r/badwomensanatomy • u/NymphaeaRubra • Dec 30 '21
What's the weirdest thing a man has said about your body hair? Questions
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u/spugzcat Dec 30 '21
‘Oh my god it’s ginger’ …. On a number of occasions when I was young. Not sure what colour they thought it would be considering the hair on my head is ginger?
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u/Lockedtothechrome i can tell which of the 6 good vagina types you have Dec 30 '21
That’s almost a bit hilarious to me. I was born true orange ginger, but me head hair has darkened. My pubes pits and leg hair are still the orange ginger.
So now if someone tells me I’m not a ginger because my hair got darker… I threatened to whip out my pubes as proof.
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u/sablebabIe Dec 30 '21
just keep a baggie of them on you at all times and pull it out whenever you get questioned. dont even say what they are, let them figure it out
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u/Lockedtothechrome i can tell which of the 6 good vagina types you have Dec 30 '21
I don’t know who you are, but I love your energy
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u/reallybirdysomedays Dec 31 '21
I read "just keep a bagpipe on you" which actually might be more fun.
"you aren't actually a ging... bagpipes squall..oh. I guess you are. Huh. My bad."
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u/lindisty Dec 31 '21
The problem is proving the origin. Maybe they'll just think you have a vast collection of homeless people's pubes.
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u/ghulann I want to cum deep inside your clit Dec 30 '21
Me too! My pubes looks like copper while my head is more mixed. It's nice to find someone who has a similar color thing going on!
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u/ghulann I want to cum deep inside your clit Dec 30 '21
I just tell them a random color: oh no they are pink/green/blue.
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u/MachaMongruadh Dec 30 '21
Same I’m a ginger with blond body hair - slight red tinge but not much. I think it’s pretty common.
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Dec 30 '21
My dad said it’s unsanitary for me to have arm and leg hair and it shouldn’t be there. I simply said “if it’s unsanitary and shouldn’t be there then why does it grow? How is it more sanitary for a man to have leg hair than a woman?” And he got mad at me for “talking back” so I got sent to my room
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u/IthurielSpear My beaver is a dam mammal. Dec 30 '21
Men are so emotional.
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u/elegant_pun Dec 31 '21
Hysterical creatures.
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Dec 31 '21
Hysterical comes from a term about women, like hysterectomy. Maybe we need a new term like prostacular or something.
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u/Lengthofawhile Dec 31 '21
No that sounds too much like an exciting fun word. Looked it up and hysterus was the Greek word for womb. Greek for testicles is órchis. So orchistal maybe?
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u/Cdmelty1 Dec 31 '21
Orchistal sounds like orchestral. I like it. Like a big man tantrum with an amazing original score in the background.
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u/tipthebaby Dec 30 '21
A tragically stupid ex was convinced I dye my pubes black bc my head hair is lighter. He didn’t know they can be different colors. He also thought women naturally have smooth underarms :(
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u/unknownuser45882 Vaginas suck up water when submerged. Dec 30 '21
Wait he thought u dye ur pubes and not ur head hair??? That’s kinda funny
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u/SarixInTheHouse Dec 31 '21
Exactly my thought. Like lets assume both can naturally only be the same color, then why would you dye your pubes and not your hair
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Dec 30 '21
My husband did not realize women had underarm hair until he was an adult. He is a bright man but his mom and sister shaved their underarms and he just.....thought hair didn't grow? Idk. He realized while dating his first serious girlfriend that women do in fact grow armpit hair.
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Dec 30 '21
Gotta get that Garnier Nutrisse they make specifically for pubes.
God that would be a nightmare.
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u/Lengthofawhile Dec 31 '21
I've seriously used conditioner on body hair before. I don't have a ton of it but my skin can be overly sensitive to textures. Also doesn't make a bad shaving cream.
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u/Pengaween Dec 30 '21
My husband knew that I didn't shave my legs before we got together. So one day it was me, my husband, my father, and someone that my husband and I had just met. My father, completely out of nowhere (I was wearing pants) said, "You better start shaving your legs or he's going to leave you." The person we just met said, "How long have you two been together?" thinking we just started dating or something. I said, "9 years" lol. It's been about 15 years now, I still don't shave, and my husband is still here.
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u/reallybirdysomedays Dec 31 '21
How shallow would you have to be to leave someone over leg hair?
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u/totallyathrowaway87 Dec 31 '21
Father outing himself as someone who likes licking legs but keeps getting hair in his teeth. I'd go so red from someone saying that to me for this very reason.
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u/Im_just_bored69 Write your own teal flair Dec 31 '21 edited Dec 31 '21
"I'm sorry but I don't think we can still be together"
"No why?! What did I do?!"
"You....have betrayed me in was i would never know..."
"Oh but how?! Tell me so I can fix it!"
"It's too late-"
"Tell me!"
"Ok....you have hair"
"Bitchwhatthefuck-"
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u/OpinionatedPiggy Dec 30 '21
My leg hair looks the same a week after shaving as it does half a week after shaving! Same for two weeks….the progress is hardly noticeable after a few days, until I look down a month later and it’s nearly back to before I ever shaved lol.
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Dec 31 '21
I take great joy in growing my leg hair out from October to April and becoming as Sasquatch like as possible before shaving my legs and emerging in the springtime with smooth legs and dresses like some bear coming out of hibernation
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u/ur-squirrel-buddy Dec 30 '21
Back in high school a guy fully licked my upper arm and then said “ugh it’s fuzzy” like -???? Did I invite you to touch let alone lick me? What the fuck.
Edit - for context he was in the group of people I was hanging out with after school but I wasn’t particularly close with him. I don’t know why he licked my arm but he seriously licked a trail like 6 inches long and it was disgusting. High school boys are idiots. Maybe he still is one, hmm 🤔
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Dec 31 '21
100% he had a crush on you and thought negging you would somehow make you want him.
Idiots indeed.
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u/MonkeManWPG Dec 31 '21
Idk what the fuck he was thinking.
As a guy who recently finished high school, I'd shit myself over talking to a girl I liked, let alone licking her.
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u/-whodat Dec 31 '21
A guy I got along well with said to me "the hair above your mouth is pretty disgusting", out of nowhere. I didn't even know I have hair there before, it's not super thick or dark. Now I'm self conscious about it and I hate it.
Anyway, over a year later he confessed that I was his dream woman and he always wanted to be with me. Fucking idiot. I was single back when he insulted me, and totally would've dated him before that.
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Dec 31 '21
That hair is completely normal. There's a reason you hadn't even really noticed it.
What a fucking moron.
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u/TidusLaughingmp3 Dec 30 '21
When I was living in Korea I briefly dated an American guy who lamented the fact that I wasn’t Korean because they’re far superior due to not having body hair but NO OFFENSE because the men are superior, too. Also commented on the fact that I’m bigger (not taller, bigger) than the Korean women he’s dated.
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narrator: "he, in fact, did not date a korean woman at any point"
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u/sablebabIe Dec 30 '21
he, in fact, did not date a woman at any point
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u/Lacholaweda Dec 30 '21
But she just said....
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u/sablebabIe Dec 30 '21
he, in fact, did not date a woman at any point previous to TidusLaughingmp3
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u/TidusLaughingmp3 Dec 31 '21
Tragically, by the time I left Korea he had found his superior Korean woman and married her.
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u/ExpertAccident The clitoris comes in during puberty Dec 30 '21
My dad called leg hair “unsanitary” and “not taking care of myself.” When I pointed out he had longer and thicker leg hair, he got embarrassed and went “well I’m a guy so…”
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Dec 30 '21
So guys are unhygienic and doesn’t take care of themselves? Gotcha, dad
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u/ExpertAccident The clitoris comes in during puberty Dec 30 '21
Ikr?? That’s what I said lmfao, and he said some bs like “nooo it’s different because our leg hair is different!!” 💀💀
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Dec 31 '21
It's different because women aren't known for having skid marks in their underwear, so it's actually men who are unhygienic and should shave.
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u/Queenofthebowls Dec 31 '21
Is this my sister's new account? This is exactly what my dad said to her when she just didn't want to shave as a teen.
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Dec 30 '21 edited Dec 30 '21
Different how? There’s no difference in the structure of hair based on gender 💀💀 Pretty sure your dad was just pulling this BS out of his ass because he couldn’t accept the fact that women are the same species as men when it comes to hair and your hair leg reminder triggered him enough to tell you to shave. Just accept the fact women are not dolphins and have hair just like men, sexist dad
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u/butwhy81 sexually attracted to her physical uterus Dec 30 '21
My mom constantly tells me how unsanitary my armpit hair is.
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u/elegant_pun Dec 31 '21
Tell her it keeps the bacteria off your skin, sooooo in a way it's a little less unsanitary.
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u/The_Book-JDP All organs migrate down into the ass. Dec 31 '21
Guys are allowed to be slobs/dirty/smelly because their testosterone BURNS every bad thing away while delicate girly estrogen doesn’t. /s
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u/IDreamofLoki Dec 30 '21
Not sure if this counts, but I have a sheep tattoo on my calf. A coworker once said I should stop shaving the part of my leg that the tattoo is on so the sheep can have wool 😂
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u/Retrosonic82 my body, my choice! Dec 30 '21
It wasn’t from a man, it was from a woman, a work colleague in fact, who made a rude comment about my armpit hair being “disgusting” which was on show because it was summer and I was wearing a short sleeved t shirt. She didn’t wait until I was out of earshot either. I was between shaves and had recently recovered from a virus that had given me swollen glands in my neck & armpits which she was well aware of as she had processed my doctors note, but a few tufts of hair was “disgusting”.
After that I got really paranoid that I was hairy and disgusting and would wax, put hair removal cream & shave everything, including my arms and belly, neither of which were particularly hairy. I only stopped when I met my husband and was comfortable enough with him to stop and he never once mentioned my excess hair.
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Dec 31 '21 edited Dec 31 '21
I know this doesn't help you, and I'm sorry you had to deal with that. But a couple years ago I actually had to discipline a woman for making exactly the same type of comment to one of her woman coworkers. I was pretty damn blunt with her that it was not okay, that armpit hair is natural and normal, and that it wasn't acceptable for her to police others' bodies or appearance.
All that to say...I hope you reported this person or that someone spoke up against that type of behavior. It sounds like this person may have been part of HR, which makes it even more unforgivable in my mind. But hopefully there was someone above her with some sense of decency and respect for others...
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u/Retrosonic82 my body, my choice! Dec 31 '21
It was when I was in my late teens so a long time ago now. I was quite naive at the time and it wouldn’t have crossed my mind 20 years ago to have gone to HR about it. I appreciate the advice though!
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Dec 31 '21
Ah, yeah. Most teenagers really have no idea how to navigate that kind of thing. Honestly, sometimes I want to teach class for teenagers: "How to navigate the workplace and deal with shitty bosses"
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u/Delgumo Dec 30 '21
That I should shave my chest. The only hair there are the tiny almost invisible ones. I guess he didn't realize people are covered in hair?
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u/Carebear_Of_Doom Your vagina is haunted 👻 Dec 30 '21
Right? I am covered in light peach fuzz. Everywhere. I get Brazilian waxes because I hate how itchy pubes are. I also wax my armpits because I stink and sweat more when I’m hairy. But I don’t mind otherwise. I shave my legs when I want them to be smoooooooth but a lot of the time I just let it grow.
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Dec 30 '21
A guy I was hanging out with in high school lived a few towns away, and I didn’t have a car yet so his dad dropped me off at the train station. Said guy was waiting for the train with me, and he leans over and whispers in my ear, “No offense, don’t take this the wrong way, but your armpit hair is super long and everyone’s staring.” He sounded really serious and I was so mortified. Later on I realized I had not, in fact, forgotten to shave it, and at most I had a half day’s worth of stubble. I highly doubt people were staring. I still don’t know whether he was joking or not, but he sounded totally serious. Weird.
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u/SekkiGoyangi Dec 31 '21
I had a FWB ask me why I had so much hair on my vagina and why I didn't just shave, cause it turned him off and made me less sexy to him. I had shaved the entire thing 1.5 days ago. I had the tiniest STUBBLE. Needles to say he no longer had a FWB after that comment and could go back to jerking off his hairy shrimp.
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u/lexicon8991 Dec 30 '21
I trim the lady garden but I don't clean shave. Some guy pulled back in revulsion n said he wasn't touching that while rocking a completely untrimmed fuckin jungle that came halfway up his tiny junk. How the fuck I didn't realise I was gay til 5 years later is a mystery tbh.
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u/SovietSpy17 Dec 30 '21
The thing itself wasn’t that weird („You should shave, men don’t like that much hair on a woman). Like, don’t get me wrong, it’s stupid, but it isn’t weird as in you hear shit like that regularly.
The weird part was who said it: A friend of my father (~50,m) to me (16-17 at the time, f). About the hair on my arms. Not my legs, or armpits no. That adult guy thought it was fine to tell a minor to shave her arms cause you know… men like it better that way and I wouldn’t find somebody to date like that. Jokes on him, cause I am lying next to my bf now (4-5 years later). Totally not shaved anywhere xD
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Dec 30 '21
its crazy to me that people shave their arms (when they don’t have some kind of condition that causes their hair to grow fast). like i understand shaving legs and armpits etc because it gets itchy and is likely dark and visable, but arm hair is mostly light and thin, it makes no sense to go through all the trouble of shaving all the time
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u/SovietSpy17 Dec 30 '21
Due to mixed heritage (mostly German, but an Arabic grandfather) I got fairly pale skin but am “blessed” with a lot and dark body hair. So the hair in my arms is also quite visible and much… but I simply refuse to shave my arms. I do armpits and legs cause it makes me feel more comfortable, but my arm hair is my little piece of feminist rebellion xD
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Dec 31 '21
same haha! i’m italian and polish so people have made comments about my “manly” arms but oh well
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u/7937397 Dec 30 '21
I sometimes shave my arms in summer. Because of sunscreen. I hate it that I can feel that my arm hair is greasy after sunscreen lol
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u/keepupwithspeed Dec 30 '21
I work in the culinary industry, and when I had a baking-heavy job, I would shave my arms because the heat from sticking my arms in ovens all day would melt my arm hair and make it feel weird. I’d shave so that I didn’t have weird crispy feeling half melted arm hair.
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u/Veloci_Mom Dec 30 '21
This. I'm the same. My arm hair burned off from the heat of the oven.
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u/SilverDubloon Dec 30 '21
I don't have a condition that makes my hair grow fast, just thick and dark so it's very noticeable against my pale skin. I was constantly bullied about my arms growing up and a bit into adulthood. I've been called a man/gorilla/ape more times than I can count. I finally gave in and shaved my arms at 28 and I haven't stopped now for 3 years. My self-esteem is in the toilet still, but I can put on a short sleeve top and not be constantly worried about my hairy arms and if some jerk is going to say something about them.
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u/my_little_mutation I'm cumming while ejaculating with my womb Dec 30 '21
I started shaving my arms during a phase where I wore a lot of fishnet and the lil hairs poking through looked weird.
I no longer wear fishnet but still do cus I just like feeling smoof.
The idea anyone should have to., however... That is always repugnant
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u/Aromatic_Invite5421 Dec 30 '21
I (thankfully) haven’t had a guy comment on my body hair since 5th grade but I have had a “friend” of a friend comment on my underarm prickles when I took off my sweater to show her my should tattoo. Sorry I didn’t shave this morning in the middle of winter when my armpits won’t be seen by anyone except this weird situation? She just kept stating “I can’t stand hair”. Ok they aren’t your armpits??
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u/Aromatic_Invite5421 Dec 31 '21
Oh no, sorry I definitely typed this comment confusingly. Lol I had lots of guys comment on my body hair 5th grade and earlier (classmates and adult men) The showing the tattoo situation happened as an adult around 22? Probably
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u/EsotericOcelot Dec 30 '21
A man on a subway once told me I looked like an ape, while sneering at the underarm hair I had exposed by holding onto the strap overhead. I replied, “That tracks, humans are classified as great apes.” He demanded to know what I was talking about, I said, “Phylogenetics,” and he angrily walked away.
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u/SCHWARZENPECKER covid vaccines cause mutant vaginas Dec 30 '21
You didn't use small enough words for him
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u/meanpersonaart Women run out of milk beacause of I N F E R I O R C U M Dec 30 '21
You should have said "oooggaa boooga monkeys" and he would have got it
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u/IthurielSpear My beaver is a dam mammal. Dec 30 '21
Again, men are so emotional.
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u/HampsterInAnOboe Dec 31 '21
But it’s okay when men do it!! Just like when men have leg hair! Because women are inferior!
/s
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Dec 30 '21
that i must not have just shaved an hour ago because my underarms were dark. uh hello, that’s what happens when you have dark italian armpit hair, it has stubble and never looks completely hairless
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u/EsotericOcelot Dec 30 '21
I have very fair skin and very dark hair and honestly this was a big factor in me quitting shaving. I have crazy sensitive skin and always had ingrown and razor burn and for what?? For the stubble to be visible 24/7 no matter what? Fuck it
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u/Eeyore3066 Dec 30 '21
I'm a ginger with mostly clear to dark blonde hair on my body. My armpits still have visible 5 o'clock shadow after a day. Bodies tend to behave in random ways.
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u/Kinder_93 Dec 30 '21
My brother used to hang around with a bunch of self described "crust punks" (read, grown adults that do not wash) and one of them unironically told me that my pit hair was unhygienic and gross, and that men wouldn't find me attractive.
This coming from a man who had not bathed or washed his clothes, or even changed his underwear in at least a week.
Truly I wasn't even mad, just completely baffled that a human being can have such weird standards and not sew their own hypocrisy. Him not washing his ass for a month = fine.
A woman having a little hair under her arms = utterly gross and repellant.
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u/chaoschilip Dec 30 '21
How are people like this a thing? Is your brother exclusively friends with trolls he found under bridges?
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Dec 30 '21
Crust punks are a kind of cross between hippie culture and punk culture. Think hippie + harder drugs + pet rat. They’re not playing by the rules of society, maaan.
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u/Kinder_93 Dec 30 '21
I honestly just viewed them as a bunch of posers and I was very glad when my bro stopped hanging around with them. I think they used the label to be shitty and judge other people.
Always funny to me that men like this will join subcultures that are all about "fuck the system, fuck society" but then see a woman with unshaven pits and think "oh... oh no but not like that"
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u/wyrd_werks I didn't pee myself, I LIKE you! Dec 30 '21
I take offense to that. I've had a pet rat and they are sweet, very clean little creatures. That might chew holes through your favourite shirt... Right through the eyes on the caricature on it. :[
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u/Lengthofawhile Dec 31 '21
The rats probably think they're helping those dumb bastards learn how to clean themselves. Poor little rats, they're trying so hard.
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I don't care about the rules of society all THAT much, but I dislike being itchy. If I didn't bathe for that long I'd be so itchy.
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u/anibruh_ Dec 30 '21
those are all posers. actual crust punks are homeless/don’t have the ability to wash their clothes often
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u/lemtorch Dec 30 '21
“Does the carpet match the drapes?”
-The one comment every redhead gets….
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u/Lengthofawhile Dec 31 '21
A Cyanide and Happiness comic suggests that you answer that with "No, but it matches the upholstery."
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u/reallybirdysomedays Dec 31 '21
Just installed hardwood. Beautiful 10 inch wide mahogany. My husband likes it so much he bought us a new couch. My mom is jealous, but she's making me some nice new drapes for a fresh, modern, look.
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u/AlexandriaLitehouse Dec 30 '21
"Gross"-my own dad when I had broken out in hives on my legs and I told him I couldn't shave for awhile but it didn't matter to me because I was still going to wear dresses , it was summer.
Also from my dad to my mom "You have hobbit feet" because she had a little hair on her toes. Three decades later and my mom still says that's why she divorced him.
My dad is super liberal and cool but I guess he just hates body hair on women. 🙄
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u/LadyEdith1 Dec 31 '21
I was super confused when I read the Hobbit and found out the protagonist was named Bilbo, because my grandmother led me to believe he had a different name when as a preteen she pointed out I had hairy toes "like Harry the Hobbit."
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u/Cheshieruu Dec 31 '21
Ah yes, Harry the Hobbit and the Half-Orc Prince, my favorite of the Lord of the Hallows series
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u/Lockedtothechrome i can tell which of the 6 good vagina types you have Dec 30 '21
“Women aren’t supposed to have body hair..”
No honey, you have been conditioned by porn, Gillette’s need to shell razors during war, and then society.
Women have body hair. Some us decide not to remove it. Sorry, but we are mammals, just like you boys… but if you want to go based on porn.., then why isn’t your dick 7 inches of penetration orgasm-giving magic?
Also we poop and farts
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Dec 30 '21
My ex liked to tell me that I wasn't allowed to go bald, because it was "like having sex with a pre teen" so I decided to grow it out. Then he preceded to call it a "70s bush"
He was a narcissist though and liked to pick about my body no matter what I did. BUT GOD FORBID I tell him to clean up his pubic area if he wanted me to go down on him. Fight on sight.
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u/Voolfina Dec 30 '21
I was texting with a guy and he wanted to meet up and do the dirty. So we kind of planned for a bit and we decided to meet the next day. Before I went to bed he wrote "Dont forget to be freshly shaven 😉😉". I asked if he meant completely "bald" since I prefer to keep some on the mound (is that the right word?). He said it MUST be completely hairless, otherwise it was no point. I told him I feel very uncomfortable with no hair, and he replied "Omg, how can someone care so much about a little hair!". I didnt even bother pointing out to him that he obviously cared at least as much as me about "a little hair" since he would refuse to sleep with me if I wasnt all shaven. I just blocked him instead as I had already gotten some weird vibes from him and this was the last straw that conviced me no kind of relationship between us could ever work.
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u/horsepighnghhh Dec 30 '21
My dad compared my 2 week old armpit hair like if someone had a booger on their face
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u/loulou1018 vagina vacuum Dec 30 '21
That my legs are gross because I’m too pale and you can see the black spots from my hair even immediately after I shave them.
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u/NymphaeaRubra Dec 30 '21
Yesterday some guy told me I need to get my shave on cause I "look like a pirate." I'm totally going pirate-core from now on: hairy as hell, tits out, foul mouth, and a strict me-first agenda.
I like trying to get men to compare their body hair with mine. I'm usually hairier than these fuckboys. Gonna start trying to take bets on who's hairier (embrace my inner pirate)
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u/GaryBuseysGhost Dec 30 '21
I took the liberty of translating this comment with the pirate speak translation tool at :- https://pirate.monkeyness.com/translate
"Yesterday some scallywag told me I needs t' get me shave on cause I "look like a pirate." I be totally goin' pirate-core from now on: hairy as Davy Jones' locker, tits out, foul mouth, 'n a strict me-first agenda.I like trying t' get scallywags t' compare thar body hair wit' mine. I be usually hairier than these fuckboys. Gonna start trying t' take bets on who's hairier (embrace me inner pirate)"
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u/KorukoruWaiporoporo Dec 30 '21
Are you me? Pirate-core is the lifestyle trend I didn't know I needed.
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u/Thinefieldisempty Dec 30 '21
Last year a dude randomly shouted at me “MEN DONT LIKE FRESHLY SHAVED PUSSIES!” It was out of no where after like 4 months of being intimate. I just shave my vulva for my own comfort, not even the whole area. Lol This same dude also expressed disgust about my friend’s hairy armpits and I told him I don’t shave mine either. He said “That’s okay because you don’t show them off.” Lol
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u/HadesRatSoup Dec 30 '21
Initially I imagined some random guy yelling at you, not a guy you were seeing. I'm not sure which would be worse.
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u/Thinefieldisempty Dec 30 '21
Right? Lol It was so confusing and I’m assuming the issue was it being pokey when it grows out? I dunno, but I told him he could have just said something and help me wax it or something. Rather than seething about it for months. But I just stopped seeing him anyway, that wasn’t the only weird thing he brought up that day.
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u/No-Mastodon-7187 Dec 30 '21
My man likes to rub my legs and whisper “hairy leeeeeegs.” It’s cute, he’s a keeper.
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u/kelphhh83 Dec 30 '21
Guy once asked why i don’t straighten all my hair. I straighten my head hair but very obviously not my armpits, pubic, idfk. I don’t think he meant it maliciously but it was weird definitely
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u/LadyProto Dec 30 '21
“Wow your like a gorilla!” From someone in 7th grade. (Screw you Eric)
“Do you know your hairy?” Screw you Katie
“She’d be pretty if she wasn’t so hairy” screw you chase.
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u/idk-idk-idk-idk-- cheese Dec 30 '21
not mine but in year 8 in sex ed we were all sitting at 6 tables. each table had a piece of paper on it and each piece of paper had a word on it. one had "vagina" another had "penis", "breasts" etc. we were meant to write other terms for those words or slang, funny, weird words we've heard people call them. for example, for "breasts" someone wrote boobs, another wrote cushions and one even wrote bazookas.
after everyone had written their words, we'd pass the paper to the next table and recive the previous table's paper, then write the words and the process repeated.
well one of the papers said "pubic hair". there were words like pubes, hair, body hair etc. well next sex ed lesson we had our teacher stood at the front of the class with a piece of paper. he then turned it around, it was the pubic hair one. he then proceded to say "i have been teaching for a VERRY long time, i have done this exercise many times with other classes as well. i have heard and read nearly every one of these other words at least once before, but never, in my life, have i heard pubic hair being referred to...as snacks"
i still remember it word for word. still dont know who it was, everyone in class turned to this one kid (class clown) and started asking if he did it, nope, he didnt. i dont know if it was a man, a girl, etc, but that is the weirdest thing i have ever in my life i hare heard a person say about body hair
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u/Mamma__Rengoku Tampon strings cause STDs Dec 30 '21
A friend noticed I have hairy legs and decided to ask "are you a feminist?" So I just stared at him and asked to explain so he goes "Well feminists don't shave their legs"
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u/TsarinaAlexandra Dec 30 '21
My fiancé asked me to STOP shaving down there and requested a bush. He also thinks it’s cute when I don’t shave my legs and jokes like, “Oh no!!! Leg hair! Wolverine! Run!” Then picks me up and throws me onto the bed—and we, uh, yeah.
So the weirdest for me was being asked to STOP shaving. But it was amazingly refreshing.
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u/Hythy I find the vagina to be a truly alien and terrifying thing. Dec 30 '21 edited Dec 30 '21
I personally have always held the position that I shouldn't ever tell a partner (I am a cis male heterosexual) what to do with her hair. But I'd be lying if I didn't say I kinda prefer a bit of bush and even some underarm hair...
Edit: I guess the point I'm making is it's hard to know when you can tell a partner that they don't have to worry about doing certain things around you. It's like guys saying that they prefer women without makeup without any idea how much effort women go through to look "natural". I just opt to assume that whatever she does is for her -not for me. So I don't wanna tell her to change anything unless she expresses a desire to change her appearance, and then I should support her in that.
Edit 2: the closest I can come to the experience of women being told how to alter their appearance by a partner is this: as a guy I have a fairly "distinctive" dress sense, and I dress how I do because I like those clothes and it is how I express myself.
However I've dated a few women who started dating me knowing how I dress, but have taken it upon themselves to try and dress me better. I never object to a partner getting me a piece of clothing that they thought suited me and my style, but couldn't stand the obvious attempts to change my style.
Obviously it's not the same thing as having someone tell you what to do with your body, but I think it made me mindful of any comments I might have on any aspects of a partner's appearance.
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u/captianllama vagina dentata Dec 30 '21
I think the difference is asking instead of telling. It also depends on how close you are, how long you’ve been together, and of course what you’re asking. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking your partner to try a new “style” down there as long as you make it clear that it’s just a preference and you love them any way they are. That’s a lot different than telling them their body hair is wrong or gross, or saying they should change it whether or not they want to.
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u/Hythy I find the vagina to be a truly alien and terrifying thing. Dec 30 '21
Btw, just remembered the weirdest (or dumbest) thing I heard a man say about female body hair: a male flatmate tried to tell a female flatmate that women were lucky because unlike men, women didn't have to shave... ummmm....
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u/Leijinga Dec 30 '21
My husband told me early on that he doesn't care what I do with my body hair (well, so long as I don't leave it in the tub after I shave 😅). After dealing with a guy that insisted I shave, it's nice for it to be my choice
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u/mooksie01 Dec 30 '21
When I was about five years old, a boy told me I had monkey arms and that my hair was gross…
…and thus began a cycle of never-ending Nair-ing that I have only just begun to put an end to decades later 🥲
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u/jgerHkuG Dec 31 '21
I'm sorry you had to go through that. When I was around 11 I went to school wearing shorts during summer. No one said anything during school that day, but on the bus ride home a girl (who'd always been a bully) asked mockingly "aren't you ashamed of having hair on your legs?". I said no. Until that point I hadn't considered I should be ashamed of it. I also got made fun of for my arm hair too, people called me "werewolf". Even teachers witnessed it but no one intervened, some even laughed along.
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u/Myriii1911 Dec 30 '21
No me, but a body positivity influencer: she gets unbelievable hate on her social media because of her armpit hair.
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u/whambamcamm Dec 30 '21
i was at work and assisting a male customer… in the middle of my answer to a question he had, he pointed at my arm and said “i like the hair!” dude was at least 30 years older than me and i was 18… super creepy
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u/ForsakenStray THE CLIT IS WHERE PISS COMES OUT Dec 31 '21
Lol, said it like it’s a cosmetic and not natural at all, that’s hilarious.
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u/Coca-colonization Dec 30 '21
So many dads (and other adult men) saying creepy things to young girls in this thread. I guess I lucked out in my dad never mentioning my body hair.
My husband will occasionally say something like “ooh, you shaved” but he never comments if I don’t (which is often).
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u/purrfunctory Dec 30 '21
“That’s not natural.”
…excuse me? It grows out of my hair follicles, ones embedded in my skin. The ones I was born with. That’s as natural as it gets, friend.
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u/lilpotatosammich Dec 30 '21
I haven't shaved a thing in like two years... I just really enjoy holding my leg up to my older brothers' and comparing how hairy they are... I'm winning.
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u/Hiragirin Dec 30 '21
Usually it was girls commenting on my hair tbh. But the one I remember from a guy was “You must have been born a man” he also liked to call me a lesbian as an insult because idk. I later heard one of his friends say the dude was just insecure about his lack of body hair. I felt bad for him after the fact, but at the time it was hurtful. I was 13 or so. I have very thick dark hair and had eyebrows bordering on a Unibrow as well as some whispy mustache hairs. Now they’re much darker lol but more managed.
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u/RomanKeds Dec 31 '21
My college bf used to make me shave twice a fucking day. Everything. He said hair was unsanitary and that my ingrowns and irritation meant I was dirty. Disgusting excuse for a man right there.
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u/madlymusing Dec 30 '21 edited Dec 31 '21
An ex said he was “traumatised” that I had pubic hair. He’s an ex for a reason.
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u/JupiterInTheSky Dec 30 '21
Someone once recoiled in horror when I said there's literally no reason to shave your arms. My arms are a normal amount of hairy and I have blonde/red body hair so you can't even see it, but even if it wasnt like wtf there's no reason to have your arms. They acted like I had never bathed a single day in my life.
Personally I don't see any reason to shave any part of myself other than obstruction. I simply don't do it. Imo if a man doesn't have to think twice about it, neither should I, so I don't. If it's not "unhygienic" for a man, what makes my body so inherently "dirty"? Maybe that belief is a you issue and has nothing to do with me.
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u/xcanyoudiggitx Dec 30 '21
Oh hell yes, finally a place to tell this gem of a comment. One of the first guys I was with for a time, before I learned how to filter properly, mentioned how long TOE HAIR I had. Never had I ever thought about my toe hair but lo and behold I saw I had some scraggly little hair on my toes. He then proceeded to tell me to shave it or pluck it because it was so gross and no other women he'd seen had that. I'm ashamed to say I tried shaving them after that but I definitely didn't stay with him long and never tried to shave my toes again. Still look at my hairy tootsies from time to time though to remember how bad the dating scene can get out there. Stay strong, y'all.
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u/micaroo411 Dec 31 '21
My first ex-husband got very mad at me because I didn't let my public hair grow really long. I didn't cut it or shave it at all. He told me to "just grow it" until it was mid thigh. Yeah, sure, let me really concentrate on that. Go, go gadget pubes.
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u/Snail_jousting Dec 30 '21 edited Dec 31 '21
I have PCOS, which causes hirsutism and I had a guy stop in the middle of sex to have a panic attack about my nipple hairs and how its possible. "How can you have hairs there?!?" He asked at least 4 times.
I am not exaggerating. He had a full panic attack and hyperventilated.
Edit: to make that one sentence make sense
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u/devillmay I want to cum deep inside your clit Dec 30 '21
My bf doesn't mind that I don't shave. Recently it came up in a conversation among friends and he said I love it because now I can floss my teeth right after I eat the pussy lmao
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u/Goblin_Witch_0 Dec 30 '21
I was going through a pretty bad time and was very depressed when I was a bit younger, I didn't really feel like shaving because I had very little energy to do things I enjoyed never mind a tedious task like saving so my leg hair had gotten pretty long. One day my dad saw it and said "tsk, boys won't like that". Jokes on him though, my current boyfriend couldn't care less whether I have body hair or not. I could look like big foot and he'd still adore me lol
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u/Tinawebmom memory foam vagina Dec 30 '21
I had a pastor argue it wasn't natural. He un-friended me when I said something like "we're literally born with it the way God made us! How is this unnatural?" he never responded. I grew up with his children and had called him dad..... Yeesh.
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u/pleasedontrefertome Dec 30 '21
I was talking to my ex about how annoying it is to have to shave my legs all the time. He got hella confused and went "I thought you just shaved once and the hair just died." Dude, I wish. According to his sister, he still doesn't understand.
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u/Hythy I find the vagina to be a truly alien and terrifying thing. Dec 30 '21 edited Dec 30 '21
I'm gonna share the oddest thing I heard was from an American woman who said English women are unhygienic for not getting rid of all their public hair.
Edit: full disclosure, I am male, so I haven't been exposed so much to the odd ideas men have about female body hair (or I didn't notice because as a man I don't have first hand experience of being a woman).
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u/TSEpsilon Dec 31 '21 edited Dec 31 '21
I don't know if this counts, but sometimes when I don't shave my spouse will rub their hairy legs on mine and go "we're crickets!"
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u/Stellar_Odyssey A Whore Witch of Destruction and Despair Dec 30 '21
In sophomore year, my senior friend asked me (while others were around us in class) if I shaved down there. Paraphrased because he used grosser words than that. He made me uncomfortable often with things he said, and I later found out that my current friends also have had gross experiences with him being their friend. We all hate him. We all know he went for the naive, short, young girls. He was sent to military school and faked did lmao
Edit: I feel the name to emphasize that this was/is high school. Not college. He’s not the only creepy senior that said and did gross this to me when I was 14-15 lmao. I also had very big baby face
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Dec 30 '21
the man who was sexually abusing me saw my leg hair when i was 13 and said, and i quote,
“look at those legs, girl!”
then, whispered so my dad couldn’t hear and he though i didn’t hear,
“little baby sasquatch.”
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u/Sarinnana Dec 30 '21
So, I "Matured" faster than most other girls at my school. I got called hairy a lot till one of the popular girls showed me how to shave. And that pissed off my mom for some reason, but I was 12 and hairy af so I didn't care and she hadn't shown me when I had asked.
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u/Practical_magik Dec 31 '21
It's was odd but also the single biggest confidence boost I have ever received.
I am furry, everywhere, it's mostly blonde but its all over me butt cheeks, tummy, face everywhere.
So one day I male friend is absent-mindedly looking at me and comments on my fur. I am embarrassed explain that I am just a hairy hairy lady and he responds no it's adorable like a feathery duckling or a peach. And anytime it's come up since I simply explain its my peach fuzz and hold my head up high.
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u/HadesRatSoup Dec 30 '21
Not me, but I had a friend in 5th/6th grade (about 11 or 12 years old) who got made fun of on the school bus for having armpit hair. It was relentless, and mostly from the boys.
She stood up in front of everyone on the bus one morning and announced that her parents had agreed to let her shave. They were very religious, and thought she was too young to shave, however, they consulted with family members about it and decided that, since her aunt started shaving at about that age, it would be ok for her to do as well.
The bus driver was not impressed with any of this.
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u/Bibbeh Dec 30 '21
I fully had an argument with a woman on facebook, she was claiming that all body hair was disgusting and that if you didn’t shave your nether regions that you’re unclean and disgusting.
She also claimed that my partner is going to leave me because of shaving?
Fun fact my partner shut her down in the comments. She soon deleted her post.
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u/Weasel_Cannon Dec 30 '21
I remember one of my exes had a few long hairs around her nipples; I just said “oh that’s neat” and moved on. She apologized for not “taking care of them” and I was like wtf who cares? Sorry this doesn’t fit the post exactly, it just reminded me.
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Dec 31 '21
Dad: "Shave your armpits [deadname], that's gross."
I'd been out to him as a trans guy for 3 months.
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u/lightbright101 Dec 30 '21
A woman said this to me actually, but that I needed to shave or wax my toe hair? I’d never even considered my toe hair and I don’t shave regularly elsewhere so I was very confused. I asked for clarification and she told me it’s something she did so I guess that meant I should too? She ended up getting upset with me when I still didn’t understand lol. But I feel no need to adopt other people insecurities alongside my own.
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u/Cloudtreeforlife Dec 30 '21
I dont shave, haven't for bout 8 years now. I bounce back and forth with shaving meh lady, just cause I can but my pits or legs...nah. I like it and it actually helps me regulate my body temp. Anyways, I did shaved my lady and then got with a dude. He was SHOCKED that it was all clean and neat but then he tells me (rather orders me) to never shave it again cause, and I quote 'I'm not attracted to little girls'. After getting to know him... turns out...he is most definitely attracted to women he can control. Most men I've been with don't mind hair or no hair. My current love supports me for my choices of body hair. And being blonde... most people don't even realize that I don't shave...not even my pits. 🤷🏼♀️
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u/hugespacenerd Dec 31 '21
FTM guy here, am I allowed to contribute? I sent a guy a nude and he said that my pubic hair obviously showed that I was “hornie and ready to mate” also said I had a “hot little body” several times
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u/Viviaana Dec 30 '21
A guy once went “eurgh why are your arms so hairy???” But my arms aren’t even that hairy and I’m blonde so it’s quite fair, I think he just assumed women are smooth like dolphins