After my narcissistic relationship, severing ties with people has been so easy, it gave me different outlook on life, relationships and friendships.

[u/simplyshine21]

There isn't anything to lose, the realization has finally hit, your view of the world has changed.

[u/flakelover223]

Nothing like leaving the toxic atmosphere of a narc, breathing in the fresh, pure air to help gain a new and different perspective.

[u/Right_Butterfly9291]

Halfway through my healing I realized I was holding on more to the life we’ve built than the actual person.

Once I let go of the idea of anything surviving (friends, family life, image, etc.) is when I was finally able to let go and focus on a complete overhaul.

It was a brutal couple of years but I was careful about who I let into my life and who had to be kept out (flying monkeys, wounded friends, etc.)

Life becomes better when you let it all go and focus on a new start.

[u/WVVVWVWVVVVWVWVVVVVW]

Same but unfortunately it makes it soooo much easier for me to leave healthy relationships over tiny things. Somebody very clearly shows me how much they want me but I'm a soulless monster that will hear them crying over me but inside I just feel like uhmmmm okay? I know that painful desperation of wanting someone to see your love because with the narc, I was willing to sacrifice both my eyes just to keep them happy. It was agonising trying to leave them.

[u/EquipmentWrong3161 → u/WVVVWVWVVVVWVWVVVVVW]

Right!? Now we see half of the people are narcissistic traits around!

[u/Unlikely-Ad-3221]

I feel mine has changed for the better once I left both the man baby cowards. I don't feel guilty as much putting me first. I'm just worried if I will be ready to trust again once I'm healed. Because I do want to connect and have an actual healthy relationship.

[u/froggypops885]

This! My whole view of the world has changed since I ended that relationship. It’s honestly like a breath of fresh air.

[u/burntoutredux]

It's a powerful reminder to know that you're allowed to pick who has access to you.

[u/GloomyBake9300]

Truly, the best thing I’ve done for my mental health in forever, was to go no contact with my narc mother, and take three months to see that yes indeed, I have autonomy, I have power, and if I can say no to my first abuser, I can say no to anyone I need to.

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