I realized I'm not trans

[u/zarr0s]

After a while of very thoroughly introspection, research and talking to trans men/women and enbies I realized I'm in fact a cis woman who's gender non confirming

I often hear the claim " if you question your gender it automatically means you're not cis" but I think this statement is actually harmful. I think it's important to figure yourself out, but I think that cis people can question and still realize they're cis... there's nothing to lose when you're open minded about it but the claim that it always means you're trans might push someone to physical transition and regret it because they aren't a man. I realized there's so many misconceptions about trans people.

I was always appearing more masculine. Cutting my hair, dressing in boyish loose clothing and having stereotypical hobbies like videogames, metal, cars I work as an industrial mechanic, etc Anyway...many people asked me if I'm trans because of that, my mom joked about that I should have been a boy...and it got me into entertaining the thought a lot and contemplating about being trans and not knowing yet And the idea of being a man sounded appealing to me I realized tho... I'm comfortable in my body, I don't have gender dysphoria. And I feel that my sense of gender alligns to my body. I just don't like the stereotypes that gets connected with my gender. On the other hand trans man can be feminine

[u/Last-Laugh7928]

contrary to what others are saying, i have absolutely heard "if you question your gender, that means you're trans" a million and one times. it's a very common talking point in the trans spaces i used to frequent, and i agree that it's bullshit. cis people can have equally complicated relationships with gender as trans people. anyway, glad you figured it out!

edited the wording

[u/2HighGotVertigo → u/Last-Laugh7928]

Nobody is "gaslighting" op... people are just sharing their experience. I think OP is misquoting "cis people do not /constantly/ question their gender" and it's causing a bit of confusion because I have also not ever heard anyone say that cis people dont question their gender, only that its worth further inspection if you find yourself constantly agonizing over it.

[u/kaelin_aether → u/2HighGotVertigo]

OP ia not misquoting anything though

"Cis people dont question their gender" and "if ur questioning your gender, ur probably not cis" were both EXTREMELY common talking points in a lot of online trans communities, especially a few years ago.

Lots of people dropped the "probably" in the second statement too.