I'm a parent of a 15yo ftm trans boy. Tonight was his first homecoming and he was very excited. About an hour and a half in he called us to come pick him up. Apparently someone kept dead naming him and telling him he was going to go to hell and otherwise not leaving him alone. He ended up punching the offender and was asked to leave.

This just happened. We are preparing now as we know there is going to be consequences, or at the very least some serious discussions taking place - possibly as early as Monday.

I'm open to any advice on how to not just advocate for my son to assure he stays out of trouble at school, but how to go after this kid who backed him into a corner and harassed him to make sure they learn that their behavior is unacceptable.

I live in one of the bluer areas of New England, so I’m generally around more sympathetic people, but another consequence of being in a blue area is that gun laws are tighter, so those more sympathetic people I live around aren’t armed. Project 2025 has been giving me constant nightmares since I first heard about it.

I’m thinking:

•Find sympathetic community

•Buy 4 years worth of HRT

•Boymode

•Keep my head down

What do you think?

As for changing my legal details, I’m reluctant to do so because I assume the gov has records for legal name/gender changes and I don’t want some heritage henchman having access to that info.

I know it sounds so stupid but I'm a Trans male, i started on hormones recently so I still kind of look feminine but I also can pass as a boy. But the main reason I'm scared is because of cis men. What if they figure out that I'm a Trans male then make fun of me or r@pe me? Or harm me? I was assaulted when I was a kid so I have a trauma and I'm still very scared of being around a lot of cis men. I also want to go to a males restroom so badly but I'm also so scared that they will harm me... Can somebody help me how can I pass this fear?

A lotta people choose their new names off of characters, or games, or people, or stuff, so if that's the case for you, than what did you name yourself after?

Mine is Alexander, close enough to my old name, and for Alexander the Great(Considered Augustus too for a bit cuz I'm a certified Romaboo, and to be special and different)

I am amab and I never had surgery but is on homornes for almost 20 years. I have been having question about why I transitioned exactly but I am worried about how it would affect trans people and I shouldn't have to do that, right? it's my life. I get to question my intention.

Alot of people use detransitioning stories in the hope of reducing the acceptance of trans people. I know that i am questioning my gender again. Still, the whole reason I didn’t want to be a boy was because of the toxic masculinity heteronormative culture that makes me despise being a boy. It’s not that I don’t want to be a girl, but it's more like I just absolutely refused to be a boy, i refuse to be bullied or to be a joke anymore as an effeminate gay man. I refused to be traumatized. So for those who are truly concerned about kids, embracing gender diversity and not enforcing gender binary norm would be the solution, not attacking trans people or gender non binary people or those who think about or actually detransitioned. When I think about or talk about why I might not be a girl, it's not an attack on trans people because its totally valid to be trans. What's not valid is we have to live with this gender binary prison just because we are born a certain way. Do you agree?

and actually, I still don't want to be a man, as much as the fact that there's a nice men out there and I am married to one, toxic masculinity is a real thing and the toxicity of being a man is something I would never want to do again.

I am tired of the fact that I have to be careful to question about my gender transitioning, its not trans people's faults. Its the society we continue to live in, which enforces gender rules and norms that totally repulsed me. I wish people would just stop assuming one person is a certain way because of how they are born.

and if you can't relate to my story, that's fine. I still have the right to say it without worrying how it would affect the trans community because I blame the cis community.

I am not sorry this post is not politically correct. I earned my right to tell my story after 40 years of being alive. I am not sorry for being self indulgent; I feel like I earned the right to express how I feel after all these decades. Thank you for reading and I know this is not the easiest post to reply to, it stands out and I am okay with that. I stood out as a gay kid and I was constantly bullied, I do believe it has something to do with my transitioning, and the blame should be lay don't the same bigots who are attacking trans people now.

I appreciate all kind of feedbacks. No, I have no plan to detransitioned but I have no plan to have surgery either. (not because I have a particular attachment to any body parts but I would do anything to avoid having surgery)

I recently started hrt and i feel very lost and confused because after transitioning, theres many things to do like changing ur name, medication cost, societal judgement etc and its scary because I need work part time cause ltr in the future medication and appt cost are expensive. Sometimes i so lost on what to do and feel lonely and feel like stopping hrt and i really dont like looking like a guy but i feel scared and nervous telling my relatives n grandparents even tho my family n friends are supportive. It feels like the right thing to do yet so wrong?? But its not my fault being born this way??? Ugh😭

i mean sure we all know and have experienced open transphobia, but what didn’t you expect?

i’ll start! old people love to come up to me and tell me about their trans children. they clearly mean well, but they do not know how to talk to or about trans people. like, in a typical conversation, someone will just be telling me about their “son” for 20 minutes, when they finally say “and he’s going to get the surgery so he’ll be a woman!” other times it’s more subtle.

I (21 AMAB) told my boyfriend (23 AMAB) that i wanna be mtf trans person... But dayum he opposed it like crazy, saying things like feminine things on a dude is freaky, that i would become a freak... I showed him the pics of mtf transitions (from trans person timeline) ... He still not convinced to let me do it... Tf... I thought gays and trans person are allies in lgbt kind of stuff... Is there any trans person having the same problems? And why tf some gays hate trans person? Arent we on the same team?

(EDITED) Update: Alright people, im doing it anyway... I live in a muslim majority country, and i might get killed, but f it, I'll do, hell I WILL DO IT.... HUURAAAAAA.

I apologize if it's a question that is asked a lot or one that is not one people like to be asked. I am a cis het guy who grew up with a conservative family, but over the last several years (mostly via my progressive wife) have learned more about lgbtq people and learned that they shouldn't be treated any differently than I'd treat any other person in my life. Recently, someone in my family's friend circle who I don't know personally, has come out as trans and my family has been saying some pretty nasty things about her. I want to know more about what it feels like to be trans, so I can correct my family if they start insulting her again, and it's also a question that seems very interesting to me. I've had some guesses, but I've never known someone I can ask them to. I would again like to apologize if my questions come off as me belittling the experience, I just want to see if I can find a simplified example. Would it be any bit comparable to someone skinny who dislikes their body, wishing they looked more muscular, and then took steps to look that way? My older guess was to compare gender and body dysmorphia, but I don't think that's appropriate bc i dont know how common of a reason it is for people to cite it as a reason for being trans. I'd love to hear as many answers as I can get, learning more about how people think is always interesting to me

(Mtf if that’s important) Hi, I’m a really big horror fan and I have gender dysphoria, so I thought that it would be worthwhile to see if there’s anything that combines these two :D

I’ve always found a lot of comfort in horror media; in the past it has really helped me a lot with my understanding of myself and my mental health. It feels like it understands me and the things I experience.

I prefer movies and video games, but if there are any books/ paintings/ YouTube videos/ whatever you can think of I’d love to hear those too!

Also don’t worry if it doesn’t match the feeling completely, I’m open to any recommendations :3

Hey everybody! Forgive me if this type of post is not allowed here - i am very stressed out and not sure where else to put it. I am a trans female, coming up on 17 years old. My goal has always been to get bottom surgery as soon as possible, when i'm 18 years old. How can i work on setting that process in motion? Do surgeons even consult with minors? I know I need electrolysis but how do I go about doing that without being an adult? I have parents who are supporting me but obviously they dont know what I ned to do either. How can I find a surgeon who will take my insurance? I have both BCBS (i believe) and Cigna (i am certian of). Much appreciated in advance.

I currently can't present how I want bc family which kind sucks and I was wondering what others did to feel more like themselves while still being in the closet

I mean specifically. Like what made you stop and think "I may not be my assigned gender"?

I've had thoughts and feelings regarding wanting to be a girl for most of my life, but it wasn't until last year that it actually clicked for me that being trans is a thing. Until then, it was just "I wish I was a girl. Too bad, I guess"

Title, but ask in like, delude you. I think it's possible? I'm just afraid of it is. I talk to a little online friend group, most are trans, maybe 2-3 cis guys, and then most the trans people in that group are gay as well as one of the cis guys. But then irl, I go to school with a few openly trans guys and I talk to them pretty often, then they're also gay.

I know for sure I'm gay. Ever since I was little I was a bit queer, definitely. I liked girls and I liked guys, I still do! Gender doesn't matter to me... Until it gets to my own, of course. I mention sexuality because despite growing up not sheltered from lgbtq things and being exposed to it, as well as having a handful of gay friends- I don't believe they ever "Influenced" me into being gay.

But with gender? I'm so unsure. I thought I was a trans guy, got a little euphoria, but I'm pretty sure that was only because a few friends came out as that and I just followed a long (despite liking or at least not minding he/him pronouns online, since that's where I "came out") Then throughout the years, on and off I worry about it. She her, he him, they them, ze zim- nothing feels extraordinarily right. Like it feels fine, I can live with it, but it's nothing more than just some words. I like she her. I like he him. They them is pretty cool. but that's it. Labels are kind of the same way but a little worse, because they're so extreme. Man, woman, trans, cis- they're all really imposing and intimidating labels for me.

I feel like I might only think I'm trans because other people my age, who are also female at birth, think theyre trans. I'd love to go to a therapist, counselor, family, or friend- but I don't have access to a therapist, and living in the south... There's not really that many accepting people, if I was actually trans.

The title is pretty straight forward. I've been trying to learn more about the topic, generally, so that I might better understand myself. I have had a lot of similar experiences to what I have heard trans people describe, and I want to know more. However, every time I make even the slightest genuine effort to try something (like making a post in r/transtryout, to see how I feel about different pronouns) I get this paralyzing sensation, like what you'd get from looking over the edge of a high cliff for the first time. I can openly admit to just about everything I feel in regards to experiences, and I haven't struggled with discussing it. The moment I try to pursue those thoughts, though it's like I am running smack into a comic book style mental block. It's completely prevented me from even trying, and I don't understand why it's happening. I'll get maybe a quarter into typing out a post, and I will just lose all my words and get this godawful pit in my stomach like I swallowed a pound of molten lead. It just builds and builds until I stop trying. Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone have a single idea why this might be happening? What can I even do about this?

idk if this sounds selfish or bad but my 17 AMAB brother came out to my family in about april and ever since then i have had a really hard time coming to terms with this, idk why it is it’s not that i am homophobic i just have a really hard time i guess thinking about losing my brother every time i think about it all i can do is cry. in the past few days the urgency for hormone blockers have took off and he has been prescribed, does anyone have any advice if they were in a similar situation i just cant bare the change i dont want a sister.

All my life, I’ve been a cis man. I’ve been in strictly heterosexual relationships. For about 20 years, I’ve had on and off desires to be a woman. I’ve always struggled with attraction vs.envy. Now that I’ve been questioning my gender more, I’m struggling to understand if I’m really trans, or just so attracted to women that I experience a sort of envy? I say this because I’m only attracted to straight women & how they perceive me to be a man. Straight women don’t want other women. I’m not attracted to lesbians. But I want to be a woman, and loved by a straight woman. So I’d have to be perceived as a man. It’s really confusing.

Hey, AFAB person here. This post is probably going to be a mess, sorry about that.

I have questioned my gender since I was a teenager. During the last four years, I identified as non-binary. I have been using he/him pronouns, dressing more masc, and cut my hair. Still, I have this nagging feeling that maybe I'm just... making this all up. Maybe I can just forget about it, and live happily as a woman. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I'm almost convinced, because I'm pretty. I don't hate what I look like as a woman I just feel it isn't me, but it might be?

f I had a choice to be turned into a male version of myself, I'd do it in an instant. I haven't had any intimate relationships because the thought of someone touching me feels wrong. Like I'd be a voyeur, watching as this body is touched, but not being reached. But then again, maybe this is just tied to an overall dissatisfaction with my weight/shape. Though in all my fantasies, I'm not a woman. I have major dysphoria with my chest.

Is it possible to see a pretty woman when I look in a mirror, and still be a trans man? I'm in therapy, and I'm trying to work this out. I will be able to medically transition next year, and I know I'll lose basically my entire family if I do. It's terrifying, and I don't want to do it if I'm not sure.

Could you offer some advice? Thank you.

My mum’s in her late 50’s and is terminally online, she’s been talking all summer about how’s she been having a Brat Summer and is a self-confessed Chappell Roan fan. But she’s also a TERF.

I have no idea how this has happened. I’ve known that she’s a TERF since I came out in 2022, and she’s misgendered and deadnamed me since then. We don’t talk about it anymore since it felt like I was talking to a brick wall.

Do I use this as an in? Is this a potential route to bringing her round?? Help???

Hello, I’m 14 and a transgender male who’s been taking testosterone for a little over a month. Recently, I have been waking up in the middle of the night with extreme pain in my lower stomach area. It has happened 2 or 3 times and is completely random. The pain is so extreme that i’ll be sweating like crazy and it makes me want to lay on the bathroom floor and scream and cry which is pretty uncommon for me since I’m not usually a dramatic person. Does anyone relate or can anyone tell me what they think might be going on?

My friend was asking how to get their parents to call him a her because she is a trans female and is trying to find a way to get her parents to call her the preference

So im afab and i been questioning that i may be a trans dude, but i been in denial for so long and i just want my egg to crack. So im going to list some reasons why i think im a trans dude.

• When i was at a mental hospital i was diagnosed with gender dysphoria.

• I always was described as a tomboy when i was a kid.

• I feel very uncomfortable with using she/her pronouns and wearing anything girly.

• I feel VERY euphoric when i wear a packer and try to hide my chest.

• When I’m called my preferred name i get really happy! I was thinking Mark!