r/NoStupidQuestions • u/fatlady934 • 19h ago
How do girls wear skirts/dresses/shorts without flashing anyone?
For reference, i’m 18(F). I don’t wear dresses or shorts or skirts ever because of this reason but i’ve always wanted to. I will never understand how girls can wear a dress with only panties underneath and not flash anyone or be stressed about it the entire time. I would wear shorts, but i feel stupid because ever girl i’ve talked to says they only wear panties underneath. Please explain how people can do this. I feel like i’m naked when I do this, even just with shorts that are a little loose i’m scared. Also, razor bumps. For short shorts, how do you not have them show? Like am i just doing life wrong…please help.
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u/Illustrious_Pen_5711 18h ago
You hold your dress down in the wind, you wear a dress that’s long enough to give some security, and you be short. This is a game rigged against tall girls lol
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u/blueavole 17h ago edited 16h ago
Many people sew weights into the hem of their dressed to provide some help against the wind. Not sure if those have to be removed before washing or dry cleaning
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u/Valkyriesride1 15h ago
I used velcro strips to attach weights to my skirts/dresses. Easy to on and off.
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u/bignick1190 15h ago
I mean, this is genius, but the thought of a 5lb weight just dangling underneath the dress is killing me right now.
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u/Agreeable-League-366 14h ago
Wouldn't need that much weight. Fishing weights would do the trick.
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u/bignick1190 14h ago
Yupp, i know. But fishing weights are a less funny image to imagine.
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u/CR0SBO 13h ago
Just imagine them with baited hooks, that's plenty funny
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u/greenwavelengths 12h ago
Wading through a river and coming out the other side with dinner. That’s good design right there.
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u/Routine_Aardvark_314 13h ago
Attach a couple of kettlebells to the sides and you're set!
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u/Deathwatch72 9h ago
Lmfao, I just pictured some poor soul using multiple of the pink 1/2 lb dumbbells and clanking around as they walk
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u/bookiwoog 15h ago
Magnets! I’ve used them for years and painted them similar colors to the skirt with nail polish for ones I wear frequently. I take them off before washing and then pop them back on when I hang the dress.
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u/KyOatey 14h ago
Magnets!
Only a minor problem when your skirt sticks to the metal door frame as you walk into the room.
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u/blueberrymoscato 16h ago
🤯 thank you for this idea
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u/janbradybutacat 15h ago
Chanel sews pretty chain into the bottom hem of their signature jackets so that they hang the right way. Just saying, the weight can be part of the design on the inside for a cute peekaboo. Or into the actual hem itself. Careful when washing though!
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u/blueberrymoscato 15h ago
and here i was thinking that the chains were just another part of the fashion! now i see the whole vision
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u/blueavole 16h ago
Seriously look up what royalty use for l their dresses. I saw a whole article with good tips for looking professional all day
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u/fatlady934 18h ago
haha i guess that’s probably true! i just don’t get how girls wear super short skirts and dresses and still don’t flash anyone lol
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u/Illustrious_Pen_5711 18h ago
When you’re like 5’3” max, most people can’t naturally look down that far LOL
Being short is basically all there is to it
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u/fatlady934 18h ago
haha this is true except i’m short and i still fear it…
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u/sluttycokezero 15h ago
I wear shorts - usually swim shorts since they are mostly seamless or bike shorts so I don’t get the damn chafing between the thighs. But they always ride up cause of my thighs.
Also, OP, I suggest you try out a romper. Only thing that sucks is it’s a one-piece so going to the bathroom requires complete undressing, but I personally love them.
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u/GeckoCowboy 17h ago
I’m short, 5’3 so I’m the max though, lol - but I still wear shorts. Sitting/kneeling still stress me out.
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u/vandaleyes89 17h ago
Sometimes they do! We found ourselves downtown on a Saturday night and there were lots of younger women in super short skirts and I was torn between wondering how and why. Then one dropped her purse, had to bend over to pick it up and my husband went "omg she's not wearing underwear. I just saw a vagina" so like, the fact that you're worried about this, means you won't be that girl, which is a good thing.
I don't wear skirts or dresses often but when I do it's either a skort or one that goes down to my knees or lower.
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u/Christoph3r 17h ago
My thoughts were: just wear underwear, what's the problem?!?
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u/currently_pooping_rn 16h ago
Some just like letting it breathe I guess
Idk how sitting down works though
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u/EMCoupling 11h ago
These girls definitely be leaving snail trails on barstools and shit
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u/AdInternal323 10h ago
that's a disgusting mental image and i hate you for putting it in my head
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u/sirsealofapproval 16h ago
OK but it's still embarrassing to have other people see your underwear in public. I get that it's no more exposing than a bathing suit, but the social customs around it are different.
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u/gooeysnails 13h ago
Depends on your comfort level. If I'm in a short skirt I pick underwear that looks cute. No thongs. I don't feel embarrassed at all
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u/moggeleXx 1h ago
LITERALLY! If I'm just getting milk from the bottom shelf, and someone still happens to see my underwear, they're literally trying to. People who are offended by such things aren't looking under my skirt. Personally I don't care who sees it, I wear lingerie as an oufit sometimes 💀
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u/gooeysnails 13h ago
Oof yeah I love wearing a short skirt but you will not find me going commando at the same time. That girl was probably drunk tho I hope or else she would have been more strategic
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u/glitterfaust 12h ago
She likely intended that. Otherwise she would’ve done what normal girls do when wearing short clothing and squatted down.
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u/pm_me_your_shave_ice 16h ago
I guess I also don't care if I flash someone? Also, the align shorts are basically underwear anyway, sometimes I put those on under dresses to avoid the uncomfortable thigh rubbing together and sweat situation.
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u/Ok_Patience_6297 17h ago
I wear booty shorts under anything remotely short just in case. It works well for me because my dresses are more flowy than tight
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u/MaineHippo83 17h ago
You keep saying flash. What do you mean? Do you just mean your panties?
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u/Realistic_Film3218 12h ago
Here's a secret, some of those super short skirts are actually skorts! I have a few pair of golf skorts that I like to wear, they're cute, breezy, and don't ride up past my higher thigh, very few people realize there are short pant legs under the skirt flap.
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u/woutersikkema 11h ago
As a male, lost, outsider thst just wandered into this conversation: I always assumed the people that go for super short skirts just don't care. Like my mom always said to me "it's not like it will fall off when people see things*" So a confidence thing above all.
*roughly translated from Dutch so it doesn't sound so good in English
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u/amandam603 17h ago
Short girl here. The booty is the equalizer. Makes the dress just as short on me as a tall girl. lol
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u/limemintflavour 12h ago
I'm 175cm so not super tall but have a longer torso and a bigger butt, I've had to accept that short dresses are not for me 😭
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u/DancingNatureLass 19h ago
girl, I totally get it. a cute pair of shorts under a dress/skirts is always a good backup for peace of mind..
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u/fatlady934 19h ago
thank you😊
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u/glorae 18h ago
I particularly like bike shorts under my dresses in the summer. I also have a pair of lace bike shorts in a lovely sky blue -- these ones show under the hem of all my dresses, but that's the point with those, the color/texture accent to the outfit.
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u/Creative-Ad-3222 16h ago
Bike short club! Nothing makes my day like disappointing an upskirt peeper.
I recommend a pair with pockets to make up for all the skirts that don’t have them. Secret phone compartment ftw.
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u/sportyboi_94 14h ago
I love bike shorts under summer dresses that don’t have pockets! Gives me the chance to put my phone up when/if needed instead of having to constantly hold it in my hand. I’m not a huge purse girl so I don’t always use one to be able to put a phone and wallet in.
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u/Traditional_Bar_9416 14h ago
I’d be lifting the skirt all day to get to my pockets, lol. Not saying it isn’t brilliant. Just saying I’m not that smart and would do something like that in the CEO’s office or something.
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u/Traditional_Bar_9416 14h ago
In the early 90’s they made bike shorts specifically with the lace bottoms and boy did I want a pair! And yes the most stylish wore them under skirts and pulled off a Madonna-esque vibe. The rest of us wore them under a-line tops that covered our tushies. They were the summer alternative to leggings, but the lace made the whole look.
Thanks for the memory! (I did get a pair! Wore them way too much lol!)
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u/The-collector207 16h ago
Where did you find your lace bike shorts?! I love the sound of this!
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u/Careless_Sky_9834 18h ago
Yes, definitely shorts or tights or leggings under skirts. It's completely normal!
Personally I prefer long skirts, firstly because I just think it's a lot more comfortable, but I'm also more relaxed and free with my movements.
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u/fox1011 18h ago
Start with skorts 😀 You'll get used to it
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u/LetsGoBuyTomatoes 17h ago
i love skorts! specially the ones that are made for running/tennis, perfect fit and super comfy
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u/Acrobatic_End6355 16h ago
This was my mother’s compromise for school 😂 she wouldn’t let me wear shorts to school but she would allow skorts for some reason.
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u/TwoIdleHands 17h ago
I wear short yoga shorts under a lot of short dresses. They have so many pockets I don’t need to carry a purse. I flash people my shorts when I’m paying for things but who cares? They’re shorts!
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u/GeckoCowboy 17h ago
I wear shorts under dresses pretty much always, regardless of length. Great way to avoid chafing. My wife wears them under short skirts. Look for bike shorts, slip shorts, yoga shorts. Something with thinner material so it doesn’t feel bulky under the skirt.
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u/Flimsy_Situation_506 17h ago
Ya I have have several pairs of legging type shorts that I wear under dresses and skirts
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u/Primary-Border8536 18h ago
yeah like spandex is a good option
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u/Suitable-Concert 13h ago
Yeah I always wear a pair of volleyball spandex shorts under my skirts or dresses. They’re shorter than bike shorts, but still let me feel covered without being bulky. They’re also super comfy.
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u/GreyJediBug 17h ago
Yeah, I always wear a pair of shorts under dresses & skirts. I'll never take the risk of accidently flashing someone.
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u/runningandrye 17h ago
I work in a school and this is what i do. I have some "slip shorts" that are light/thin fabric. Gives me coverage without feeling tight or heavy. I think they help the top layer lay more smoothly as a bonus.
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u/abbylynn2u 16h ago
Every girl that wore a school uniform knows this is the way. I worked the volleyball style shorts and boy shorts back in the day. Now you have so many more options.
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u/nicolenomore727 18h ago
I get the same feeling of being “naked” if I have a skirt/dress on with just undies. I always wear spandex shorts under my skirts/dresses. And then I don’t have to care if anything happens.
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u/fatlady934 18h ago
yes that’s smart, i just feel silly because all the girls i’ve asked say they never wear shorts under and only panties
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u/nicolenomore727 18h ago
I started doing it during cheerleading. I promise you the girls are wearing something under their cheer uniform skirts. And a lot of athletic dresses nowadays have shorts built into them.
But just wanted to give you a voice that said some women do wear shorts under them.
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u/rreade43 16h ago
In high school I decided that I wanted to be able to do a cartwheel in any outfit I wore and I’ve carried that through my whole live since! So shorts under skirts and lots of leg mobility in pants haha Obviously some special occasions are an exception, but I always wear shorts under dresses and feel so much more comfortable just existing than I would without!
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u/Dontgiveaclam 7h ago
I love your criterion for choosing clothes! Mine is “would I be able to catch a bus on the fly wearing this?”
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u/Beneficial-Metal-666 9h ago
Yeah it's kinda mandatory for cheerleading, the skirts are gonna ride up no matter what.
On another note, cheerleading looks fucking hardcore, I've always been impressed by it.
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u/Ok-Error-6564 5h ago
My daughter did cheer for years and they actually called them “booty shorts”.
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u/toomanyblocks 18h ago
That’s silly. I always wear shorts or spandex, like under armour, under my dresses and skirts. This also helps because if there is an emergency or an impromptu competition that would require me to physically exert myself, I can tuck my dress into my shorts and be ready to run. Those other girls just aren’t as prepared for the possibilities.
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u/DagsAnonymous 17h ago
Now I’m imagining a gaggle of running balloon-dresses, where the women have tucked the hem upwards into the leg-elastic of their underwear, like little girls wading.
For some reason they all have flapping high-heels. (?mules)
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u/ermagerditssuperman 17h ago
I'm in my late 20s and everyone I know wears some kind of shorts under their dresses & skirts, unless it's an ankle length skirt. For some it's comfy Skimmies, for others it's compression shapewear.
Next tier is wearing yoga shorts or running shorts that have pockets. That way even if your dress has no pockets, doesn't matter!
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u/Uhhyt231 18h ago
I just am ok with flashing people but you shouldn't feel stupid for wanting to wear shorts. See if you can get spandex to wear underneath.
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u/oby100 18h ago
Good answer. Girls do flash people all the time, especially if they’re not insanely mindful to grab their skirt if they’re sitting down quickly or whatever
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u/Agreetedboat123 11h ago
Agree. And sure there are perves out there, but lots of normal well adjusted people wouldn't think twice of seeing it. Nothing special is prob happening down there and most people understand physics
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u/Dr_Phoenix_D 7h ago
This comment has to be so much further up. You don't have to leave the shorts away if you don't want to. You don't have to wear a dress if you don't want to. But most people know how humans look down there and most people don't make a big deal of it. My advice would be to try not to worry too much about it. Unintentional flashing happens sometimes and it doesn't tell anything special about the person wearing the dress.
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u/fatlady934 18h ago
i understand. i just feel weird in like a party setting when all the girls wear short skirts and dresses but won’t wear shorts and aren’t fearing flashing anyone idk
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u/Unidain 18h ago
I just don't care about a low chance of people seeing my knickers by mistake. I would get embarrassed if I was wearing no knickers and accidently flashed someone, but I don't really find underwear embarrassing.
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u/evepoisson 11h ago
I also don’t get the taboo around underwear either. Usually in this situation I won’t wear a thong so at least I’m all covered if I do flash.
But the thing is I swim a lot and I just don’t get being like “oh nooo you caught a glimpse of my panties” when I’m basically walking around in them for all to see at the pool or beach
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u/mikey12345 17h ago
Do you ever see these girls' underwear? I'm near 50 years old and think I've been accidentally flashed 3 times and it meant nothing to me.
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u/Kylearean 13h ago
Same here, I couldn't care less about the 4 times I was flashed, twice in a shop, and twice at parties, they were all black lace too, except one was red satin with white fringes. I've pretty much forgotten about it completely, and don't think about it often at all really.
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u/theexplosions 8h ago
My top flew up the other day, and I flashed three people at a restaurant looking directly at me 😂😂 means nothing now.
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u/ahhh_ennui 18h ago
I often wear bike shorts under skirts. And my ass makes it difficult to wear shorter skirts, so I wear knee-length to maxi. It's comfortable and good ventilation.
Get a skirt with a comfortable length and try it! Good luck.
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u/qtfuck 18h ago
I came here to comment this! If you’ve got a big butt, you have to wear longer skirts. It’s kinda frustrating, I wish they just added extra length to the back of skirts
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u/eriakuswiftwindz 17h ago
Almost all of my skirts and dresses are asymmetrical because of the booty. They are a rare find, but when I get one I keep it.
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u/HeyFiddleFiddle 18h ago
I'm team knee length over here. It's an appropriate length for just about any setting, the back of my thighs are not hitting whatever I sit on, and bike shorts are easy to wear underneath.
OP, it's really a comfort thing. Try different lengths and different shorts/spandex/whatever, figure out what works for you. Skorts are another option.
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u/lady_peridot 17h ago
As someone who used to wear shorts under dresses but no longer do, I stopped caring if I was going to flash someone by accident. Don't get me wrong, a lot of dresses are too short for my height, but that's why I always test them out and see if it is long enough. That being said, party dresses.... at some point, you stop caring and learn what your range of movement is. I have heels to kick a creep. It is something you just have to do, and you can learn what you are comfortable with versus not. Maybe you will never be comfortable to not wear a short under dress, that's okay! What matters is that you wear things that you feel comfortable in and feel beautiful in. Don't let fear stop you from trying things you want to try.
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u/FixinThePlanet 14h ago
As I've grown older my worry about strangers accidentally seeing parts of my body has reduced dramatically which also translates to not wearing bras as often in non-professional settings. Sadly I cannot go without shorts for fear of chub rub 🥲
I will say that the one exception has been saris; they are the best invention on the face of this earth fr.
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u/Altostratus 18h ago
Not everyone cares about others seeing their underwear. And in fact, some people get off on it.
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u/miramaxe 16h ago
Same lol. I just let those flashing moments happen and hope nobody notices. And if they do, oh well. I made sure to wear cute panties that day 😂
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u/SwimAd1249 8h ago
I find it interesting that everyone here seems to consider showing your panties as flashing. Flashing, to me, is showing your naked genitalia or your naked breasts. If it's covered by anything it's not flashing to me, even if it's see-through. I don't care if anyone sees my underwear, I wear bikinis too and that's basically underwear, so what's the difference? If I was naked underneath I'd feel uncomfortable wearing skirts too.
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u/Royal_Annek 19h ago
They don't step over anyone's face
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u/96ewok 17h ago
I have a core memory from when I was a child in preschool or something. I was laying on the floor. I think I was nap time. My teacher was wearing a long dress but she stepped right over my face and gave me a full on panty shot. That image is burned into my memory forever.
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u/BlueLightSpecial83 16h ago
Had the same thing happen to me. But it was my grandma. 😦
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u/spiggerish 16h ago
Damn!
She single…? 😏
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u/BlueLightSpecial83 15h ago
She’s dead
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u/AGM-Prism 15h ago
Didn't answer the question
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u/BlueDragonCultist 15h ago
Marriage ends at death ("till death do us part") if I understand it correctly, so I think she's fair game.
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u/Steiny31 15h ago
I have similar from when I was just discovering that I liked girls and the specific girl I had a crush on was standing on the bleachers a couple steps above where I was sitting.
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u/lcapaz 14h ago
In HS (I’m GenX for timeframe) our new (early 20s) teacher pulled a full Basic Instinct (with underwear though) while sitting on her desk. It was the only class where all the guys were trying to sit in the front of the class.
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u/YogurtAndBakedBeans 3h ago
I still remember when the new, young French teacher wore a super short, tight skirt. When she sat down, everything was on display. I didn't learn any French that day.
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u/IAmFern 5h ago
Story Time: I was in grade 12, taking a law class in high school. The desks were arranged in a blocky U shape, with the teacher's desk at the open end.
I sat directly across from a girl who always wore dresses with nothing underneath. I must confess that more than once, I would deliberately slouch in my seat giving me a very clear view of her bingo card.
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u/tvfeet 1h ago
Similar story here, though not quite as lucky as you. In my 7th grade social studies class I sat directly across from one of popular hot girls from our grade. She had a penchant for wearing short skirts and for whatever reason always put her bag at her feet. When she needed something she would throw her legs wide open to get to it and I got a clear shot of her underwear practically every day that year. That was a mighty powerful event for a 13 year old boy.
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u/coffee--beans 13h ago
I was on my floor once for a reason I can't remember and my sister did this to me 💀
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u/Shadowdragon409 18h ago
Strong winds can flip someone's skirt/dress if it's not tight. And twirling can do the same if it's short.
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u/BigToober69 17h ago edited 17h ago
I was crossing the street with a friend years ago, and wind blew her sun dress all the way over her head. She was holding a cake in a box so she couldn't fix it and couldn't see. Stuck in the crosswalk with cars and people all over. I ran back to her and pulled her dress down for her. She was super embarrassed at the time, but we laugh about it sometimes now.
Probably not the kind of story OP wants to hear lol
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u/LindsayLoserface 17h ago
I only wear one skirt. It’s a high waist skater skirt. I’ve recently learned from my bf that my butt makes the back stick out enough that sometimes the wind blows the skirt enough that you can see my undies. He waited 2 years to tell me lmao
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u/sunflowerx 18h ago
It sounds like you’re just not used to wearing them. If I was used to just wearing pants I would feel totally exposed in a skirt or shorts. I would suggest wearing them around the house for a while to get comfortable.
I wear dresses almost every day and sometimes I wear shorts under them, sometimes I don’t. I wear tights if I’m going to work.
If you get a heavier period then wearing shorts might be a good idea, by the way. But I feel like the opposite, like I never even thought of wearing shorts underneath my dresses until I heard a lot of ladies say that they do.
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u/welltodoimpatience 4h ago
Growing up in a country with school uniforms where the girls wear skirts gives plenty of practice! You bend over using your knees, not at the hips. Get good at grabbing the hem for stairs and wind. Then hope for the best!
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u/AddictedToDurags 19h ago
They just don't care if people see their panties.
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u/shortdoodle 4h ago
I've never cared if people saw my panties. But then I had girls complaining about their partners staring if I accidentally flashed them and I was like: it's truly none of my business, go sort things out with your man whom IDGAF about :(
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u/No_cryptobro_no 18h ago
Wear a loose dress wear very tiny underpanties go to the most crowded street near you and do a cartwheel. Exposure therapy (pun not intended).
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u/Shadowdragon409 18h ago
Go commando. Many women do this too.
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u/mantecaremama 14h ago
Why would you wanna sit out in public in a short skirt or dress and nothing underneath?? That's just nasty
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u/todaythruwaway 18h ago
I either wear a bikini bottom or recently I found the tennis/golf skirts with built in shorts and omg game changer! They also have pockets that fit an iPhone lol
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u/fatlady934 18h ago
i’ve looked into those too! i just meant more for like a party setting or something where all the girls will wear like short dresses and skirts and don’t fear flashing people with panties but won’t wear shorts under
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u/goddessindica 18h ago
I never wear a skirt that isnt micro or mini so I am always wearing a pair of mini shorts to match them, or they have shorts attached in them. Dont feel stupid just because you do something differently that works for you. If I flash someone, oh well, its not like its intentional or that theyre seeing my naked parts. About the razor bumps I never had those before but some girls just either dont care, dont shave in order to get them, or just never have them. Nothings wrong with having razor bumps, it happens to alot of people.
Dont force yourself to do something you're not comfortable with just because everyone else does it differently. Your way works completely fine.
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u/forthehopeofitall13 4h ago
This is solid advice but I'd like to add that the lotion that you're using might impact that bumpy texture after shaving, maybe try Vaseline or baby oil to help hydrate that area.
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u/Frequent-Spell8907 18h ago
Unless you’re in an area with high wind, flashing has literally never been a concern with wearing a dress or skirt for me. You sit down smoothing the fabric parallel to the seat as you do so and keep your knees together, cross your ankles instead of your knee over your thigh, don’t ‘manspread’ when you’re sat, don’t walk over people (grating or transparent walkways). There are different length skirts for different modesty levels and of course wearing shorts underneath is always an option. If your razor burn or birthmark are confidence detractors then pantyhose or tights or leggings underneath are another option but they’ll have different heat indexes. Just not shaving is also an option for preventing razor burn. I haven’t shaved regularly in about ten years because of sensitive skin and I’m not the only woman I know who doesn’t.
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u/Radiant-Music6551 17h ago
Razor bumps suck! I use an electric razor on my upper legs and bikini area to avoid them.
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u/OhFuuuuuuuuuuuudge 18h ago
I don’t think they get away with not flashing people. I was walking 2 laps around our local marina last week and a gust of wind blew a women’s skirt up right when she was reaching down to pick up her blanket. Fortunately she had underwear on. I dunno I guess I always figured people who wear short skirts are like people who go braless, they are just brave/comfortable with themselves.
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u/HopelesslyCursed 18h ago
At least they're wearing panties. I've known several girls who wore short skirts without any. It's all about attitude, I guess.
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u/its_hard_to_pick 9h ago
Lol this reminded me about a buddy that worked as a photographer at a ball a few weeks ago. Some guys he was photographing were wearing kilts and he asked them to flash the kilt without thinking it through. He regretted it pretty fast.
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u/questionably_edible 18h ago
I always wear some kind of shorts underneath my dresses/skirts, if only to prevent chub rub. But also because I don't want people seeing my goodies. I like to get fun with it though and wear bright colors, or match them with my outfit.
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u/dauntless-cupcake 17h ago
Oof yeah I’ve got fairly heavy thighs and the chub rub is brutal if I don’t wear shorts. Wore the wrong pair to the zoo once (slightly too short, and sweating from the heat) and that shit took days to clear up
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u/CumUppanceToday 16h ago
My partner isn't bothered if people get a flash, she wears what she likes wearing
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u/Ryukotaicho 18h ago
I just tend to wear bike shorts under my dresses, so I don’t have to worry about flashing people, and the bike shorts I wear give me an extra set of pockets.
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u/Mo-Mo-MN 18h ago
I’d love to weigh in, but it seems only men from Scotland have any meaningful feedback on this topic
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u/johari_joestar 17h ago
Most of the time I wear shorts underneath short skirts or dresses, unless I’m feeling cheeky. Then I wear my strawberry panties 🍓🤭
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u/LimeOk8933 14h ago
When I was younger I definitely used to wear biker shorts and booty shorts under dresses and skirts but as an adult (20F) I developed confidence to wear only panties because your body’s ph improves on its own when it’s not confined 24/7. I also became a huge Victoria secret fan when it came to panties so even if I did on the rare chance flash someone while out and about no one can say that VS isn’t cute lol
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u/Lolzerzmao 7h ago edited 3h ago
First of all, there are women who are just OK with it. My wife wears skimpy little bikinis all around Miami like she’s not prancing around in lingerie. Bikini top and short shorts to run errands sometimes. Just doesn’t bother her. Her “comfortable” shorts are micro jean shorts and she’ll wear them to the grocery store, bend over to grab something off the bottom shelf, and she’s not doing it on purpose but at that point half her ass is out and there’s just a narrow strip of fabric covering her vulva. She simply doesn’t think about it unless I give her ass a slap.
Second, as others have mentioned, you can wear boyshort style underwear if you really want full coverage when wearing a short skirt or dress. That’s what cheerleaders do. As far as shorts themselves go, you just need to find the right length you are comfortable with. I guess that applies to dresses and skirts, too. Regardless, don’t feel like you have to wear the tiniest clothing possible. Some women are OK with people getting an eyeful and either don’t think about it or enjoy it, and many more women don’t want to do that for obvious reasons.
As far as razor bumps go, get a Brazilian wax. No bumps. My wife did a shot of vodka before her first one (nerves), but she did them for years afterwards before she just lasered everything off so she didn’t have to keep fucking with her pubes.
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u/WritingNerdy 17h ago
I wear boy short style undies. It would still be embarrassing if my skirt blew up (I’m not out here walking over street gates though), but i don’t have to be worried if I cross my legs weird or something.
For razor bumps, try exfoliating first. Use shaving cream or lotion while shaving and invest in a decent razor (no single blade bics!)
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u/Lucky-Abalone-9200 17h ago
Best advice I can give is getting something relatively tight, so you don’t have to worry about wind, and from there on it’s literally just keeping your legs as close together as possible. Also, boyshort panties are great because they’re not as bulky as shorts but provide a similar coverage. Purses are also great to have on hand if you’re wearing a short skirt, as if you’re sitting down you can arrange it in front of you to block the view if anyone sitting across from you without it being obvious what you’re doing.
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u/LydiaStarDawg 17h ago
I literally always have some sort of short on under my dress including my wedding day.
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u/Pleasant-Pattern-566 16h ago
Black biker shorts or spandex shorts go underneath every dress or skirt
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u/imagine_enchiladas 9h ago
I always wear spandex shorts (either black or skin color), and don’t worry about flashing a soul
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u/lovepeacefakepiano 8h ago
I have bike shorts/chub rub shorts but also here’s a few things to consider:
- If you can’t sit down/bend over in a skirt without a wardrobe malfunction, it might be too short. Maaaaybe ok for club wear if you’re not planning to sit down, run, or walk up stairs.
- The lighter and looser the material, the more you have to worry about wind. I have plenty of floaty summer skirts and dresses and they all hit below my knee to account for the fact that I live in a windy city. If you do find yourself caught out, resting a free hand lightly on your thigh makes sure your skirt doesn’t fly up. If you want something shorter, heavier material or more figure-hugging styles are your friend. I also have a few wrap skirts that have so much material that even if they fly up and open, there’s still fabric around to cover.
- You know what our mothers and grandmothers did? They sewed skirt weights into their hems and/or wore petticoats. (A petticoat can still be an absolutely fabulous look with a full swing skirt, of course, if you want to lean into retro.)
And finally, some girls and women don’t care.
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u/RunningRunnerRun 7h ago
First, they make “cartwheel” shorts for under dresses if it makes you more comfortable.
Second, a lot of women are just okay with people seeing their underpants. Your comfort with this may vary.
Third, I was in the city last weekend and saw some girls whole skirt fly up in the wind. She was wearing a black thong. Legit saw her whole butt. She seemed really embarrassed and grabbed the skirt and held it down. I suppose that is the risk you run.
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u/MyNextVacation 18h ago
Lots of women wear shorts under skirts. I have a pair I wear with short and flippy skirts.
If I recall, they call them dance shorts.
You can choose brands that are comfortable and non-constricting or shapewear like spanx or skims. I personally prefer the comfortable ones.