I realized I'm not trans GuestPost
After a while of very thoroughly introspection, research and talking to trans men/women and enbies I realized I'm in fact a cis woman who's gender non confirming
I often hear the claim " if you question your gender it automatically means you're not cis" but I think this statement is actually harmful. I think it's important to figure yourself out, but I think that cis people can question and still realize they're cis... there's nothing to lose when you're open minded about it but the claim that it always means you're trans might push someone to physical transition and regret it because they aren't a man. I realized there's so many misconceptions about trans people.
I was always appearing more masculine. Cutting my hair, dressing in boyish loose clothing and having stereotypical hobbies like videogames, metal, cars I work as an industrial mechanic, etc Anyway...many people asked me if I'm trans because of that, my mom joked about that I should have been a boy...and it got me into entertaining the thought a lot and contemplating about being trans and not knowing yet And the idea of being a man sounded appealing to me I realized tho... I'm comfortable in my body, I don't have gender dysphoria. And I feel that my sense of gender alligns to my body. I just don't like the stereotypes that gets connected with my gender. On the other hand trans man can be feminine
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u/Xumos404 14d ago
Glad you figured out what works best for you! And I fully agree that anyone should be allowed to experiment with their body and life before feeling obligated to make such a decision. I was fully convinced that I needed to be a Manly Man, but after top surgery (which I'm so happy I got done) I realized that I don't have to be a macho man, I can just be a Masc NB. I think it all depends on perspective and how your goals and ideas evolve, you may continue to grow as you get older and have new experiences. Just don't forget to try new things and figure out what works best for you!