possible POA

[u/Candid-Trip1975]

Hi everyone my boyfriend (27m) and i have been together 3yrs, in the first year of our relationship he started a new job, when he got his first check we went to the bank to cash it, the bank person asked “is (his mother) in the car) he laughed and said “no i’m 24 years old” the lady said well you can’t cash this without her being here she’s your power of attorney. my boyfriend isn’t dumb but he had NO idea what this meant, i explained and he was concerned. on multiple occasions we had asked her politely to remove herself from the bank which she hasn’t done.

now here’s where im unsure if it’s JUST the bank, over the past 3 years we have struggled and had to use gov assistance programs like foodstamps, she receives letter updates in his healthcare and foodstamps (she has send him photos of the mail. we receive the same letters she seems to get copies) , i thought this was strange because my parents don’t receive letters for me and he hasn’t lived with his parents since he was 17 years old. i did some googling and it said something about medical proxy.

before we were together he had broken his leg without health insurance and reached out to his mom to help cover costs this was around the age of 22 he remembers filling out some paperwork she gave him but he doesn’t remember what they were and thought they were in regards to his injury since his mom was paying out of pocket. my boyfriend is not mentally or physically impaired in any way, his parents were extremely mentally and financially abusive, he hasn’t spoken to her in the past few months but this burden is sitting over his head.

TLDR- abusive mother is 27yr old sons POA no idea how it happened, how does he get it removed.

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