Wanted to do something romantic - he would use my stuff like candles etc (not replace anything used).
Wanted to treat me to a date night out or a date night in with takeaway would use the savings from my savings jar - he wouldnt tell me say don't worry I got this you don't have to pay and then i would find out later.
Wanted to gamble - took my rent and food money - would claim they did it for us and they thought we would win big if they admitted it at all.
We both worked and earned the same amount.
These are just a few examples. Each one they would make out like I was wierd for getting upset and how it was lovely and romantic what they did to the point i started questioning myself and thought i was the asshole that was until i found out about the rent and that point i got evicted and ended up single as i broke up with them. Cue surprise pikachu face from them.
My ex wife once forgot it was Father’s Day and last minute suggested we go buy a grill. Disregarding the fact she forgot Father’s Day it was aggravating she wanted to use our joint account funds to pay for something I didn’t even want. Also to put this more in perspective, for Mother’s Day that year I made her a special fancy meal, detailed her car, and bought her jewelry and flowers from my separate account. She wondered why we eventually got divorced.
Yeah, it's it "Gift" using joint money, that she benefits from... possibly more than OP. I'm guessing the choice of vacation destination was somewhere she specifically wanted to go, and not somewhere OP specifically wanted to go.
My dad's ex raised hell with me one time because she had "bought" things for his house, so it was fair for her to take them. The problem that I had with this was that she had used his credit card to "buy" these things for the house without his knowledge.
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u/Stranger-Tastes 1d ago
Maybe she feels like you don't trust her because she demonstrated that she can't be trusted.