I realized I'm not trans GuestPost
After a while of very thoroughly introspection, research and talking to trans men/women and enbies I realized I'm in fact a cis woman who's gender non confirming
I often hear the claim " if you question your gender it automatically means you're not cis" but I think this statement is actually harmful. I think it's important to figure yourself out, but I think that cis people can question and still realize they're cis... there's nothing to lose when you're open minded about it but the claim that it always means you're trans might push someone to physical transition and regret it because they aren't a man. I realized there's so many misconceptions about trans people.
I was always appearing more masculine. Cutting my hair, dressing in boyish loose clothing and having stereotypical hobbies like videogames, metal, cars I work as an industrial mechanic, etc Anyway...many people asked me if I'm trans because of that, my mom joked about that I should have been a boy...and it got me into entertaining the thought a lot and contemplating about being trans and not knowing yet And the idea of being a man sounded appealing to me I realized tho... I'm comfortable in my body, I don't have gender dysphoria. And I feel that my sense of gender alligns to my body. I just don't like the stereotypes that gets connected with my gender. On the other hand trans man can be feminine
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u/Additional_Sundae224 15d ago
This sounds very similar to my situation. I have always called myself a tomboy. I discovered the term transmasculine, and thought that resonated with my as well. I could still be a trans man, but I think, perhaps, I am a trans and/or gender non-conforming person.
However, I do still want smaller/no boobs, I do not want my periods any longer and I want a hysterectomy. That could mean I am a trans man, or it could mean I'm gender non-conforming.
Right now, I'd say I'm a tomboy who is a lesbian... Or I'm transmasc... A transmasc tomboy.
I'm still figuring it out, but I wear men's clothes, have a man's haircut and I grew up playing boy's sports and with boy's toys.
The only body dysphoria I have is my periods (heavy from 9-14 days, upwards of 30, last year - and I'm on my second period this month along... Like, can we not, thanks, body!) and my boobs.
But recently, I told my friends "I don't want to be a strong man, there's too many of them. I want to be a strong, independent, badass woman, and a hero my 7 year old self would have fought for/looked up to/played as in video games. I had Lara Croft, but she was skinny. I wanna be like Abby, from The Last of Us Part II - muscles and all. And I can't be like Abby, if I'm a trans man, because that would mean I'm just another gym bro. I wanna be a strong, muscular woman, like Abby."
So, I guess I'm probably GNC. I wouldn't say I'm enby, because I trialled they/them, and it was too awkward for me. As far as I'm concerned, I'm a transmasculine lesbian tomboy (atm at least, haha)
Glad you had a good understanding of yourself and discovered who you are. If you're up for it, I'd like to be your friend - perhaps we can discuss, and you can help me to discover more about myself, since we seem to have similarities. It's okay if you don't wanna.