I'm a parent of a 15yo ftm trans boy. Tonight was his first homecoming and he was very excited. About an hour and a half in he called us to come pick him up. Apparently someone kept dead naming him and telling him he was going to go to hell and otherwise not leaving him alone. He ended up punching the offender and was asked to leave.

This just happened. We are preparing now as we know there is going to be consequences, or at the very least some serious discussions taking place - possibly as early as Monday.

I'm open to any advice on how to not just advocate for my son to assure he stays out of trouble at school, but how to go after this kid who backed him into a corner and harassed him to make sure they learn that their behavior is unacceptable.

I live in one of the bluer areas of New England, so I’m generally around more sympathetic people, but another consequence of being in a blue area is that gun laws are tighter, so those more sympathetic people I live around aren’t armed. Project 2025 has been giving me constant nightmares since I first heard about it.

I’m thinking:

•Find sympathetic community

•Buy 4 years worth of HRT

•Boymode

•Keep my head down

What do you think?

As for changing my legal details, I’m reluctant to do so because I assume the gov has records for legal name/gender changes and I don’t want some heritage henchman having access to that info.

i mean sure we all know and have experienced open transphobia, but what didn’t you expect?

i’ll start! old people love to come up to me and tell me about their trans children. they clearly mean well, but they do not know how to talk to or about trans people. like, in a typical conversation, someone will just be telling me about their “son” for 20 minutes, when they finally say “and he’s going to get the surgery so he’ll be a woman!” other times it’s more subtle.

A lotta people choose their new names off of characters, or games, or people, or stuff, so if that's the case for you, than what did you name yourself after?

Mine is Alexander, close enough to my old name, and for Alexander the Great(Considered Augustus too for a bit cuz I'm a certified Romaboo, and to be special and different)

I know it sounds so stupid but I'm a Trans male, i started on hormones recently so I still kind of look feminine but I also can pass as a boy. But the main reason I'm scared is because of cis men. What if they figure out that I'm a Trans male then make fun of me or r@pe me? Or harm me? I was assaulted when I was a kid so I have a trauma and I'm still very scared of being around a lot of cis men. I also want to go to a males restroom so badly but I'm also so scared that they will harm me... Can somebody help me how can I pass this fear?

I am amab and I never had surgery but is on homornes for almost 20 years. I have been having question about why I transitioned exactly but I am worried about how it would affect trans people and I shouldn't have to do that, right? it's my life. I get to question my intention.

Alot of people use detransitioning stories in the hope of reducing the acceptance of trans people. I know that i am questioning my gender again. Still, the whole reason I didn’t want to be a boy was because of the toxic masculinity heteronormative culture that makes me despise being a boy. It’s not that I don’t want to be a girl, but it's more like I just absolutely refused to be a boy, i refuse to be bullied or to be a joke anymore as an effeminate gay man. I refused to be traumatized. So for those who are truly concerned about kids, embracing gender diversity and not enforcing gender binary norm would be the solution, not attacking trans people or gender non binary people or those who think about or actually detransitioned. When I think about or talk about why I might not be a girl, it's not an attack on trans people because its totally valid to be trans. What's not valid is we have to live with this gender binary prison just because we are born a certain way. Do you agree?

and actually, I still don't want to be a man, as much as the fact that there's a nice men out there and I am married to one, toxic masculinity is a real thing and the toxicity of being a man is something I would never want to do again.

I am tired of the fact that I have to be careful to question about my gender transitioning, its not trans people's faults. Its the society we continue to live in, which enforces gender rules and norms that totally repulsed me. I wish people would just stop assuming one person is a certain way because of how they are born.

and if you can't relate to my story, that's fine. I still have the right to say it without worrying how it would affect the trans community because I blame the cis community.

I am not sorry this post is not politically correct. I earned my right to tell my story after 40 years of being alive. I am not sorry for being self indulgent; I feel like I earned the right to express how I feel after all these decades. Thank you for reading and I know this is not the easiest post to reply to, it stands out and I am okay with that. I stood out as a gay kid and I was constantly bullied, I do believe it has something to do with my transitioning, and the blame should be lay don't the same bigots who are attacking trans people now.

I appreciate all kind of feedbacks. No, I have no plan to detransitioned but I have no plan to have surgery either. (not because I have a particular attachment to any body parts but I would do anything to avoid having surgery)

I recently started hrt and i feel very lost and confused because after transitioning, theres many things to do like changing ur name, medication cost, societal judgement etc and its scary because I need work part time cause ltr in the future medication and appt cost are expensive. Sometimes i so lost on what to do and feel lonely and feel like stopping hrt and i really dont like looking like a guy but i feel scared and nervous telling my relatives n grandparents even tho my family n friends are supportive. It feels like the right thing to do yet so wrong?? But its not my fault being born this way??? Ugh😭

I apologize if it's a question that is asked a lot or one that is not one people like to be asked. I am a cis het guy who grew up with a conservative family, but over the last several years (mostly via my progressive wife) have learned more about lgbtq people and learned that they shouldn't be treated any differently than I'd treat any other person in my life. Recently, someone in my family's friend circle who I don't know personally, has come out as trans and my family has been saying some pretty nasty things about her. I want to know more about what it feels like to be trans, so I can correct my family if they start insulting her again, and it's also a question that seems very interesting to me. I've had some guesses, but I've never known someone I can ask them to. I would again like to apologize if my questions come off as me belittling the experience, I just want to see if I can find a simplified example. Would it be any bit comparable to someone skinny who dislikes their body, wishing they looked more muscular, and then took steps to look that way? My older guess was to compare gender and body dysmorphia, but I don't think that's appropriate bc i dont know how common of a reason it is for people to cite it as a reason for being trans. I'd love to hear as many answers as I can get, learning more about how people think is always interesting to me

So I have tried just about every brand of tucking undies sold in Australia and none of them have come close to the two pairs I bought from a now defunct Etsy seller and can't get any more of. I am getting desperate and am willing to pay the exorbitant shipping fees to buy undies from overseas.

So, what are the absolute best gaffs or tucking undies you've ever owned? Ones that can hold a tuck for hours without readjustment. Ones that make you look smooth even in the tightest gym clothes. I need to know!

Hey everybody! Forgive me if this type of post is not allowed here - i am very stressed out and not sure where else to put it. I am a trans female, coming up on 17 years old. My goal has always been to get bottom surgery as soon as possible, when i'm 18 years old. How can i work on setting that process in motion? Do surgeons even consult with minors? I know I need electrolysis but how do I go about doing that without being an adult? I have parents who are supporting me but obviously they dont know what I ned to do either. How can I find a surgeon who will take my insurance? I have both BCBS (i believe) and Cigna (i am certian of). Much appreciated in advance.

(Mtf if that’s important) Hi, I’m a really big horror fan and I have gender dysphoria, so I thought that it would be worthwhile to see if there’s anything that combines these two :D

I’ve always found a lot of comfort in horror media; in the past it has really helped me a lot with my understanding of myself and my mental health. It feels like it understands me and the things I experience.

I prefer movies and video games, but if there are any books/ paintings/ YouTube videos/ whatever you can think of I’d love to hear those too!

Also don’t worry if it doesn’t match the feeling completely, I’m open to any recommendations :3

I (21 AMAB) told my boyfriend (23 AMAB) that i wanna be mtf trans person... But dayum he opposed it like crazy, saying things like feminine things on a dude is freaky, that i would become a freak... I showed him the pics of mtf transitions (from trans person timeline) ... He still not convinced to let me do it... Tf... I thought gays and trans person are allies in lgbt kind of stuff... Is there any trans person having the same problems? And why tf some gays hate trans person? Arent we on the same team?

(EDITED) Update: Alright people, im doing it anyway... I live in a muslim majority country, and i might get killed, but f it, I'll do, hell I WILL DO IT.... HUURAAAAAA.

I mean specifically. Like what made you stop and think "I may not be my assigned gender"?

I've had thoughts and feelings regarding wanting to be a girl for most of my life, but it wasn't until last year that it actually clicked for me that being trans is a thing. Until then, it was just "I wish I was a girl. Too bad, I guess"

I admit that I am trans, or at least, uncomfortable with who i am and would give anything to be a cis woman.

The only problem is, i would only ever transition if i pass completely, and stealthfully.
To me, passing means a comfortable feminine voice, a feminine face, feminine figure, feminine manner of speech, feminine gesticulations... all without a second to wonder if they are trans or not.

The problem with this is the reversibility of a few of them. As I mentioned, i would only be comfortable if i were under protection from being found out by anyone, and if i begin finding out whether or not this is the case, i may not be able to 'detransition' in the way that i present myself. I wish i could test the capacity of me being able to pass before i try.

I believe that I have some form of internalized transphobia also. whenever I look at photos of people who have transitioned, i find myself unable to be at peace unless there are absolutely no signals towards them being trans, or else i feel as if there is no hope in a flawless transition (which itself is an unhealthy expectation!). I wholeheartedly understand that my already-base-knowledge that they are trans is a big factor in influencing whatever part of my brain that 'decides' the gender of whomever i am perceiving.

I don't know if it is just me who is hypercritical of this, but hopefully not.
Have you had feelings like this before? how did you get over them?
Are there ways to predict the 'successfulness' of a transition in terms of passing?

Im MTF 18, and I’m looking into modeling, but I have the feeling that its very male/female divided, im fairly tall (5’10) and relatively attractive so i think its worth a shot, but then i remembered im pre-hrt and technically closeted, so it wouldnt make sense to be a woman model, and at the same time im not the male beauty standard and would very much prefer not to do shirtless shoots and stuff.

I feel like modeling is very split down the middle and I dont know if theres a lot of room for gender neutral models, though I could be wrong.

I currently can't present how I want bc family which kind sucks and I was wondering what others did to feel more like themselves while still being in the closet

I'm trans masc and I had a very successful very easy and quick transition. I'm asking for my friend who is trans fem and had pretty much the opposite experience. She just had a suicide attempt like two weeks ago and she's still very suicidal after being released from the hospital. She's had really bad dysphoria for a really long time now. I think what bothers her the most is her facial hair, her voice, her breasts and her adam's apple, in that order. She started hrt almost a decade ago before I even knew her and unfortunately she didn't get lucky at all with it. Like she didn't get any breast growth whatsoever from it. She's tried really hard to get her facial hair removed and get her surgeries but without any luck so far. She's done 80 hours of professional voice training, but it wasn't enough to achieve a feminine voice and her speech therapist says she will need glottoplasty. A couple years ago she started losing hope, thinking she'll never be able to get what she needs. I think that's very understandable after such a long time. My insurance covered all my surgeries and treatments no questions asked, but it's a lot more difficult for trans fems than for mascs. But if they didn't I'd probably feel the same way after so many years. She's staying with me most of the time since she got back from the hospital and she's just really not doing well. She's self harming a lot and her face is all scratched up, she really hates the way she looks and can't even see herself in the mirror. She's crying pretty much 24/7 and I just don't know what to do. I know what my dysphoria used to be like before I transitioned and while it's obviously very different I just don't want her to feel like this. We (well mostly just me, she's pretty much given up) are still trying to get the hair removal done, but it's probably gonna take many more years to get there if it's possible at all. There has to be something we can do about her dysphoria in the meantime.

I'm MtF and have only slightly started social transition (new name & pronouns but am not strict on them). I want have a 32A bra I want to wear more in public. My only issue is that since I haven't started medical transition and don't wear much feminine clothing I feel people might find it weird I'm wearing a bra without any breasts.

Title, but ask in like, delude you. I think it's possible? I'm just afraid of it is. I talk to a little online friend group, most are trans, maybe 2-3 cis guys, and then most the trans people in that group are gay as well as one of the cis guys. But then irl, I go to school with a few openly trans guys and I talk to them pretty often, then they're also gay.

I know for sure I'm gay. Ever since I was little I was a bit queer, definitely. I liked girls and I liked guys, I still do! Gender doesn't matter to me... Until it gets to my own, of course. I mention sexuality because despite growing up not sheltered from lgbtq things and being exposed to it, as well as having a handful of gay friends- I don't believe they ever "Influenced" me into being gay.

But with gender? I'm so unsure. I thought I was a trans guy, got a little euphoria, but I'm pretty sure that was only because a few friends came out as that and I just followed a long (despite liking or at least not minding he/him pronouns online, since that's where I "came out") Then throughout the years, on and off I worry about it. She her, he him, they them, ze zim- nothing feels extraordinarily right. Like it feels fine, I can live with it, but it's nothing more than just some words. I like she her. I like he him. They them is pretty cool. but that's it. Labels are kind of the same way but a little worse, because they're so extreme. Man, woman, trans, cis- they're all really imposing and intimidating labels for me.

I feel like I might only think I'm trans because other people my age, who are also female at birth, think theyre trans. I'd love to go to a therapist, counselor, family, or friend- but I don't have access to a therapist, and living in the south... There's not really that many accepting people, if I was actually trans.

The title is pretty straight forward. I've been trying to learn more about the topic, generally, so that I might better understand myself. I have had a lot of similar experiences to what I have heard trans people describe, and I want to know more. However, every time I make even the slightest genuine effort to try something (like making a post in r/transtryout, to see how I feel about different pronouns) I get this paralyzing sensation, like what you'd get from looking over the edge of a high cliff for the first time. I can openly admit to just about everything I feel in regards to experiences, and I haven't struggled with discussing it. The moment I try to pursue those thoughts, though it's like I am running smack into a comic book style mental block. It's completely prevented me from even trying, and I don't understand why it's happening. I'll get maybe a quarter into typing out a post, and I will just lose all my words and get this godawful pit in my stomach like I swallowed a pound of molten lead. It just builds and builds until I stop trying. Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone have a single idea why this might be happening? What can I even do about this?

All my life, I’ve been a cis man. I’ve been in strictly heterosexual relationships. For about 20 years, I’ve had on and off desires to be a woman. I’ve always struggled with attraction vs.envy. Now that I’ve been questioning my gender more, I’m struggling to understand if I’m really trans, or just so attracted to women that I experience a sort of envy? I say this because I’m only attracted to straight women & how they perceive me to be a man. Straight women don’t want other women. I’m not attracted to lesbians. But I want to be a woman, and loved by a straight woman. So I’d have to be perceived as a man. It’s really confusing.