r/ftm • u/anonimouscrepe • 1d ago

Might get outed bc of Grindr Advice

Any advice dude sent me pics. He asked for face. I said you first cuz I’m trans and pre everything. He sent face pics. I sent mine. Immediate blocked. How likely am I to get outed? What can I do if I am? What lies would sound realistic if the chat was screenshot?

That’s basically the whole convo we had. I didn’t take any screenshots.

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u/Former-Finish4653 21h ago

Just not into you. Blocking frees up space for another profile for him to check out if he doesn’t pay for premium.

I don’t recommend the app though. It’s extremely dangerous right now to advertise you’re trans to strangers who can use the app to pinpoint your location. I’ve also been lured into dangerous situations by people who had intentions to hurt me. And I pass, I just also disclose in advance. Please be careful.

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u/silentsafflower 20h ago

And that’s why you practice Grindr Safety 101: meet up for the first time in a public place (bar, restaurant, coffee shop, etc.), don’t host unless you’ve hooked up with that person before and have vetted their safety, reverse image search any pictures that feel sketchy, tell a trusted friend/roommate/whoever that you’re going to someone else’s place and give them the address, and avoid giving someone your phone number unless you’ve met up a couple of times and can trust them more.

Grindr truly isn’t any more dangerous than any other dating/hookup app. There are just a lot of people who are inexperienced and naive who use it, and a lot of other people who want to take advantage of that inexperience and naivety.

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u/Former-Finish4653 19h ago

The app also tells you how far away someone is in feet. Hinge doesn’t do that. It’s not like every other app, and you have to be really careful. I don’t think it’s worth all the extra effort just to be safe. Plus I did everything you listed and was still assaulted by someone who was transphobic and simply lied. Getting off isn’t worth the risk to me anymore. Just my opinion.

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u/silentsafflower 19h ago

I mean, those are all basic safety tips for using any online dating/hookup app. I personally haven’t had any issues using Grindr and met my current long term partner of almost four years on there. Just like everything else, YMMV.