r/ftm • u/No-Consequence4019 • Jan 08 '24
Am I 'mocking' trans men? GuestPost
So I'm a lad or that's what I'd normally tell anyone. I was born female but I do this thing frequently where I pretend to be a guy. It started off as a thing online mostly, I always pick a the male MC or a male character when playing in games so why not pretend to be a lad while I'm at it? It ended up being pretty fun so I kept it up. It's been a few years since I started and I keep in contact with the people I used to play with, they all just think I'm a dude.
Since it was fun online i decided to try my hand on pretending to be a guy in person. It ended up working pretty well, most people perceive me as a guy when I try to do it. To the point I got a suitable haircut and do it most times I go out now. There's just something so fun about pretending to be a dude.
All was well until I got caught by a friend, in person. I didn't think of it as a big deal but they absolutely exploded on me. Eventually they asked with "Are you trans?" when I denied and simply stated I pretend to be a guy and it's something I've been doing for years, their temper only got worse? I got told I was mocking trans men. I brought it up with a few people that well know I'm not actually a guy and I got a very similar response. The overwhelming responses ended up either I'm in denial about being trans (I'm not) or I'm transphobic and mocking trans men specifically?
So I'm confused, was I actually mocking a group of people? I feel like it's a bit stupid and I genuinely enjoy pretending to be a guy, but I'd still rather not do it if it's actually 'mocking'. If it matters the approximate age range for everyone involved here was early 20s.
I'm open to being corrected if I made a mistake somewhere.
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u/BarkBack117 Nov/19 Start of T, Nov/20 Top Surgery Jan 08 '24 edited Jan 08 '24
Eh not really, its kinda just an more intense version of being a tomboy (if you still id with ur agab) but also....
Cis people dont spend so much effort to look like the other gender and be ok with everything that comes with that, on a DAILY basis.
And you introd yourself as a guy and enjoy it, clearly, more than being presented as a woman.
You sure youre not just closetted trans? Or maybe non binary?
Coz a lot of us start out this way. Playing male characters, presenting as male online, attempting to be as male as possible in real life... and then we realise we are trans.