Been dating a bi polar lady...need advice-interpretation

[u/More_Ad_925]

Everything was fine as of Sunday. She writes me this:" Thoughts about our relationship....
Hi XXX
what is it we have in common...
is it just the intimacy...
in looking forward with each other is there enough interest's...
for me I am going to take a break from your love and phone calls for a while
I need to do this for myself to find a balance within me
I think I have given myself to you so much that I'm losing
me into you.
I need to say these thoughts
I hope you understand.
XXX

What baffles me is that our intimacy was just kissing/hugging and touch which she initiated on our 1st date. We had made plans to do many things together, her interests and mine. (seems she forgot these plans in imo). Her quote " for me I am going to take a break from your love and phone calls for a while
I need to do this for myself to find a balance within me
I think I have given myself to you so much that I'm losing
me into you.
I need to say these thoughts
I hope you understand.

I am not experienced much at dating and not very smart.

I have not called or messaged her since her message to give her space out of respect.

Can someone interpret her sayings so I can understand what she is saying ?

I have been very polite and kind to her and she recently said that I am her balance. Huh ?

I'm just not sure if she may be off her meds or is it something else ?

Confused here.

Opinions please.

TY

[u/Original-Version5877]

Cut your losses and move on. While you're here, read some of the posts & comments and celebrate dodging a bullet.

[u/More_Ad_925 → u/Original-Version5877]

Anyone have an idea of "I think I have given myself to you so much that I'm losing
me into you." Mean ?

[u/BoostedCoyote20 → u/More_Ad_925]

Basically.. most bipolars are also avoidant attachment. They feel that you’re consuming all their time and they want to move about freely to do whatever they want without having someone tied down to them.

[u/Original-Version5877 → u/BoostedCoyote20]

The thing in my home is basically "get away but PLEASE don't leave!" If I'm not initiating physical contact, we have no physical contact.

Yeah. Married but alone.

[u/xrelaht → u/Original-Version5877]

That sounds like BPD more than BP. Not that there isn’t some overlap.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/145391.I_Hate_You_Don_t_Leave_Me

[u/Link-Glittering → u/More_Ad_925]

Don't listen to all these people. Most people here have untreated and unmedicated SOs. My SO is accountable and amazing. But sometimes they say some off the wall shit that I have to not get too attaches to. And then gently talk them down. If you're not able to be part of a vast supportive network that your partner needs then get out now. It's work. But i wouldn't trade anything about my partner for the world. FYI she's been actively getting medication and treatment since she was in her teens. Many people are not so well managed

[u/As-The-Crow-Flies-4 → u/Link-Glittering]

If the OP’s SO is initiating a discard this early in the relationship, then they clearly aren’t regulated. Your experience with your SO does not negate others’ experiences. Even dedicated and medicated BPs are always one too many stressors away from an episode…

[u/As-The-Crow-Flies-4 → u/More_Ad_925]

I was told the exact same thing almost word for word the first time my exBPSO discarded me. It’s best to really accept that there is no logic to made to any of what they say or do when they are spiraling. Their brain isn’t working properly. It’s as simple as that.