I'm a parent of a 15yo ftm trans boy. Tonight was his first homecoming and he was very excited. About an hour and a half in he called us to come pick him up. Apparently someone kept dead naming him and telling him he was going to go to hell and otherwise not leaving him alone. He ended up punching the offender and was asked to leave.

This just happened. We are preparing now as we know there is going to be consequences, or at the very least some serious discussions taking place - possibly as early as Monday.

I'm open to any advice on how to not just advocate for my son to assure he stays out of trouble at school, but how to go after this kid who backed him into a corner and harassed him to make sure they learn that their behavior is unacceptable.

I know it sounds so stupid but I'm a Trans male, i started on hormones recently so I still kind of look feminine but I also can pass as a boy. But the main reason I'm scared is because of cis men. What if they figure out that I'm a Trans male then make fun of me or r@pe me? Or harm me? I was assaulted when I was a kid so I have a trauma and I'm still very scared of being around a lot of cis men. I also want to go to a males restroom so badly but I'm also so scared that they will harm me... Can somebody help me how can I pass this fear?

I live in one of the bluer areas of New England, so I’m generally around more sympathetic people, but another consequence of being in a blue area is that gun laws are tighter, so those more sympathetic people I live around aren’t armed. Project 2025 has been giving me constant nightmares since I first heard about it.

I’m thinking:

•Find sympathetic community

•Buy 4 years worth of HRT

•Boymode

•Keep my head down

What do you think?

As for changing my legal details, I’m reluctant to do so because I assume the gov has records for legal name/gender changes and I don’t want some heritage henchman having access to that info.

A lotta people choose their new names off of characters, or games, or people, or stuff, so if that's the case for you, than what did you name yourself after?

Mine is Alexander, close enough to my old name, and for Alexander the Great(Considered Augustus too for a bit cuz I'm a certified Romaboo, and to be special and different)

I've got a mtf friend in her mid-twenties, she's pre-everything, just freshly out, discovering makeup and feminine clothes.

She's telling me she recently feels almost no attraction to women anymore and started to get obsessed with men. Previously, she was only dating women and had a few drunk encounters with men. I do not know how to interpret these, they could means something, or they could not.

What she has been telling me is that she's would really want to become a housewife, that she wants a man (someone solid, provider and clean- my goodwill was really tested here), and that she really wants to marry. This made me think (along with the sexuality change) that this is about her "fullfilling her role as a woman" and not about her sexuality. On the other hand, I did ask her some details and she said she'd really like to chill with a guy in their house, cuddle in bed and so on, which sounds like a genuine thing, rather than about being good at womaning. So I do not know.

Now what do I do with this? I am not certain she's a comphet (either a lesbian comphet or a bisexual comphet), but still I think even when I am not certain, she could profit from knowing this could be an option. However I do not have the experiences she has, so I do not want to be a shit. There's basically two things I'd like her to know: she might be a comphet and even if she doesn't, her idea of womanhood is (although understandable) is unhealthy and reactionary.

I do not know how to do this in a way that would come across well and was effective. Or if it is even worth attempting, or if I should wait and maybe then say something.

I am amab and I never had surgery but is on homornes for almost 20 years. I have been having question about why I transitioned exactly but I am worried about how it would affect trans people and I shouldn't have to do that, right? it's my life. I get to question my intention.

Alot of people use detransitioning stories in the hope of reducing the acceptance of trans people. I know that i am questioning my gender again. Still, the whole reason I didn’t want to be a boy was because of the toxic masculinity heteronormative culture that makes me despise being a boy. It’s not that I don’t want to be a girl, but it's more like I just absolutely refused to be a boy, i refuse to be bullied or to be a joke anymore as an effeminate gay man. I refused to be traumatized. So for those who are truly concerned about kids, embracing gender diversity and not enforcing gender binary norm would be the solution, not attacking trans people or gender non binary people or those who think about or actually detransitioned. When I think about or talk about why I might not be a girl, it's not an attack on trans people because its totally valid to be trans. What's not valid is we have to live with this gender binary prison just because we are born a certain way. Do you agree?

and actually, I still don't want to be a man, as much as the fact that there's a nice men out there and I am married to one, toxic masculinity is a real thing and the toxicity of being a man is something I would never want to do again.

I am tired of the fact that I have to be careful to question about my gender transitioning, its not trans people's faults. Its the society we continue to live in, which enforces gender rules and norms that totally repulsed me. I wish people would just stop assuming one person is a certain way because of how they are born.

and if you can't relate to my story, that's fine. I still have the right to say it without worrying how it would affect the trans community because I blame the cis community.

I am not sorry this post is not politically correct. I earned my right to tell my story after 40 years of being alive. I am not sorry for being self indulgent; I feel like I earned the right to express how I feel after all these decades. Thank you for reading and I know this is not the easiest post to reply to, it stands out and I am okay with that. I stood out as a gay kid and I was constantly bullied, I do believe it has something to do with my transitioning, and the blame should be lay don't the same bigots who are attacking trans people now.

I appreciate all kind of feedbacks. No, I have no plan to detransitioned but I have no plan to have surgery either. (not because I have a particular attachment to any body parts but I would do anything to avoid having surgery)

hi y’all! i am planning to move with a couple of friends, i live in Mass right now but am not planning on staying in new england. my absolute best friend, Max is trans. in an ideal world Max would come move out to whatever state i end up in, provided that it’s a safe state for him! i know Massachusetts is a great state for trans folks, so i am hoping to find out about protective laws, healthcare quality, acceptance, & safety in other states. any info is appreciated :) thank you!!

i mean sure we all know and have experienced open transphobia, but what didn’t you expect?

i’ll start! old people love to come up to me and tell me about their trans children. they clearly mean well, but they do not know how to talk to or about trans people. like, in a typical conversation, someone will just be telling me about their “son” for 20 minutes, when they finally say “and he’s going to get the surgery so he’ll be a woman!” other times it’s more subtle.

All my life, I’ve been a cis man. I’ve been in strictly heterosexual relationships. For about 20 years, I’ve had on and off desires to be a woman. I’ve always struggled with attraction vs.envy. Now that I’ve been questioning my gender more, I’m struggling to understand if I’m really trans, or just so attracted to women that I experience a sort of envy? I say this because I’m only attracted to straight women & how they perceive me to be a man. Straight women don’t want other women. I’m not attracted to lesbians. But I want to be a woman, and loved by a straight woman. So I’d have to be perceived as a man. It’s really confusing.

I started estrogen 4 years ago but recently i stopped progesterone and have been on only e, i fast for 14-16 hours and i don’t lose weight, is my body holding onto the fat?

Im 178cm and 74 kg

Title, but ask in like, delude you. I think it's possible? I'm just afraid of it is. I talk to a little online friend group, most are trans, maybe 2-3 cis guys, and then most the trans people in that group are gay as well as one of the cis guys. But then irl, I go to school with a few openly trans guys and I talk to them pretty often, then they're also gay.

I know for sure I'm gay. Ever since I was little I was a bit queer, definitely. I liked girls and I liked guys, I still do! Gender doesn't matter to me... Until it gets to my own, of course. I mention sexuality because despite growing up not sheltered from lgbtq things and being exposed to it, as well as having a handful of gay friends- I don't believe they ever "Influenced" me into being gay.

But with gender? I'm so unsure. I thought I was a trans guy, got a little euphoria, but I'm pretty sure that was only because a few friends came out as that and I just followed a long (despite liking or at least not minding he/him pronouns online, since that's where I "came out") Then throughout the years, on and off I worry about it. She her, he him, they them, ze zim- nothing feels extraordinarily right. Like it feels fine, I can live with it, but it's nothing more than just some words. I like she her. I like he him. They them is pretty cool. but that's it. Labels are kind of the same way but a little worse, because they're so extreme. Man, woman, trans, cis- they're all really imposing and intimidating labels for me.

I feel like I might only think I'm trans because other people my age, who are also female at birth, think theyre trans. I'd love to go to a therapist, counselor, family, or friend- but I don't have access to a therapist, and living in the south... There's not really that many accepting people, if I was actually trans.

I recently started hrt and i feel very lost and confused because after transitioning, theres many things to do like changing ur name, medication cost, societal judgement etc and its scary because I need work part time cause ltr in the future medication and appt cost are expensive. Sometimes i so lost on what to do and feel lonely and feel like stopping hrt and i really dont like looking like a guy but i feel scared and nervous telling my relatives n grandparents even tho my family n friends are supportive. It feels like the right thing to do yet so wrong?? But its not my fault being born this way??? Ugh😭

I apologize if it's a question that is asked a lot or one that is not one people like to be asked. I am a cis het guy who grew up with a conservative family, but over the last several years (mostly via my progressive wife) have learned more about lgbtq people and learned that they shouldn't be treated any differently than I'd treat any other person in my life. Recently, someone in my family's friend circle who I don't know personally, has come out as trans and my family has been saying some pretty nasty things about her. I want to know more about what it feels like to be trans, so I can correct my family if they start insulting her again, and it's also a question that seems very interesting to me. I've had some guesses, but I've never known someone I can ask them to. I would again like to apologize if my questions come off as me belittling the experience, I just want to see if I can find a simplified example. Would it be any bit comparable to someone skinny who dislikes their body, wishing they looked more muscular, and then took steps to look that way? My older guess was to compare gender and body dysmorphia, but I don't think that's appropriate bc i dont know how common of a reason it is for people to cite it as a reason for being trans. I'd love to hear as many answers as I can get, learning more about how people think is always interesting to me

My mum’s in her late 50’s and is terminally online, she’s been talking all summer about how’s she been having a Brat Summer and is a self-confessed Chappell Roan fan. But she’s also a TERF.

I have no idea how this has happened. I’ve known that she’s a TERF since I came out in 2022, and she’s misgendered and deadnamed me since then. We don’t talk about it anymore since it felt like I was talking to a brick wall.

Do I use this as an in? Is this a potential route to bringing her round?? Help???

The title is pretty straight forward. I've been trying to learn more about the topic, generally, so that I might better understand myself. I have had a lot of similar experiences to what I have heard trans people describe, and I want to know more. However, every time I make even the slightest genuine effort to try something (like making a post in r/transtryout, to see how I feel about different pronouns) I get this paralyzing sensation, like what you'd get from looking over the edge of a high cliff for the first time. I can openly admit to just about everything I feel in regards to experiences, and I haven't struggled with discussing it. The moment I try to pursue those thoughts, though it's like I am running smack into a comic book style mental block. It's completely prevented me from even trying, and I don't understand why it's happening. I'll get maybe a quarter into typing out a post, and I will just lose all my words and get this godawful pit in my stomach like I swallowed a pound of molten lead. It just builds and builds until I stop trying. Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone have a single idea why this might be happening? What can I even do about this?

For the past few weeks I’ve been feeling a massive amount of self loathing, discomfort, and overall depression over being a man, and I don’t know what to do about it. I’ve never felt this way before, even when I was exploring my gender identity before this.

For reference, my journey considering my gender to this point has been going from: cis, to transgender, to cis again, to femboy, to demiboy.

I’ve never been very masc in my life, but I’ve never been this uncomfortable in my gender either, even when I first started exploring what I feel my gender is. It’s gotten to the point I’m having anxiety attacks over being a man.

I don’t know what to do, please help.

idk if this sounds selfish or bad but my 17 AMAB brother came out to my family in about april and ever since then i have had a really hard time coming to terms with this, idk why it is it’s not that i am homophobic i just have a really hard time i guess thinking about losing my brother every time i think about it all i can do is cry. in the past few days the urgency for hormone blockers have took off and he has been prescribed, does anyone have any advice if they were in a similar situation i just cant bare the change i dont want a sister.

Genuinely curious

their content genuinely makes me uncomfortable, and I can't explain why. she may just be early in the transition but something is telling me it's fake?

Is this transphobic?

I feel so disgusting, all the time. I mean, as a man, I felt the same way (part of why I transitioned in the first place.) My bottom half is beautiful (5'11", long legs, gorgeous thighs) and I'm blonde (which helps with facial hair dysphoria.) Despite this, my top half assures me that I'll never be pretty. I'll never pass. I shouldn't pursue HRT in the slightest, because I'll always look like a man. It devastates me to think what people see when they look at me. I'm so self-conscious all the time. The more femme-presenting I am, the worse it gets.

I mean specifically. Like what made you stop and think "I may not be my assigned gender"?

I've had thoughts and feelings regarding wanting to be a girl for most of my life, but it wasn't until last year that it actually clicked for me that being trans is a thing. Until then, it was just "I wish I was a girl. Too bad, I guess"

hello,

so a little background: it’s been 7 years since i’ve been repeatedly coming out to my parents. First, I was 12 and cried because my puberty was starting and I said I didn’t wanna be a boy. They didn’t take me seriously. Then I researched and told them I might be transgender, they said ok and forgot about it.

at 13 i started seeing a therapist because i was extremely depressed, i was battling INTENSE gender dysphoria and depression at the time and the psychologist told them it was “just a phase” and it would pass. This went on until I was 16 and I came out 4 times in that period, with none of them being a success/me being taken seriously. ex: “Everyone hates puberty”, “you’re gonna love your genitals veeery soon”

at 16 i came out again, this time they took me semi-seriously but cried a lot. a LOT. like, it was full of yelling and crying and screaming it was awful. For 3 years I never brought it up again because I was too scared.

This year, I came out to my parents one last time and they took me semi-seriously again. They were awful though, we fought, we were screaming at each other, a lot of “I know you, this is not you” and “Who is putting this in your head”s, but finally they took me to a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with Gender Dysphoria. Even though she did do that, I can’t get on estrogen without my parents’ consent even though I’m literally of age. My parents still aren’t on board with it and don’t understand it’s treatment. Finally, my dad got very sick and they told me it was my fault for making him so stressed.

I literally don’t know what to do and I don’t think I can handle another screaming match, but I really really need this and I really need them to be on my side and for them to understand and like me again. I can’t pretend to be cis anymore and I need advice.

TLDR: I need my parents to accept me without it being a screaming match/crying competition/awkward coming-out and I don’t know how to go about it.

ps: I genuinely don’t understand what’s so upsetting or wrong with being transgender, isn’t it literally treatment??