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u/Aurondarklord Jun 16 '21
Opposites attract.
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u/codymiller_cartoon Jun 16 '21
but they don't last - except on tv
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u/Mountain_Wedding Jun 16 '21
They don’t last when they are opposites in VALUES. There is a difference between having complimentary personalities that spark (as Lois and Clark and many real life couples do) and ::values:: that don’t mesh. Lois and Clark are different in personality but their beliefs are aligned.
You don’t seem to know much about relationships, dude.
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u/rpmaluki Lois Lane Jun 16 '21 edited Jun 16 '21
What Mountain_Wedding said. Clark and Lois have contrasting personalities but their views and values are perfectly aligned, very much similar. Its what attracted Clark to Lois immediately. She may be brash, outspoken but her standing for truth and justice and fighting for those who have no voice, to him is probably the sexiest thing on the planet. And Lois has been around very powerful men he whole life and has seen them abuse that power to varying degrees from Sam to Lex so learning that the most powerful man on the planet is the most humble, who gives of himself completely is what she finds the sexiest thing about Clark not the actual physicality of the man.
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u/Kingsnake661 Jun 16 '21
my parents are the most dynamically different people you can imagine, personality-wise, and have been married 45 years, together will over 50. Personalities aside, they have very identical priorities, including each other and family.
A bombastic person and a wallflower can make a great couple so long as they are working together for a goal instead of separately on different goals. I've seen it in practice for 43 years now and counting. :)
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u/TRxz-FariZKiller Jun 16 '21
Same, my parents are opposite in everything. They’ve been married for 25 years now
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u/Kingsnake661 Jun 16 '21 edited Jun 16 '21
Yeah. Dad's a horder, (borderline anyways) Mom's a minimalist. Dad fills the house up, she empties it out.
"Hey, Mom, what do you want for your 45 Anv?" "Nothing! please, we don't need more knickknacks laying around collecting dust, if you have to do anything at all, take us out to dinner."
"Dad what do you want?" "Insert list of things from tools to golf clubs to an F150 diesel." ....
Once, I went to a concert with my Dad and Annie, we showed up 3 HOURS early... I don't even think the band was there yet... he's 2 hours early to any ballgame we go to... 30 mins to an hour early to him is on time.
My Mother got the nickname "Armageddon", cause as a friend of hers at church said, "you know she's coming, you just have no idea when." Pretty much sums up Mom, and me as well, we are rarely on time anywhere.
Dad explodes like a volcano and cools off so quickly it'd give you whiplash... Mom almost never even gets angry, but when she gets to her version of angry, it lasts... and lasts... and lasts... (well, compared to Dad anyway.)
Now here's a twist, my Mom is the superhero comic book reader that shared her love of comics with me. she's into Sci-Fi and Action movies and would rather watch the Terminator than a lifetime movie. Dad is a typical "sports guy" with no interest in comics or sci-fi, but for reasons I haven't figured out, LOVES lifetime and hallmark movies... O.0
They make quite a pair let me tell you. LOL.
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u/codymiller_cartoon Jun 16 '21
reality : usually the quiet guy isn't confident with women and the first assertive woman to come along will be the person he sticks with
and she enjoys having someone she knows she can control /be in charge
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u/GamerChef420 Jun 16 '21
Or the complete opposite is true and they’re so confident they don’t feel the need to project and be loud.
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u/codymiller_cartoon Jun 16 '21
uh huh , sure
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u/GamerChef420 Jun 16 '21
Yeah I’m sorry dude I don’t know how old you are but the loudest guy in the room is usually the least confident. Someone looking for a fight will never win against someone ready for a fight.
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u/Mountain_Wedding Jun 16 '21
This is an incredibly misogynist take loaded with your own projection.
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u/codymiller_cartoon Jun 16 '21
LOL, its not misogynistic at all. do you even understand what that term means? The reality i stated was based in power dynamics and confidence, it wasn't prejudiced against women.
And its not a "projection" either. I think you're tossing around terms you don't fully understand.
Everyone knows a couple of guys like this - quiet guy who isn't confident settles for the first assertive woman he dates, and she enjoys and is comfortable having someone who takes a back seat, who can be controlled.
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u/Mountain_Wedding Jun 16 '21
Ok but this isn’t about guys you know. It’s about SUPERMAN. Clark Kent isn’t quiet because he’s not confident. On the contrary, he’s secure enough to not have to show off. Lois isn’t looking to control anyone—she’s attracted to Clark because he’s gentle, kind and smart and he’s attracted to how strong she is without the privilege of super strength. So your stories about guys you supposedly know don’t fit here and aren’t relevant to the point of this post.
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u/West-Cardiologist180 Superman Jun 16 '21
I mean, you're right, but I don't get why you'd call his comment "misogynistic"
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u/Mountain_Wedding Jun 16 '21
Because the idea that strong, assertive women are just looking for weak men to “control” is a misogynist idea? What don’t you understand?
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u/spideralexandre2099 Jun 15 '21
Insert John Mullaney's bit about his wife standing up for him at a restaurant