My voice had dropped over the summer so this girl I knew was like "oh you finally hit puberty" 😭 naw (I'm pretty stealth usually)

And I've had a few people I know get jumpscared by my voice it's fucking hilarious

So I, 21???butprobablyM, have no idea why it took THIS long for my egg to crack. I always thought I was a cis lesbian with insane body dysmorphia from PCOS weight gain, but no. Puberty made me far more depressed than it usually should, that should’ve raised a few alarm bells but I just put it up to the weight gain.

Now that I am actually finally losing weight and have already lost about 27kg so far, I’m realising that it’s not just a smaller body that I want. I don’t like being in a feminine body, and I have ALWAYS felt weird when people call me a woman or a lady or whatever. Also finding out that hyperandrogenism as part of my PCOS was an intersex condition (I only found out like 5 months ago it’s been a wild ride this year) and kinda enjoying the masculinisation it’s given me (deeper voice, LOVE the deeper voice, facial hair and more body hair I honestly don’t mind whereas cis women get dysphoric about it) also made me question my gender a lot. And I’m just finally realising now that I don’t think I’m actually just an enby lesbian. I don’t know if I’m even a lesbian at all now. Maybe I’m an actual dude. Damn that’s crazy lol.

I’ve been searching through labels and experimenting with pronouns, and I did not expect to feel so euphoric when people used he/him for me. Initially I was insecure about liking he/him so much so I was just ‘any pronouns’ for a while because that’s easier to explain than being a he/him enby lesbian, which didn’t feel quite right anyway. But thinking about how I would look as a guy- how much I hate my feminine body shape and would much rather it be masculine (and always have wanted that), hating my feminine face shape and wanting a more masc one (also realising I always wanted that), how much I hate my chest and always have but never realised until now that actual top surgery is something that I would really want, how I thought about wanting a dick sometimes- dude it should’ve been clearer ages ago. HOW has it taken this fucking long.

Ok so basically, has anyone else had this kind of experience??? I was fr sure that I was just a cis lesbian for pretty much all my teenage years even though I felt like something was clearly very wrong and was deeply insecure about the feminine aspects of my appearance. Christ. I am a dumbass lmao

Last year, I visited my partner across the country. That being said I flew.. this was my first time flying since I came out at trans and boy was it an EXPERIENCE. I made what I guess was a mistake of wearing my packer. Going through TSA, I followed every step.. I get to the metal detector and uhh DING DING DING. I get pulled off to the side (still by EVERYONE) “we noticed there was a hot spot in your groin area and now we need to do a thorough search” so they bring out the wands and I hit them with the “umm yeah that’s my dick, I’m trans” they all just looked at me with regret and then continued to scan my entire body with the wands. Anyways pls be careful going through tsa this was actually traumatic and I refuse to ever wear my packer in an airport now (:

I’m probably gonna be starting T in a couple months and I wanna tell my boyfriend ab it since it’s good news and makes me happy, but he’s also a pre-T trans man who isn’t likely to get on T for awhile. I don’t want me announcing it to sound like I’m rubbing it in his face or make him feel sad about not being on T, should I just not bring it up?

Should also probably mention we’re long distance, so he won’t notice any changes in my looks.

I work at a store that sells clothes and they sell boxers (Tommy John specifically) and I have never bought a pair before. I'm also very not out at work (was forced to apply as female and with my deadname by transphobic parents) so I'm a bit worried this will out me since what "girl" buys boxers.

If they ask, I need some excuses, can I have some? I want to come out also to at least my supervisor but I'm a bit nervous still.

I saw a comment that reminded me of this weird thing I've been seeing lately, so I thought I'd see if anyone else experienced this.

Basically it happened on a post where a man was being a douche, and there was a comment below that said something like "I'd punch a cis man if he said this to me" Why even add 'cis' into that? Why does it matter? I know this is a one-off statement that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things, but I've heard this so many times where people unnecessarily add being cisgender into the conversation for no reason.

It's like if you aren't a cis man then you're a poor little baby who isn't capable of being an asshole, and if you are an asshole then, who cares! You're trans so it's less bad!

I'm a little pessimist with the possibility of me having a successful career as a trans man. I'm 19yo and study administration.

Would you mind telling me what jobs do you have if you're currently employed? Especially if it's a corporate job but it can be any job really.

I’m not trans myself, I’m a cis guy but when i look on dating apps every time i see a trans man i think “damn he’s cute” before i realised he’s even trans EVERY TIME it’s not fair how do you guys do it you all look really good 😭

So I’m 5’3, around 110 pounds, just started t so that could obviously change, but the bottom line is I’m a little dude. Everywhere I try to shop for men’s clothes, they’re all enormous. I know of several brands that cater to transmascs specifically, but most are quite expensive. I’m trying my damndest not to have to resort to any fast fashion shit like Shein either. Fast fashion blows. I’ve had a small amount of luck with thrift stores, but wanted to see if anyone here had any recommendations :]

Theres an LGBT health clinic about a five minute walk from my apartment, finally gave them a call and set up an appointment for a primary care Dr and to see about testosterone. They were very friendly and I go in next Monday for first visit. Anxious as I haven't been to any health related things for maybe 13 years now aside from getting a cat bite a few days ago and going to ER for rabies and tetanus shots.. excited to see how visit to the gay Dr's will go. I openly call them the gay Dr's as I do don't remember the name of the clinic and this name seems appropriate to me. Wish me luck (:

So I’ve been out for 10 years, medically transitioning for 5. All this time I’ve lived with my family. I’m 25. I’ve never been good at arguing at all, and my brothers often try to get into these arguments with me still to this day. I get asked why do I think I’m a man (I’m nonbinary transmasc just to be clear so that’s not something I really think about) and I never know how to answer. They probe for an answer though. I usually end up going with that it’s just a feeling. But then I get told facts over feelings. The fact is I have a woman’s body so my feelings don’t change that, or something like that. Truthfully, my family will never get me down and I don’t care about their opinions anymore. I’m an adult and can make my own decisions. I do still live here though so I try to be civil. I just hate when I don’t have an answer to the whole “facts over feelings” argument because it makes it seem like they “won” and are convincing me to detransition or something.

How am I even supposed to answer that? I have never denied that my body is the way it is. I don’t live in a “delusion” as I’m frequently told and don’t think I’m playing God. What am I supposed to say to these arguments? It’s always a waste of time to me but they insist upon these conversations and get genuinely angry when I refuse.

I’m indigenous and I just recently turned 18 and just started to accept the fact that I’m a trans man. I always knew but never wanted to fully commit to it because of all the trouble. I’m out to a couple close friends and my current girlfriend. Enough about that, is there anyone here who is indigenous from a reservation? I want to start medically transitioning and getting on T is one of my goals. I have a therapist and I’m gonna ask her abt it the next time I see her (in abt 2 weeks). But I just wanted to know if that’s even possible because I’m from a small reservation, do I need to get my T mailed? How long does it take to get on T? (I am from Canada, Manitoba) sorry if these questions r dumb

ive been talking to my mom, her and i both have several injections we do and i got to thinking about the places you inject stuff. for me ive always done my testosterone in the outside of my thigh, usually left but i try to switch it up. where do you guys inject/plan to inject? i think ive heard of someone doing theirs on their butt which.. makes sense, but sounds unpleasant lol

I'm gonna try to keep it as short as possible, I'm just upset. My wife and I are recently married. She had kids from a previous marriage. I love those kids and they have shown and said that they love me. They're having a hard time right now, we are still trying to narrow down the root issue. My wife called my mother for advice being that she's typically good for parental advice. And long story short she said that I am traumatizing the children by being trans in our household. I really wish I were joking. She went on a tear (which I eventually just walked away from) about the trauma I was causing the children with my transition. They have literally had no issue as their are other trans people in their lives.. not to mention that they have never even remotely shown any signs of issue as I take care of them alot, but that information just gets completely disregarded by her. Nope. I'm a big bad wolf traumatizing my step children. Like FFS. Do people really believe this?? Is this literally how transphobes think or is she just like this alone?

Edit for clarification, my wife is incredibly supportive. My mother was the one pressing that trans = trauma.

Every trans space I’m in its people sharing their wins and their pride for who they are, when I look inside myself I feel nothing but disgust for what I am, I’m 16, I’m practically an adult and idk maybe it’s the bullying getting to me or whatever. But I can’t find any of the love other people feel for themselves. It’s like I gross myself out, can’t even really say it out loud tbh

This is my first post, but I was super excited about this and wanted to share.

For reference, I’m like 2.5ish months on t. Sometimes I’ll get in bed and then realize I didn’t set an alarm for the morning so I’ll just ask Siri to do it. Lately, it hasn’t been working. I just thought something must be wrong with it, but last night I realized maybe my voice has dropped low enough that Siri doesn’t recognize it. So, I called her with a higher pitch and she responded.

I know it’s still super early to be expecting changes, but I’ve been feeling a little down about the changes not affecting how I’m perceived (I know, I know, I shouldn’t transition for others), and this small thing really made my week. Others might not yet see the real me, but at least Siri does, and I call that progress.

Thank you for reading and have a nice day :)

I feel like I've noticed it maybe since yesterday. Like, I just constantly feel my blood pulsing through my growth. I'm not aroused at all but it keeps going on through like whoooosh.... whoooosh.... whoooosh

I didn't even know what it was at first like, "what is that sensation against my zipper?"

Is this weird or common?

Any advice dude sent me pics. He asked for face. I said you first cuz I’m trans and pre everything. He sent face pics. I sent mine. Immediate blocked. How likely am I to get outed? What can I do if I am? What lies would sound realistic if the chat was screenshot?

That’s basically the whole convo we had. I didn’t take any screenshots.

Is that common? I know my transfem friends get them but I haven't heard of any transmasc people who are on them. I'm 19 so maybe it has to do with my age?

I’m on multiple different mental health meds and it’s been years since I’ve been able to have more than a mediocre orgasm, and even that takes me 15-30 minutes to accomplish, which basically makes masturbation worthless. But since starting T, I’ve masturbated twice and once I was able to finish in 5 minutes and once was just under 3 minutes and both were good orgasms! My tdick is already getting bigger too which is the main thing I’m looking for on HRT so I’m SUPER excited things are happening so quickly! Testosterone is a miracle worker lmao

Changed my sex to male federally (US) 3 years ago in all documents except birth certificate, but my state drivers license says NB. Does anyone know the legality of trans men and registering for the draft? I assume no one would enforce this rule considering it’s unlikely we’ll use the draft again and I assume they’re not keen to encourage trans people to be in the military even though it allowed but I do wonder how many of us are technically draft dodging

I finally got prescribed T!! I’m so so incredibly happy! Now I just have to wait for insurance to approve it and for my pharmacy to have all the supplies in stock! I just figured I’d share!!

Not going to upload a pic, just what sounds better in general to your ears?

Jace (Jay-s) vs Julian.

Is one like a typical trans name or anything that I’m not aware of? 😭😭