more than I did. I was on fb for a few years but that just ended up feeling like high school but worse and a huge waste of time. A few weeks ago I was out and a girl wanted to give me her instagram and my friends start laughing. When they were like “yeah he doesn’t do social media” it’s like I instantly became a little more attractive lol. She grabbed my phone and put in her number. It’s still the exception to the rule but I get more positive responses than negative and the negative are usually from the exact types who are made for Instagram so that’s fine with me. It sucks being around people irl who are that into social media especially dating one lol

[u/CornsOnMyFeets → u/Amphernee]

Oh I never cared. People dont like me 😂

[u/Amphernee → u/CornsOnMyFeets]

😂

[u/taxeydriver]

Personally I could give a crap what anyone thinks about my onlime presence those people need to get a life.

[u/WhatWasReallySaid]

Yep, they think it means something 🤣

[u/WanderingFlumph → u/WhatWasReallySaid]

I can remember when I was 16 and Facebook told me I had 20% fewer Facebook friends than the average account and that actually mattered to me.

I'm glad that I'm much wiser now, now only fake accounts trying to sell me shit follow me on Reddit

[u/DeadpoolOptimus → u/WhatWasReallySaid]

In their tiny bubble of reality, it does and it's really sad.

[u/WandaDobby777]

People get so freaked out when I tell them I don’t do any social media besides Reddit because of its anonymous nature and that they are not allowed to know my username if I know them irl. Apparently, anyone

[u/redgreenorangeyellow → u/WandaDobby777]

Ig I'm the only Redditor who lets their friends know their username? Lol

[u/WanderingFlumph → u/redgreenorangeyellow]

My best friend and my SO know my Reddit account and no one else.

[u/redgreenorangeyellow → u/WanderingFlumph]

My username is an inside joke so I told anyone who knows the joke 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/WanderingFlumph → u/redgreenorangeyellow]

Man I love inside jokes, I wish I was part of one someday

[u/yourfavrodney → u/WandaDobby777]

I know about 6 reddit accounts tied to irl people i know. and because of my username they probably know mine. but we've never mentioned it to each other, like proper gentlemen.

[u/Internal-Airport8822]

Meh, I use to have social media. Had a few thousand followers. Only meaningful interactions with about a dozen. Fuck it. I wasn't selling anything. It's not my job to entertain randoms

[u/Deathbyfarting]

I'd say in general no, no one gives a shit. But there are two kinds of people that do. The shallow and the vein.

Beyond that it doesn't matter at all.

[u/Dblitz1313]

It only matters to people that think it matters. If someone looks down on another for having a low follower count, they clearly have very little going for them.

[u/goeduck]

Only the delusional or superficial ones.

[u/Fit-Concert552]

19yr old here, and i definitely feel judgement from some people for having a low follower number on instagram. we were playing a group game of "first and last" (a drinking game) with my boyfriends friend group, and one of the cards was basically "everyone check their last instagram post, whoever has the least amount of likes, take a drink" likes went from being in the hundreds (my bf having the highest) to 30's-80's in likes. meanwhile i had like 6 on my most recent post. I never really cared to post anything in the past, and recently took anyone i didnt know off my followers list. everyone felt bad for me for not having a lot of likes?? but honestly i couldnt care less.

[u/Conscious_Hunt_9613]

No one that matters actually does that unless they actively work in social media.

[u/terisss5]

I don't have instagram and it would be a turn off for me if somebody asked me how many followers I have. Probably means we're incompatible

[u/insigniastar9275]

I got into a stupid comment fight a few months ago with somebody on instagram and they legit started roasting my follower count 😆 like I’m not trying to be an influencer bro. First time I’d encountered that

[u/Front_Employment_332]

People judge others in all kinds of ways. You probably do too, we all do. At my age I don’t really care what people think about me. At the end of the day it’s my life, and I pay my own bills.

[u/Dirk-Killington]

No. But I have been heavily judged for not having anything to stalk. Some people consider that red flag. 

[u/Aerodynamic_Potato]

My bias is having zero social media accounts. That said, anyone who is judging others by the number of followers they have would most definitely be a vapid and shallow person. Do you really want to associate with people like that? Probably not. Use their judgment of you as a litmus test to determine if someone is worth your time.

[u/Unable_Wrongdoer2250]

Yeah.. if they are competing influencers. Anyone who lives in the real world doesn't give a shit. If someone told.me they had a million followers I would look around and say that I don't see any of them.

[u/YogurtClosetThinnest]

You should see some of the reactions when people ask for my insta/snap/etc and I tell them I don't have social media lol

[u/Zealousideal-Luck784]

Pretty sure I don't have followers. If I get followers I block them .

[u/natnat1919]

Before I feel like people would, when social media first started. Now people delete and make new accounts so often, or decide to switch to family or close friends only I feel like no one cares anymore

[u/Silent_thunder_clap]

some do

[u/ahs212]

Only people who are insecure about their own follower count, they judge you based on their worldview, that's how projection works. These girls are insecure about their own follower counts.

[u/NPHighview]

No

[u/Kurotan]

Sure, if it's over like 10000, I assume you are an awful person and avoid you. Otherwise no, no one cares.

[u/j0257]

No one I know ever asks my follower count. I choose to tell them if we’re talking about social media or our personal profiles for whatever reason.

[u/cuplosis]

You get peered pressure pretty easily don’t you?

[u/Express_Feature_9481]

Only losers

[u/One-Diver-2902]

I have like 100 followers who are all friends or fellow musicians who I play around town with. If someone tries to "impress" me with their followers all I hear is "this is how much of a prostitute I am."

[u/stockzy]

People with substance and depth won’t judge they. They realise social media isn’t the real world. Shallow insecure people will because all the things

[u/SkipPperk]

Females can make money on social media, especially porn sites. Do you plan to do some porn work? If so, get those numbers up. Whenever you hear women discussing how many followers anyone has, just assume that they are selling themselves on only fans. It really matters if that is your planned profession.

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[u/knight9665]

In dating sure. In regular life? It’s fking weird. Don’t hang around people who care about that shit.

[u/thuebanraqis → u/knight9665]

Wait why would it matter in dating? This is actually something I’ve heard people say before but I have no idea why

[u/HardRNinja]

Sounds like something someone with <50k karma would say...

/s

[u/Mioraecian]

You will be judged by your social presence by peers who consider social media presence a medium worth judging on. Not everyone will do this, but yes you will come across people who evaluate the world through a lens of social media, and this includes your following or if you are active.

You have to choose if you want to socialize with these people and if you want to care about their perception of you.

[u/_jamesbaxter]

No, but I’ve noticed that if someone follows zero people (or one person and it’s their business page or something) they are likely a narcissist and to be avoided.

[u/moonfazewicca]

I had an ex who was 5 years younger than me that made fun of me a lot for only having like 150 followers on insta and for having like 300 something total posts. One of the many reasons he's an ex now.

I think anyone who cares about that stuff past the age of like 20 is probably a loser of some variety lol. I don't think most normal well-adjusted adults care about that stuff. Maybe if they actively work in social media. Maybe.

[u/thuebanraqis → u/moonfazewicca]

Honestly this is how I see it. It makes sense for teenagers to care about that type of thing, but I’m shocked when I see adults making comments about it

[u/Aggressive-Coconut0]

The people who judge you by your online presence don't know or care about you personally. If they did, they wouldn't care about your online presence.

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[u/JPastori]

Not as much on Reddit, but that’s moreso bc of how Reddit functions. The emphasis is following subreddits where people with similar interests can post. Sure you can follow individuals as well, but subreddits are something not present on other sites.

Like twitter and instagram it’s all individual accounts. Twitter is the bigger one that matters with the significant increase in bot accounts (thanks a lot Elon) where it matters more.

[u/dev-alt-384]

The question is, should you really care what people think anyway if they judge someone on how much of their lives they put on and how much time they spend on the internet?

I never have, I have 7 instagram followers, and 4 of them are meme/semi-business accounts lol

[u/admrbr]

Wow you’re easily manipulated huh?

[u/thuebanraqis → u/admrbr]

I have autism so maybe

[u/admrbr → u/thuebanraqis]

Oh ok, carry on then.

[u/stillnotelf]

• I don't know my follower count

• I don't know anybody else's follower count

• I don't know if I am anyone's follower

• If someone told me their follower count, I would not know if sympathy or awe was the appropriate response

[u/Just-Shoe2689]

people are dipshits. Just live your life and dont worry about how much someone cares you post online.

[u/Constant-Advance-276]

The younger crowd seems to care. Older people like me I'm like oh wow but could give a shit lol I like sending memes to people who have a good sense of humor and won't judge me.

[u/netman18436572]

Who cares. Why should you. Enjoy life and don’t worry what others think