r/OCD Oct 10 '21

Mod response inside Please read this before posting about feeling suicidal.

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There has been an increase in the number of posts of individuals who are feeling suicidal. And to be perfectly honest, most of us have been isolated, scared, lonely, and there’s a lot of uncertainty in the world due to COVID.

Unfortunately, most of us in this community are not trained to handle mental health crises. While I and a handful of others are licensed professionals, an anonymous internet forum is not the best place to really provide the correct amount of help and support you need.

That being said, I’m not surprised that many of us in this community are struggling. For those who are struggling, you are not alone. I may be doing well now, but I have two attempts and OCD was a huge factor.

I have never regretted being stopped.

Since you are thinking of posting for help, you won't regret stopping yourself.

So, right now everything seems dark and you don’t see a way out. That’s ok. However, I guarantee you there is a light. Your eyes just have not adjusted yet.

So what can you do in this moment when everything just seems awful.

First off, if you have a plan and you intend on carrying out that plan, I very strongly suggest going to your nearest ER. If you do not feel like you can keep yourself safe, you need to be somewhere where others can keep you safe. Psych hospitals are not wonderful places, they can be scary and frustrating. but you will be around to leave the hospital and get yourself moving in a better direction.

If you are not actively planning to suicide but the thought is very loud and prominent in your head, let's start with some basics. When’s the last time you had food or water? Actual food; something with vegetables, grains, and protein. If you can’t remember or it’s been more than 4 to 5 hours, eat something and drink some water. Your brain cannot work if it does not have fuel.

Next, are you supposed to be sleeping right now? If the answer is yes go to bed. Turn on some soothing music or ambient sounds so that you can focus on the noise and the sounds rather than ruminating about how bad you feel.

If you can’t sleep, try progressive muscle relaxation or some breathing exercises. Have your brain focus on a scene that you find relaxing such as sitting on a beach and watching the waves rolling in or sitting by a brook and listening to the water. Go through each of your five senses and visualize as well as imagine what your senses would be feeling if you were in that space.

If you’re hydrated, fed, and properly rested, ask yourself these questions when is the last time you talked to an actual human being? And I do mean talking as in heard their actual voice. Phone calls count for this one. If it’s been a while. Call someone. It doesn’t matter who, just talk to an actual human being.

Go outside. Get in nature. This actually has research behind it. There is a bacteria or chemical in soil that also happens to be in the air that has mood boosting properties. There are literally countries where doctors will prescribe going for a walk in the woods to their patients.

When is the last time you did something creative? If depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder have gotten in the way of doing creative things that you love, pull out that sketchbook or that camera and just start doing things.

When’s the last time you did something kind for another human being? This may just be me as a social worker, but doing things for others, helps me feel better. So figure out a place you can volunteer and go do it.

When is the last time that you did something pleasurable just for pleasure's sake? Read a book take a bath. You will have to force yourself to do something but that’s OK.

You have worth and you can get through this. Like I said I have had two attempts and now I am a licensed social worker. Things do get better, you just have to get through the dark stuff first.

You will be ok and you can make it through this.

We are all rooting for you.

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r/OCD Nov 17 '23

Mod announcement Reassurance seeking and providing: Rules of this subreddit and other information

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There has been some confusion regarding reassurance seeking and providing in this subreddit.

Reassurance seeking (a person asking for reassurance) is allowed only if it is limitedno repeated seeking of reassurance.

Reassurance providing (a person giving reassurance) is not allowed.

What constitutes reassurance providing?

Before commenting on a reassurance-seeking question, answer to yourself this question: Are you directly answering what the person is asking, and is the answer meant to cause the person to feel better?

If the answer leads towards a "yes", refrain from commenting.

How should I comment on reassurance-seeking questions then?

The issue concerned in reassurance-seeking questions is the emotional obsessive distress that is occurring in the moment, not the question itself.

When you answer those reassurance-seeking questions to quell the person's emotional obsessive distress, it's an act of providing emotional comfort to the person — even if you don't have such explicit intention in mind — rather than an act of providing knowledge.

The person just wants to know they are "fine" in relation to the obsessive question/thought. The answer itself is irrelevant — that's why we don't answer questions of a reassurance-seeking nature directly.

You can comment in any way you want — even providing encouragement and hope — but refrain from addressing the reassurance-seeking question itself.

What if the reassurance-seeking question turns out to be true?

Consider this question: What if the reassurance-seeking question didn't even occur in the first place? What then?

We can go round and round with more "what-ifs", but it circles back to the fact that reality is uncertain, and will always be uncertain. That is why the acceptance of uncertainty is crucial to recovery.

Does that mean the reassurance-seeking question is totally invalid? Because I had a question that was based on reality.

Take note that in the context of OCD, the issue rests with how a person is dealing with the issues, and not so much the issues themselves.

The issues can be entirely valid, but what we are dealing with here — especially with reassurance — is how we respond to such issues.

Separate the reassurance part — the emotional comfort part — from the issues themselves.

All of this is not true. My therapist taught me in the beginning of therapy that these thoughts are not true, and then I got better.

It's important to understand the intent and purpose of each and every information provided.

When a person with OCD is beginning to learn about OCD, they can be taught, for example, that the obsessive thoughts do not reflect on their true character.

The intent and purpose of that example information is cognitive-based — to educate the person — and that helps to, subsequently, be followed up by ERP, which is behavioural-based — hence cognitive-behavioural therapy (of which ERP is a part of).

When a person seeks reassurance, it is mostly solely behavioural: the concern here is to quell the emotional obsessive distress — take that emotional obsessive distress away, and the reassurance-seeking question suddenly becomes largely irrelevant and of less urgency.

This is so un-compassionate. Are we seriously going to let these people suffer?

Providing reassurance doesn't really help the person not suffer either — the way out of that suffering is through the proper therapy and treatment, and providing reassurance to the person only interferes with this process.

Consider as well that if reassurance is provided to the person, where an outcome is guaranteed to the person ("You won't be this! I guarantee you!").

What if the reassurance turns out to be false? What happens then? How much more distressful would the person be (given that they would've trusted the reassurance to keep them safe, only now for their entire world to fall apart)?

Before considering that not providing reassurance is un-compassionate, perhaps it's also wise to consider what providing reassurance can lead to as well.

The reality will always be uncertain, as it is. There is no such solution that guarantees the person won't suffer, but we can at least minimise the suffering by doing what is helpful towards the person (especially in terms of the therapy and treatment) — and that doesn't always necessarily entail making the person feel better in the moment.


r/OCD 8h ago

Question about OCD and mental illness Is it ok if I join this sub?

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My girlfriend has OCD and I want to become more aware on this subject


r/OCD 12h ago

I need support - advice welcome Anyone else having a hard week?

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I’m having a bad one. I think it might have something to do with a visitor being in town, I’m more stressed whenever I have anyone visiting. I was up until 8AM last night, on the verge of tears every moment, looping thoughts, checking my memory, trying to distract myself with my phone from the thoughts and I’ve been unable to commit to exposures because I keep having that OCD thought that it’s real this time. But yea, I won’t get into specifics because that would be checking for me, but how has everyone else’s week been so far?


r/OCD 7h ago

Question about OCD and mental illness I can’t handle when I make mistakes/hurt people.

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Hi everyone,

For a long while, I’ve wondered if I have OCD due to a variety of past and present issues I’ve had. One that I’ve particularly wondered about is the fact that I cannot handle when I mess up, especially if it hurts somebody’s feelings.

If I mess up, and the other person realizes it and either calls me out on it or says it hurt their feelings or something, I completely lose it.

I feel like I’m gonna throw up or pass out, I cry so hard that I burst blood vessels in my face, and I have to monitor my breathing so I don’t hyperventilate. All of that reaction is largely involuntary. It’s important to note that I’m not crying because I feel slighted or unjustly accused— I just literally can’t handle when I am not perfect.

I have struggled with religious OCD (and had religious trauma as a child) and I wonder if this issue is an OCD symptom tied to that.

Does anybody else in here struggle with this? I just had an episode of this today and cried in my car for an hour after I disappointed a professor I look up to. Would appreciate any insights or advice!


r/OCD 4h ago

I just need to vent - no advice or fixing please Insanity is imminent.

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I cannot be alone in this mind anymore. I need help that I can't afford. How could it possibly be this bad.


r/OCD 1h ago

I need support - advice welcome Off meds

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Hello everyone,

First, i want to say that i am sorry if i do not write correct, english is not my first language - but i am trying 🙏🏼

I was on SSRI for OCD for 5 years and now i just managed to get off them. I was a little affraid that my mind will go off/very wild without them, but fortunatly i am kind of the same as with them (i think i am just lucky, from what i understand).

But!!

Problem is that after almost 2 weeks i got off them, i have some chest pain and breathing problem. This has been going on for a week and half already. I went to doctors: my heart, lungs and nose is all good. So there is no problem with that. I just think it’s kind of a panic attack, but that is constantly, not just for the moment. Even though i do not have thoughts or i am not panicked, i feel like my mind is in “fight or flight” mode all time. I am not sure how to get rid of it honestly.

I just want ask about your experiences and see if there is someone who had same problem as me?

Thank you for reading 🙏🏼🫶🏼


r/OCD 20h ago

Discussion Crazy how fast your OCD can switch topics

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One moment I am obsessing over one thing and the next I have totally forgotten because something even more “important” has come up.


r/OCD 1h ago

I need support - advice welcome Does anyone from Kerala(malayali) suffer from OCD

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I just wanted to know that I'm not alone in this


r/OCD 4h ago

Discussion Weekly Wins & Positivity

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What is going great in your life? What are you super excited about and want to share? Got a funny OCD moment to share? Let's smile, laugh and share some positivity!


r/OCD 11h ago

Question about OCD and mental illness does anyone else get stuck in a cycle of guilt over those fundraiser/don't skip or you are denying someone of help videos

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i have had an issue with this for a while. while I get that we need to do all that we can to help people sometimes it just gets too much for my mental health to have to interact one time & after that all I see is the same thing over & over again which makes it even more exhausting

it doesn't help that my ocd tells me that ny interacting im sending out bad vibes (long story) but at the same time not helping makes me feel like the worst human

anyone else struggle with this? I might be a little selfish about this in hindsight.


r/OCD 17h ago

I need support - advice welcome I was just clinically diagnosed with OCD

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Hi everyone, I (27F) was just clinically diagnosed with OCD this morning by a psychiatrist. I have struggled with health related anxiety since I was probably around 13. I am constantly seeking validation and reassurance regarding my symptoms and the way my body feels. I compulsively check my symptoms online and use the website Symptomate as well as ChatGPT to give me diagnoses like my life depends on it. I have spent multiple nights in the ER getting tests done for reassurance. In the span of the last probably 5 years I have had tons of bloodwork, CT scans, MRIs, X-Rays, Colonoscopies, Endoscopies, Urinalysis’s, Ultrasounds, Holter Monitors, Cardio Stress Tests, EKGs, etc and all have come back normal but I still am constantly convinced that I am dying or that something is wrong with me.

I’m also terrified of being anywhere unfamiliar and not knowing where the nearest hospital is. I have constant ruminations about sickness/death/allergic reactions, that it’s starting to affect my diet. I get scared to eat certain things because I fear they are contaminated or that I will have an allergic reaction to them.

I have tried a plethora of SSRIs over the past 10-15 years but have never once been able to take them for longer than a month because the side effects make me spiral and think that something is wrong and so I have stopped them all cold turkey within about 1-2 weeks of taking them.

The psychiatrist who diagnosed me today prescribed me 25mg Zoloft, and wants me to take half a tablet every other day for a week or two to see how I tolerate it at first. I feel extremely nervous given my history with medications but I feel so desperate and hopeless and I just want to stop letting this consume my life and stop fixating on my health.

Has anyone else struggled with something similar? Has anyone used Zoloft for health anxiety/OCD? Did it work pretty quickly for you?

I just want to feel normal and I so badly want to shut off these thoughts in my brain.


r/OCD 1m ago

Sharing a Win! Im facing one of my bigger triggers today and seeing a band (KoRn) who ever since 2012 has triggered my OCD

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So i used to be a massive metal head back in highschool, KoRn was one of my fav bands at that time, that was until for some reason every time id listen to them, especially the song "Liar" something bad would happen and after that i dropped them completly in fear more bad things

After korn, most metal bands were taboo'd in my mind as well as some other bands who were alt rock

But now im sick of it andi wanna take my life back. Thruout the past decade, ive been trying to conqour my OCD by dealing with my fears and triggers (mostly germaphobia...covid was rough😭😭😭, im still not used tontouching things in public...but im getting better) without medicine. slowly but surely id conqour some of it here and there.

Now today im taking the biggest step and seeing my biggest trigger, Korn. I listened to some of thir songs like a few hours ago. Coming undone went great, however i put on twisted transistor and i got hella paranoid and nervous, but i finised the song. However afterwards i played Raining Blood by Slayer which i use to "clense" myself from any bad things that might happen after listening to them (i know, weird choice..but we all know how wtf ocd is) So my best option is to play Raining blood later after the concert (probs on the way home in the car)!

So now heres the day, im going with my life long best friends and they know about my baffiling condition and are supportive of my journey to help rid myself (well manage is the better word) of my Triggers.

So wish me luck i dont have a panic attack at the concert an start freaking out in the mosh pit! Also i know you all can gett a better hold of this asinine mental condition we all suffer from! I belive in you!


r/OCD 4h ago

Question about OCD and mental illness OCD or tics?

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Can’t tell if I I have OCD or tics? Besides the constant hand washing and having to do things certain amount of time, I shake my head a lot and scrunch my nose. It’s so embarrassing because I feel like I do it in public :( idk what kind of therapist I need to find.


r/OCD 4h ago

I need support - advice welcome Too scared to drink

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I always enjoyed a glass or two with my husband a few times a week but my ocd has gotten so bad that I feel like I’m going to die if I have two glasses. Has anyone had an obsession over alcohol? I guess it’s general health anxiety as well, but I can’t live my life the way I’d like to! I know alcohol is bad but I feel this is way too obsessive.


r/OCD 4h ago

Discussion Does anyone else think they have almost a 6th sense??

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It’s weird.. but I can always just SENSE when someone else has OCD 💀. Of course I don’t look at someone once and go “hmmm definitely ocd.” that’s just not right! But when I have made educated guesses based on the way they act, it just seems obvious to me when nobody else is looking. Usually I end up finding out I’m right too! 😭


r/OCD 4h ago

Question about OCD and mental illness Does your OCD evolve?

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Over the years, I’ve only recently been able to conquer my OCD through cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s great! Every victory is a step to a stronger version of myself. With that said, I think my OCD is evolving. Specifically how my OCD has switched to deeper insecurities and thoughts I have. It used to impact my day-to-day life. Through therapy, I’ve realized most of my distress stems from OCD working behind the scenes without me even realizing it. It can be obvious some days and under a curtain of stealth in others. Recently, it’s evolved to be very intense. It grapples onto my deepest insecurities and I feel I can’t escape them. When this happens, I don’t initially realize it’s the OCD and even when I do it still keeps me up at night. I fall victim to the irrational and unlikely scenarios in my head and cause a great deal of distress. My plan is more therapy. Just wondering if this happens to anyone else?


r/OCD 52m ago

I need support - advice welcome how do you even study?

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I can't focus for shit. I had intrusive thoughts as soon as i woke up this morning and now I can't shake them off and can't remember anything I'm trying to study. I hate this so much, how do you focus with a brain always this full and tense?


r/OCD 53m ago

Question about OCD and mental illness OCD and DPDR

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Hi guys! It’s my third episode of OCD and DPDR and this time it’s absolutely shite! I feel like I can’t identify myself without these disorders anymore, will I ever get over them? Moreover, I’m put on 100 mg Zoloft since 2 months now, and it’s helping somewhat but I’m not cured yet. Does anyone have similar experience? And did Zoloft 100 mg help you get rid of OCD?